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First, thank goodness for those of you who are already married and still read Weddingbee. Bless you, love you, can’t wait to be just like you. I need your help.
For those of you who wrote your own vows, how long did it take you? Did you wait until just before your wedding day to write them or did you tweak your drafts over time?
I think that mine are written. *GASP* I know, me, Ms. Procrastinator has something done ahead of time, and (get this) with very little drama. I’m finding it difficult to believe too.
But I was perusing my blog and I found a post written last August:
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I’ll admit, I have little patience for pretense or fuss, and I don’t think that my wedding day should be “the best day of my life”. What a sad thought to spend decades in marriage looking back at the day it all began.
On the other hand, I do want it to matter.
I want to feel the awesomeness of the moment as I pledge my life, my future, my love to one single person until I die. In that moment, I want to feel the losses as well as the gains. I want to be aware that I am choosing to never have another first kiss, to sleep with only one man, to be loyal and faithful to one person. I want to knowingly and willingly give up everything I could have for everything I do have. And then, I want to feel the joy of gaining someone else’s loyalty until he dies. I want to want to laugh and run and skip with happiness (happiness I’ve only ever felt with this man). I want to giggle because life’s just so good. And I want to feel the beginning of a new family, of a new life together, of being acknowledged and accepted and ready to move forward as a couple. Not too young, not too fake. Honest.
I thought last night, in the flurry of panicked thoughts, that I want to pledge:
I will be honest, I will be loyal, I will be yours, I will be faithful, I will support you, I will lean on you, I will believe in you, I will believe in us, I will be your proud wife. I will share my people, my life, my love, my pain, my brain, and my heart. I will look forward with you — not back — and I will choose you every day of my life. Together with our god, I ask for help to do and be the best that I can, for you, for us, for our new family.
image from wordle.net
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And, well, I think I’m done!
Now, on to invitations, place cards, table numbers, programs, seating charts, music, and the ceremony. And groom/ groomsmen attire. And updating our wedding website…
Sigh.
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Yea for getting something done! Your words are simple, but no less beautiful, eloquent and meaningful. Thanks for sharing!
I always tear up (or bawl) when I listen to vows.. you words were so simple and true and once again my eyes art work are teary 
We too wrote our own vows. We first read the to each other on our dating anniversary which was 5 months before the wedding. I am so glad we did this. They were very emotional and we were both crying. We also then had time to edit and practice so we were very comfortable standing up in front of everyone reciting them. We knew we had the right balance of funny, sweet and meaningful. I know some might feel this took the spontaneity out of reading them at the wedding but they were still very special and meaningful at the ceremony.
I am sitting here at work (not working obviously) and trying to swallow my tears.
Your words are so heartfelt.
So beautiful, I love attending weddings where the couple chooses to write their own vows!
Isn’t it funny how vows are so personal? I’m rereading those words and thinking that if it was anyone else saying them, they’d seem so… easy. But I’m not so good at “proud wife,” have a hard time sharing my brain and my heart, and struggle not to look back and regret. Sharing my little furry family was a big deal for me, and really sharing my people-family will be hard. They’re MY people. And I don’t always WANT to do my best for him. What about me???? I want to do the best thing for me-me-me!! So really, that’s more of a pledge to do the hard things that’s very unique to me. Funny how vows work, huh?
Miss Cheese,
First of all let me say that I really enjoy your posts, I feel a kindred spirit in a you as a fellow procrastinator!
Second, I love what you have written! Beautiful and heartfelt!
Now you’ve got me teary-eyed thinking about writing (and saying!) my vows, even though I won’t be doing it for 2ish years.
Great job
ugh, my FI doesn’t want to do personal vows. I think he’s afraid to be too personal and end up balling! I’ve been working on him but it’s 28days now and doesn’t look like he’s budging! Think I can add my own without him? Nah probably not….
I agree Miss Cheese. I find myself thinking me-me-me while the FI mostly thinks of me and us. I like your vows and how they symbolize the hardest things for you to share. I think you’ve inspired me on the flow of my vows.
i also found my vows when going through something i’d written in the past! it was a card i’d written to him on our one year anniversary as part of a gift i made him. i read it and the words were PERFECT. =)
I love how heartfelt your words are without being overly wordy or too long - Perfect!!
I love that you didn’t have to smudge it…you found your voice for your vows in your own writing, and at a time when you were only being honest and not trying to be overly romantic or sappy. I love your vows! Kudos!
I LOVE those pledges!! How wonderful to be so open and honest on such a wonderful day!
And I agree, the wedding isn’t going to be the “best day of my life” but it will be a pretty great start to a wonderful life.
Thanks for reminding us all to put it in focus!!
You just reminded me that I need to write my vows, so embarrassing as my wedding is less than two weeks away 
I love Wordle.net! My fiance and I made a wordle and I’m going to project it on watercolor paper and paint it for the backdrop of our church. Then we’re going to frame it and hang it above our bed. Your vows sound awesome! Congrats on getting it done and it being so great.
I love how straightforward your vows are, the words are simple but its obvious they hold so much value and meaning. Great job!
Those are so sweet. I love that they’re simple and direct and not overly flowery!
Your vows are beautiful. Beautifully simple and genuine. I love that. I can only wish that mine would be just as good. I feel the need to start working on them now (the wedding is 3.5 months away, I know I have time but something in me is itching for me to start). Thanks for inspiring me!
P.S. I struggle a lot with not looking back. A lot. It’s work in progress. I’m working on it every day because I don’t expect this to magically go away after we say our vows.
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Mrs. Cheese, Knoxville
Age and Occupation: 29, Engineering Manager
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, CAD Designer
Engagement Date: July 31, 2008
Wedding Date: May, 2009
Blogging Since: October 16, 2008
Venue: Our home and the two acres it sits on
About Me: I’m an emotional girl who loves sentimental things, parenthetical asides, and trying to do things herself. I can cook, sew, am a whiz at planning, terrible at delegating, and totally in love with my fiancé (who will be my second husband but first love of the rest of my life). For our home/ garden/ DIY wedding, we’ll be moonlighting as interior designers, home improvers, and gardeners with the help of our fabulous friends and neighbors. We can’t wait to be married, and are learning how fun getting married can be.
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