Wedding Blog

Sometimes with wedding planning, life gets in the way. You forget about things, put them off, and occasionally shirk responsibility. In our planning, sometimes it has been the vendor, and sometimes it has been me who has dropped the ball.

I’m juggling a lot, although I’m not juggling hearts or money (well, maybe money).

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The main difference is that I’m so much harder on the vendor than I am on myself, which could be taken to be a bit “zilla-esque”.

Sometimes I’m only acting on my gut judgment, like when a vendor wrote to Mr. D with the wrong name (then tried to bribe us). To me, that just seemed to be poor business practices on their end. Or, the cake baker who we committed to that NEVER sent us a contract or sketch, and continually stalled? Well, that’s just not someone I want to depend on to get 80+ people dessert. Even though I try to give second chances, I’ve cut these potential vendors off my list with little remorse. In my opinion, they’re running a business, and their actions reflect the type of service we’ll receive (and will also pay for). Everyone is only human though, which is why I believe so strongly in second chances.

So what do I do when the problem is me? My mother, a very bored Mr. D, and I met with a florist in November. We liked their work, had a lovely time meeting with them, and hallelujah, they were within our budget. All that was required to “seal the deal” was a $100 deposit and a contract to save the date. Between my parents, Mr. D, and I, we all sort of dropped the ball. I thought they had put the deposit down, and they thought I had done it. Lo and behold, we just realized this, 5 months after the fact. Crap. So I’ve sent our (hopefully) florists an apology and asked them if the date was still available.

Should I send our florist “I’m sorry” flowers? I can only hope she doesn’t judge us as harshly as I’ve judged others. Hopefully they give second chances, too!

Anyone else drop the ball on wedding planning?