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Last week, Mr. S and I were throwing around more ideas for the groomsmen. We started talking about Chuck Taylors, and how cool they’d look on all of the guys with their tuxes. I continue to see them in more and more weddings, and I love them! I’m even a wee bit obsessed now with the idea.
And look, Converse even makes “our” green. Thanks, Converse! Since the ladies will already be in green shoes, why not have the gents pop as well in some fancy green footwear? To me it’s only logical, but some of the girls aren’t dying to wear green shoes, so I tend to wonder how much the guys will like wearing green shoes as well…
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We could always go sleek and sophisticated (well, as sophisticated as Chucks can be) and put the guys in black and white Chucks. They still make a statement without the risk of terrifying the guys.
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Unfortunately, we’re not completely sure if all of the groomsmen would ever really wear their Chucks again. We’re guessing there will be a 50/50 chance. So, do we buy them for the guys as their gift, knowing that they may not ever wear them again? If so, what kind of a gift is that? Or, do we ask each of them to pick up a pair (that they may never wear again)? I mean, it seems to be OK to ask the girls to buy shoes, but is it not OK to ask the guys to do the same?
What’s the etiquette here?! The little angel on my shoulder tells me that answer is to not buy or make them buy shoes that they would not want to wear. I’m choosing to listen to the other shoulder for the time being.
Chucks seem to run around $40, so they’re not super expensive if we asked every guy to buy a pair. But if we bought them for the guys, this would probably be our only gift to them. Mr. S really wants to wear them, and he could just wear them and have the guys wear regular black dress shoes… but where’s the fun in that?!
What would you do? Gift the Chucks, ask the guys to buy them on their own, or have your groom wear the Chucks and the rest of the guys wear their own dress shoes?
Another option is to help defray the costs a bit ($20 or so per guy).
Ask them to buy them, or if you really are not comfortable, just have the groom wear the Chucks.
It is expected that the girls buy the shoes to go with their dress. I don’t think it is a big deal to have the guys do the same, since they are not that expensive either.
I love the green Chucks! 
I would ask the guys to buy them. As you mentioned they are not super expensive and how many women have tons of dresses they’re were forced to buy (and not for $40) that they will never ever wear again. I don’t think it’s a lot to ask at that price. If you sense resistance then offer to buy them and make it the only gift. I do think they should all wear them though for the right effect!
I struggled with this, too. We asked our groomsmen to pay suits, and even though we kept costs low, and bought their ties and shirts, I felt guilty. But then I said, whatever! My friends are paying way more than this!
Is it that those guys never wear sneakers, or is it Chucks in particular? I don’t own them but I would wear them if someone bought them for me. Groomsmen are tough to shop for. Sleep on the shoe idea for a while and if you still really want it, make it their gift. Then get them a bottle of their favorite liqour, too. That should balance it out.
In all honesty, I think maybe buy both the gals and the guys their shoes. It’s not the greatest gift because it’s not really personal (in fact some may or already do not like the idea). Then supplement the gifts with something small and super personal. The greatest presents are heartfelt and don’t need to be super expensive.
But, yeh, if you didn’t get it, I love the green and I think it would be awesome if both sides wore it. And honestly, I think the guys probably would slap those babies on at least one more time. They’re sneakers after all. You can do yardwork or something in them.
I really wanted the guys to wear Chucks but Mr. Joey wasn’t interested in that idea.
We were just talking about this. We decided to just put the ring bearers in Chucks and let the groomsman bring their own shoes. They have to pay for the their suits and the bridesmaids have to pay for their dresses. I only think that it is equally fair to have them pay for their shoes or bring their own. Also, I would ask them if they would wear the shoes again….
they’re so cute! yea i don’t think either decision is terrible - honestly my bridesmaids are spending so much i wouldn’t have a problem asking the groomsmen to get a cute accessory of some sort. i guess ask your fh - he knows his groomsmen best.. yea?
What about some fun green socks instead? I don’t think they should count as a gift if the gentlemen won’t wear them again. My fh brings up the silver tie he got as a “gift” to wear in a wedding whenever we talk about wedding party gifts. He wants to get his guys something they’ll like.
If they aren’t the kind to wear the Chucks again, I wouldn’t bother gifting them, particularly in the green. Girls are a lot more likely to find a use for colorful shoes than most guys are.
I love the green shoes for the men! Are you having them rent tuxes, and shoes? Or provide their own shoes and suit? If they have to rent shoes anyway, perhaps supplement the additional cost of the chucks over the cost of the rentals? That way they don’t have to wear shoes that anyone else wore and it won’t be a bigger burden on them. A win-win all around.
If you really want the guys to wear them and know that they probably wont wear them again I would gift them to the guys. Just having the Mr. S wear them and the rest of the guys wear shoes might not look good
Well we are doing chucks as well, but since we don’t have a wedding party it is just FH and my son wearing them. We are getting blue. Look on amazon for discounted pairs or check out Marshall’s I saw some there last night.
I love chucks! Maybe see if Mr. Stiletto can ask around and see what the guy’s response is… they might love to have a fun pair of chucks in their closet! They will look super cute with the girls green shoes!
Your wedding is so similar to mine (green black and white)! Our guys are wearing chucks and that’s FH’s gift to them. We know that they’ll wear them again though (most of them are excited they’re getting a ‘free’ pair of shoes! haha)
My fiance is getting his groomsmen customized Chucks as gifts! You can choose the colors and add their names. If you go this route, you could just make the tongue or the back strip of the shoe green for a hint of your color. I also like the idea of fun green socks!
I think if you’re requiring the guys to wear a certain type of shoes that they’ll never wear again, you should buy them. I think that’s true of anything beyond the suit for guys and the dress for girls- you want it, you pay for it.
In the very early days of our engagement, my husband and I considered eloping. If we had, I was ready to order custom Chucks with our wedding date inscribed on them. They’d have made a great keepsake!
Poll your guys and see what they think. (What a cop-out answer!) I imagine most of them (if not all) would be willing to play along for a day, even if Chucks aren’t their style, and it never hurts to ask.
And if they aren’t thrilled by the idea, your groom can always get a pair to wear at the reception! Who says the bride’s the only one who can switch shoes between the ceremony and dinner?
We are doing the same and I found a good price through ebates.com you can find good prices and then get a rebate after you order. Also there are coupons. I have only seem them for $30 and that is the high end.
You could always go for black chucks and then green socks to liven things up.
Did you already have a groomsmen gift in mind that you know they would like? I think that most gifts are risky because there’s a chance that the recipient won’t like them. I bought my BM’s purses (for everyday) and I started to worry that they may not like them. But I think I would worry about any gift I chose to give them and gifting something that they may use post wedding (even if they just use the Chucks as their lawn mowing shoes) may be appreciated.
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Mrs. Stiletto, Chicago Age and Occupation: 26, Non-Profit/Fundraising Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Engineer and Photographer Engagement Date: March 2, 2008 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: The 19th Century Club About Me: My fiance and I love living in the city of Chicago with our cats Basil and Linus, and vow to never move to the suburbs if we can possibly avoid it! We’ve poured ourselves into planning a wedding that reflects our personal style - modern and high contrast with a vintage twist. Blogging keeps me creative, baking keeps me happy, and grande nonfat no foam sugar free vanilla lattes keep me sane.
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