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I’ve seen lots of posts about difficulties with future in-laws, or the general pain that they can be. TV shows like “Everybody Loves Raymond” really promote the stereotypes of them. I understand that Mr. D and I have gotten to know our in-laws a bit better since we’ve lived with them, but I like to think it’s more than that. I really can’t say enough great things about my in-laws, as they’ve made me feel so welcome in a foreign country, and I enjoy spending time with them.
This weekend I went to London with Mr. D’s sister, mother, and aunt, and we had a fantastic time. We swung by Buckingham Palace, saw Billy Elliot AND the Lion King in the West End, ate fantastic food, and had a wonderful time. My FMIL and FSIL have seen Billy Elliot countless times (both in the US and the UK) and I was so pleased I was able to see it with them. If you haven’t seen it yet, you should seriously go—it’s my new favorite, and I can’t wait to take my own mother to see it.
I had such a great “girls weekend” with my future in-laws and I’m so happy we’ll all be family.
Does anyone else get along with their in-laws? If your relationship got off to a rocky start, how were you able to overcome it and become close?
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I get along great with my in-laws as well! They are so kind and generous. I do get a bit annoyed sometimes, but it isn’t more than my own parents. I think any time you are around someone a lot, little things can get on your nerves.
Me too. We get a long fabulously, and my FI gets along great with my family. I think my future family is one of the sweetest families ever. They are very similar to my own parents, which may be why we get a long so nicely.
Glad you had such a fun time!
I LOVE my future in-laws. They are amazing, amazing people. Right from the first time I met them they all made me feel at home, and made me feel comfortable. I felt like part of the family immediately! They are great!!
I feel like it’s almost taboo to talk about how much you love your in-laws when tv/society usually paints them as some kind of evil force in your life! I really love my in laws… Mr. Peng’s mom is really a role model for a good mom for me. I wish we lived closer to his parents, and hopefully one day we will!
I completely adore my future in laws. They are already like family to me. Honestly, I couldn’t be luckier in this regard!
I’m with Mrs. Penguin. My in-laws are great. We’ve even vacationed with them. I can’t wait until they move back to Seattle.
I’m with you I love love my future in laws 
They are the sweetest people. I also know that my FI feels the same way about my family. They all love each other I don’t want to “jinx” it with all the stereotypes that are out there, but I think that’s just how our families are going to be forever
Haha now I def want to go watch Billy Elliot and Lion King!
I am also very lucky in that department!!! Mr. Taffy’s mom is great. Glad to hear you had fun in London!
*sigh* I’m really jealous of people who get along great with their in-laws. My parents have been AWESOME but my future in-laws have literally done NOTHING for us so far. The wedding is 3.5 months away and the only thing they’ve said to us (this was a month after we got engaged) was that we should wait a few years. Since then they have treated me the same as before (which isn’t too bad) but not once have they mentioned the wedding to me…NOT ONCE. And the guestlist they gave us was really incomplete (they did not add in the names of the wives) and it has been really tiresome for me getting the invitations and guestlists done since we can only invite 180 people. They’ve threatened my fiance by saying that if we don’t invite everyone they wanted to…they won’t come.
But anyways………I really try to not let it bother me…after all they can take it for whatever they want it…as for me…it’s my big day and I’m marrying the man of my dreams and I couldn’t be happier. I’ve also realized how great my OWN parents are and I think we are closer because of this (especially with my mom). So It’s ok…you can always turn a negative into a positive =)
You are so lucky treasure it, I wish I had that but since we come from very different backgrounds it is hard to find common ground. I get along better with my FMIL than FFIL because FFIL has a very old school concept of women are inferior to men and sorry I can’t be down with that.
We did get off to a rocky start. I always believed my FMIL was a good person, and smart, and all these wonderful things — but never interested in me. I kind of stuck it out, and that was harder than anything to try to get to know her when it was one-sided. However, things are getting better, mostly since she’s come out to visit us in our new home in our new city. It’s wonderful that you enjoy your future in-laws.
I do love my future in laws, although his dad can test me, mostly because we live with him. His mom is a recovering alcoholic, so she’s a little spacy at times but still sweet. And I get along really well with his dad’s girlfriend
go2bee, i totally agree!! FMIL finally accepts me and doesn’t totally hate me, but we’ll probably never just stop by there to hang out and chat and whatnot. i don’t feel like his home is a home to me at all. but i gotta say, he totally won the in-law lottery, because my parents are amazing and totally welcoming, and he’s been more than welcome in my house since we first started dating, before we ever had our own home together!
it’s been hard accepting i’ll probably never call my FMIL to chat, or to do lunch or go shop, and she’ll probably never know me well enough to buy me a present i’d love, and we’ll always get joint christmas presents and such….but that’s okay.
The FMIL and I just hit a really rough patch last weekend - she actually said to my FH that she had doubts about us staying together! With only 4.5 months until the wedding, I view this as sabotage! However, I know she is experiencing some personal issues and frustrations, and so I am trying to be graceful and get over it. We had a talk and though she never apologized, she at least knows what I think about her statements. We’re together for a lifetime, and we’re coming form very different points of view, so I’m just letting it go and hoping it doesn’t come up again. FH has been super supportive and 100% on my side & in love with me the whole time, so that helps!
I have a great relationship with my future in laws as well! My future MIL has been a great help to me in wedding planning and my future SIL is one of my best friends, she’s also one of my bridesmaids!
We lived with my MIL too for awhile, while we were saving $$ for a house. I think it’s brought her and I a lot closer together and I love the fact that she’s my family now.
Although I don’t get to see my FMIL very often, I absolutely adore her! She had two boys and always wanted a daughter, so she constantly dotes on me (more so than my FI) - I’m an extremely lucky girl!
I love my in-laws too, and I know they’re like family now, because sometimes they annoy me (and my FI), but at the end of the day I still love them - just like my own family!
My mother-in-law is great and so is my sister-in-laws…the one sister took me in right away and it took time for the other one to warm up to me! I just wish my own family was more mature and would grow up! I love them…but at times my family is a pain in the bottom!!
Don’t you just love London? It’s my fav place in the whole world! I wish my in laws would take me there, but we are not so close…
love the inlaws they’re a great, welcoming bunch which has made getting to know them easy.
It’s only recently that I started hanging out with my future in-laws more, and they are sweeties! FMIL is so warm, and always offers words of wisdom, and the FFIL is hilarious. I feel really blessed and lucky!
I love my future in-laws especially FMIL! Love her! She welcomed me from the start of our relationship and it was so comforting.
I think the lucky ones that get along with the in-laws are the minority and the ’stereotypes’ are now the norm.
My MIL welcomed me in the beginning but once she realized it was serious did a total 180. Some others (like my friend’s) change when the first baby comes. At some point all MIL in our circle changed.
it’s totally BIZARRE!
One advantage of dating 4 years through college before marrying. Already getting along with the in-laws:) Awkward new girlfriend moments aside (Our First meeting - oh hai I er yeah , just going back into your son’s bedroom now, to die of embarrassment, even though I slept on the couch bed… and you’re totally unfazed even though my mom would be glaring daggers…) My MIL is cool, and they are really awesome people- really awesome, they all smoke, but since the smoke bothers me so much (asthma) they always air out the house ( even in winter) before I come, and they smoke outside while i’m there (even though they went back to indoor smoking after the kids left some years ago.). And all sorts of other nice things due to their awesomeness as people, but since I can’t spend more than a few minutes with them otherwise, its one that is really important to me. Oh and they are big meat eaters, but my MIL always makes enough extra vegetables for sides that I can eat all veggies and have plenty. Though, my MIL makes an awesome beef brisket that I actually like, and MissDorsay will know how incredible that is. I think this is really long b/c its way past my bed time:( Sorry!
I LOVE my FMIL and FSIL! Love them! And I’m so lucky they love me and have accepted me with open arms from the very beginning. I can’t imagine not having a good relationship with them, they’re great ladies and I’m so happy to enter their family. 
LOL I always laugh about inlaws b/c my ex-BF’s mom was just like the crazy MIL from Monster in Law. Seriously. She even had the frozen eye de-puffer. And she was crazy.
But my soon to be inlaws are SOOO sweet, I love them to pieces!! My FI’s whole family is adorably sweet to me, and I haven’t had one moment (well maybe one) where I was uncomfortable around them or anything!! SO GREAT!
My fiancee absolutely ADORES my parents, and I’m wild about his, too, though his mother proudly declares (often) that people (her own kids) tell her she’s just like the mother from Everybody Loves Raymond.
That makes me nervous.
If I couldn’t get along with my future MIL, there would be something seriously wrong with me. She is the sweetest person in the world and though I don’t feel like I know FFIL very well, he is very nice too. There are some other FILs that are not so thrilling, though.
I love my Future in-laws. I lived with them for two summers and tehy are amazing. They are my role models for a marriage!
sometimes i think they might like me more then their own sone. j/k — but we truly get along great, i’ve already taken on the role of calling them mom and dad from way before being engaged, they are just so fantastic to me!
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Mrs. D'orsay, Baltimore/Lancaster UK
Age and Occupation: 24, Stay at home fiance (formerly in nonprofit communications)
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Web site developer and designer; co-owner of men's skincare shop
Engagement Date: August 10, 2008
Wedding Date: August, 2009
Venue: Oakland Manor
About Me: I'm a Maryland raised environmental policy wonk/activist/organizer and communications aficionado. In the past year I've lived in Baltimore, MD, Tucson, AZ, Miami, FL and Lancaster, England. In my not so spare time I enjoy planning trips with Mr. D' Orsay, visiting friends and family and crafting like a mo-fo. I also enjoy modern dance classes, rugby and soccer but have been banned by my mother, MOHs, and Mr. D' Orsay from playing till after the wedding. I have an unnatural addiction to cheese and shoes, but love Mr. D' Orsay more than either and can't wait to become Mrs. D' Orsay!
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