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Tomorrow I’m headed home on a whirlwind weekend trip to Chicago for my cousin’s schmancy wedding at the Ritz Carlton! I think I’ve mentioned before that I’ve not been to more than a handful of weddings in my day, and most of them were uber-budgety (and lovely) affairs… so the idea of attending a platinum wedding is very exciting to me.
The bride comes from a huge Italian family, and she’s had to fight to limit her guest list because her dad would like for it to be over 300 guests. I wonder how many people one must invite to end up with a party of 300 people?
We’ve been in the process of finalizing our own guest list, as we’re nearing time to distribute invitations (eeeep!), and we’re completely at a loss for anticipating the actual attendance vs. the amount of people we invite. It’s generally a leap of faith, it seems.
We’re hoping to keep the head count to 105, per our arrangement with The Bungalow Club. Family is all included by default, but deciding who to invite and who to leave out among friends is a decidedly un-fun, yet sadly necessary part of wedding planning. Right now our invite list consists of about 180 folks. I’d heard of creating a ’likelihood to attend report’, in which you rate each guest’s likelihood to attend by assigning them a percentage, and then you average those percentages out by dividing this number by the number of invitees.
When we tried, it said we could expect a 60% attendance rate, probably due to the large amount of out-of-town guests on our list. Hmmm. We may need to invite more people, yo!
So, we’ve started a “stand-by list” of friends we’d love to have come, but for one reason or another didn’t make the initial “boarding pass list”. Not that we love them any less, but a contingency plan seems to be in order, considering that if we fall under 105 guests, we still have to pay for them. Better to have seats filled than empty, right?
How did you evaluate your guest list? Were you surprised by the number of yes or no RSVPs? How so?
I’ve been told by some of my friends who have married within that last year that you can expect about a 75% rate of acceptance, for the most part.
I thought that I would exclude family from that number, as generally family attends, but one of my maids had close family that didn’t attend.
So maybe it’s just all up in the air and my comment doesn’t really help any…
Good luck!
105 people! I am so jealous!
My FH and I are struggling to get our invite list to 350! It has stuck around 400 since we got engaged 10 months ago and it is REALLY close to the time we need to send out invites. AHHH! Unfortunately for us (I sound terrible!), it is a local wedding with only 35 out of town guests invited so we expect almost everyone to attend.
I have no idea how to calculate what and who to invite. I wasn’t planning on inviting my aunts, but my mom insists that I do. However, they are out of town, and my mom didn’t go to my cousins’ weddings because she was out of town so….I’m inviting them and assuming they aren’t coming. But I really have NO IDEA what to expect!
97% of my 110 person list is coming to the wedding. I budgeted for 85% attendance. Oops!!!
I’m a little nervous about this as well. We are inviting 218 people (I just checked) to our destination wedding. So far, we know 70 people who are coming and we don’t want/can’t have much more than 100!!!
Be careful!! We assumed that becuase of the economy, most of our out of town guests would not be attending (airfare, room, food, etc)….and then the reply cards started trickling in. People love weddings, especially in gloomy times. I think it may be safer to factor that 10% won’t show and send out late invitations to the locals based on the declines.
I also had an A and B list and in the end (mostly due to mother nature) a lot of people from out of town couldn’t make it. So we ended up letting people bring their kids (since originally it was no children due to lack of space). It all worked out in the end dispite all my stress and feelings of guilt over who wouldn’t get invited.
I don’t even know the current count of guests we’re inviting, but we’re planning for about 325 to actually come. We actually went through guest by guest and predicted if they are going to come or not. It’s tedious but it’s probably the best way to determine an accurate guest count.
Yea..we’re doing the same. Stand-by list sounds so much nicer than what we are calling it.. A-listers and B-listers.. oops =P
I’m told that in my particular destination wedding site (Tahoe) that attendance is much more like 85%, so we’re not counting on many drop outs. Just make sure you have a pretty good idea of what people are planning before you invite more!
This is the exact topic I need! I’m trying to get my save the date list in order - we’re having a wedding on a holiday weekend near christmas, so we’re not sure if that will increase or decrease the acceptance rates! most people have told us it will decrease to as much as by 30-50% - I guess the safest way would be to invite the number you budgeted for and then add on as they decline?
I invited about 180 persons and 110 showed up and more than 70% were out of town guest. I guess it just depends on your demographics though and the way all of your guest are effected by the economy currently.
We did something I would not recommend - just invited everyone we wanted to and hoped a lot of them wouldn’t show up. It’s working out so far; I’ll let you know how the rest turns out. 
My fiance is in finance, so he jumped at the chance to do a probability report - it’s as simple as you say, assign a probability to each guest (i.e. your MOH is definitely coming, so she gets a 1.0, your second cousin twice removed probably isn’t, so maybe they get a 0.1). Then, at the end, you add it all up and you will have a guess at how many will come. We invited 130, and guessed 80 would come when we did the report. Our final count is 75, so it’s pretty close!
I’d be careful assuming your acceptance rate. All of our guests are from out of town or semi-out of town. Many of our friends are only 2 hours away, but our families are all having to fly in and then drive 1.5 hours. We were guessing that much of our family wouldn’t make it for this reason, but once we sent out our STDs we started hearing from them that they were already booked lodging. I guess they’ll make the long trek for us, and we feel so fortunate! But, it will cut out having a standby guest list.
We invited everyone we wanted to, too! Turns out that is 193 guests on the nose. 103 invitations. Our venue requires we pay for 155 plates of food, so we better have 155 people there as far as I am concerned. I’m thinking we’ll end up with about 170 since it’s in StL and everybody we know is from StL. I think we invited 10 out of towners that won’t come for sure. We have a good idea of who will come and who won’t since the fiance’s sister got married 2 years ago and we stole that Family guest list as ours!
This has by far been my list favorite task of the wedding planning! We just finalized our Save the Date list and decided to go with only those on our A list! We have a B & C list that we will invite if someone off our A list can’t come! Man that sounds horrible, but your right, it’s best to try and plan on a certain number!
I couldn’t bear the thought of A-listers and B-listers…but at the same token we’re inviting 245 and hoping for 160! (”standby” doesn’t soudn so bad)
seem unlikely? 80 of those are from out of town (2200 miles or so out of town) and/or out of the country!
That’s a hug bummer, but everything is so, insanely beautiful!
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Mrs. Meatball, Hollywood Age and Occupation: 30, Actor/Writer/Office Maven Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Actor/Writer Engagement Date: October 7, 2007 Wedding Date: May, 2009 Blogging Since: September 16, 2008 Venue: Private Garden/The Bungalow Club About Me: I love melty cheese and diet coke almost as much as I love my man. I'm from Chicago, he's from NYC, and we both miss public transit and great pizza. We have an adorable muppet dog called Paco. I'm part hippie with a healthy dash of hip hop superstar, have excessive empathy for animals, and have not one, but two bionic eyes (long story). We're broke and it ain't no joke. It can't stop us from planning the bold and whimsical wedding of our dreams, but we've had to get pretty creative to make it work, yo!
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