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It seems like the point of bridal showers are for family and close friends to help the couple get started in their new life together by giving gifts. However, my guy and I already have a house, nice kitchen gadgets, pots/pans, bedding… etc. We’ve talked about how it makes us feel selfish and uncomfortable having these things and then putting our friends and family in the position where they might feel they have to give us gifts. We just want our wedding to be a celebration of our marriage and our new life together, and we want the important people there to enjoy the big day with us.

So it seems unnecessary to have a shower, but we also don’t want to snub people by not accepting wedding gifts. We don’t want to come across as snobs. My mom asked me the hypothetical, “What if someone wants to give you a gift though?” I have heard that some people would consider it rude or feel bad if you deny their offer to host a shower for you. I also thought about not creating a wedding registry, but my mom said there are always going to be people who insist on giving a wedding gift, and it would be better to have at least some kind of registry for them so that they don’t feel they have to give cash.

What do you guys think? Would it be rude to request not having a shower? And for the wedding, we were thinking of accepting donations to one of our favorite charities in lieu of gifts. How would you handle these situations?

FutureMrsR

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