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I was very hesitant to post this out of sheer embarrassment (please don’t flame me!). I’m really ashamed to say that I’m back to 251 lbs. I was in the 240s, full steam ahead, and I just slowly stopped caring about weight loss. I’m still 13 lbs. down, but it hurts to read that scale in the morning with the weight I currently am. I think I have a curse in my head, because I’ve teetered around the 250s/260s and I want so badly to teeter in the 230s/240s!
I could blame birthday season, ice cream, or the stress of planning, but I blame myself and my dwindling willpower.
I still work out 2 times a week, but I used to work out 4-5 times a week.
I am starting back up with a brand new food journal now, and am devoting myself to food logging everyday. I just want to see the 230s on our big day, and I want to feel like I accomplished something. Right now I feel like (even though I’ve lost 13 lbs.) a tub of laziness.
Have you ever slacked on a goal but then went back on track? How did you do it?
Hang in there woman! The same thing happens to me. I go full steam ahead and lose weight and then get lazy. I think the trick is to figure out what will keep you motivated to keep working on it. Changing the workout routine, even the workout venue helps me. I just have to keep telling myself that I want to be healthier. And I have someone help hold me accountable. I have a friend who’s trying to workout more also. So we check in with each other to see how the other person is doing and offer up advice, motivation when needed. Good luck!
I’ve relaxed a bit in the past few months, but last year (especially during the winter) it was just cardio, cardio, cardio! Changing how I was eating helped too. I wouldn’t say losing 30 lbs was easy - getting to the gym almost every day had it’s up’s and down’s - but once you get yourself into the zone, you just start going on auto pilot.
Involve Mr. BF as well! Mr. S is my main motivator and cheerleader which helps a lot on the days i just don’t want to do it.
Good luck, and regardless you’ll look gorgeous on your wedding day 
Don’t get discouraged Miss BF!! The bottom line is that you are beautiful at any weigh, but I don’t think there is a woman out there that cannot sympathize with your situation and remember a time when their thinking was exactly the same as yours. Think about it this way, you are ALMOST there! It is very easy to get discouraged and focus on the number on the scale, but look at it from another perspective: You are ONLY 2 LBS away from the 240, and then you are only 10 LBS away from the 230s. You are more than halfway to your goal with the 13 lbs wieght loss so far, and the only reason I say this is because I am all too familiar with the all-or-nothing attitude. If you get to a weight you automatically qualify as “bad”, it is all over and not worth trying. My FI told me something he has to think about every day: each moment is a moment to start over, to begin again. If you didn’t work out today, you have to tomorrow. Don’t let each day snowball into another. Sorry, I rambled on there for a little, I am feeling slightly discourage this afternoon but trying to fight it. Regardless, you will look beautiful!
I just starve myself for couple of weeks before my wedding. not a good suggestion. lol I also did spray tanning which made me look like i was 10lbs lighter.
First off all, -13 is FABULOUS! Celebrate this new moment of commitment! You’re taking all the right steps– logging is a must.
I also share your curse. I was down 87 pounds and got myself down to a healthy and hott size 16. I put on 15 pounds at the start of this school year due to my own mismanagement of stress, but I’ve recommited as of this month.
I keep thinking– I will feel confident in my wedding photos! (Especially given what I’m paying our photographer– LOL)
Stay confident, and TRUST in yourself! You can do it!
Miss BF, it’s all about momentum! That’s why brushing aside all your discipline too many times in a short period can wreak havoc on your progress. It was my downfall so many times. The good news is, you know how good it feels to see results and can use that as a motivator to get backon track. I know you didn’t mean to get yourself here, and all you can do is decide that tomorrow is going to be different. You know that working out twice a week isn’t going to get you to where you want to be. You know it. Now change it. You did it once, and I have total confidence you can do it again!
I can’t totally relate! I had been steadily loosing and then I stopped paying attention for a couple weeks and all the weight came right back. I have a hard time sticking with things and I can get very lazy.
It is REALLY hard to not beat yourself up. It is hard to not give up and say “damn it! this is never go to work! Other girls can lose weight, but not me. I am lazy, I just have to accept it”
My words of encouragement are that just because you slack and have to start over again…doesn’t mean you have to give up. You can just tell yourself “Ok, I fell off the wagon, I am mad at myself…but I went just a little bit off track but I can start right back on it today”
I got back on track 2 weeks ago and am now right back to wherer I was when I got off track. You can do it!!
But also..losing weight isn’t everything. You are beautiful and will make such a pretty bride regardless of what number the scale says.
Hi Miss BF! I agree with Miss Stiletto that no matter what, you will be gorgeous on your wedding day. But also…that Mr. BF or another good friend you trust could be a great support system if they, too, jump on the food journal & exercise train with you. I also other agree with previous posters who say the trick is finding what will keep you motivated. 13 lbs is a fantastic accomplishment and maybe thinking back to how great it felt when you lost those 13 will help. Good luck!
Don’t get down on yourself, Miss BF. Weight loss is all about the mental game, so, even though you want to beat yourself up, that won’t change anything or help you lose weight. Just say “tomorrow is a brand new start” and do what you know to do! You should be so proud that you’ve lost 13 pounds!
Cheer up, Miss BF! Thirteen pounds is nothing to be ashamed of. You are better off than you were before the weight loss and on your way to losing more. Everyone has struggles with this. Just keep your eye on the prize!
BF, I don’t think there is a person on the planet who lost a significant amount of weight without any hang ups. Keep on trucking…you rule!
OMG I am right there with you. I tend to get really down on myself and defeated when those numbers on the scale go the wrong direction.
I find that weighing myself really frequently helps me stay focused on my goal because even if that scale just moves 1 number in the right direction I feel better.
And I know that if I weigh myself after a bad day that I will be motivated to do better tomorrow and make those numbers move down!
I know a lot of nutritionist say don’t weigh yourself daily but I am a little ADD when it comes to dieting and I think that if I have an entire week before my next weigh in that I can skip workouts and eat poorly for the first half of the week and then semi starve myself the last half which is so NOT healthy. And it leads to NO permanent change.
A diet for me has have a daily reminder of what i am trying to achieve to really work. And stepping on that scale every morning motivates me and shows me instantly what is going on with my body.
I’m right there with you! I used to do Weight Watchers (and am still a member hoping I can get the motivation to go back). One quote that has stayed with me from there goes along with a lot of comments above, “Remember that if you stray, you’re always only one meal away from regaining success.” This has helped me not have the attitude that if I screw up at lunch I have a free ticket to eat whatever I want. I know you can do it!!!
I am going through the same thing. My wedding is in December and I keep telling myself that I have plenty of time to take weight off. Unfortunately, I don’t want to take engagement photos or look at wedding dresses until I lose at least ten pounds. I think that it will be easier to get back on track once it starts getting warm. Nothing like thighs rubbing together in a summerdress to get you focused!
This is going to sound super cheese, but repeating this phrase this has helped me on my weight-loss journey, especially as I get down to the crunch time before the wedding: “I’m in it to win it!” I know that is so lame but when someone brings cake to the office, I repeat this to myself (and also psych myself out by saying, I’d much rather have delicious, lucious buttercream frosting on my wedding day than Crisco-plastic supermarket frosting on a regular Tuesday afternoon). You can do it, BF! You’ve come so far. You are in it to win it!
@lgpharm:
So true! Your weight is always going to be in flux depending on a lot of factors - eating, exercise, time of the month, stress, etc. I can be up 2 lbs one day and down two day the next without a lot of work…it just changes.
Also - the more you keep up with a healthy routine the better you metabolism is going to get, so you can take a day off and it’s not going to hinder your progress. You just have to get yourself to that point by being consistent.
Wow, I sound like a dorky health nut. Mr. S has taught me a lot since we started working out together
I have most DEFINITELY lost track and then come back! Don’t beat yourself up about it. The food journal will help immensely! What I did was right down what I was eating just before I ate it because it made me be honest with what I logged and made me reconsider if I really wanted to have to write it in the log… if you wait, you might forget to write it down. It’s a lot easier to convince yourself not to do something if you’re thinking about how you have to write down right then and there.
South Beach. My fiance and I have both lost 15 pounds in just a month or so. Even my mom is doing South Beach for the wedding and she’s lost almost 20 lbs.
The fiance and I went on vacation last week and gained some back, but SB allows for that, kind of; the author says that is realistic that you’ll gain weight when on vacation or during stressful time. To fix it you just start Phase 1 again (no carbs, low fat, lots of veggies for two weeks) and you’re guaranteed to be back on track.
You should read the book. It makes a lot of sense and I learned lots about how food effects me.
Good luck and remember that no one will notice a few extra pounds. It should be more about you being healthy and happy on your wedding day! 
I can TOTALLY relate!! My wedding is in July and I HAD been working out everyday for the last month. I lost about 10 lbs and i was 20 away from my goal. The last two weeks I have worked out a total of 2 times. I Gained 3 lbs, I have still been sticking to my diet. I think I got a litle discouraged becuase I didn’t see faster results. It happens, just get back on that horse girl. Everytime I want to quit I picture my dress, how nice it will look without the “pouch” lol!!! Good Luck!!
You can do it! I track food on The Daily Plate, now run through Lance Armstrong. They have an awesome database and it’s free!
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Mrs. Ballet Flat, New Orleans Age and Occupation: 24, Geographic Information Systems Analyst Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, IT Analyst Engagement Date: March 16, 2008 Wedding Date: May, 2009 Blogging Since: September 25, 2008 Venue: St. Charles Borromeo Church/Jefferson-Orleans North About Me: I absolutely love wedding planning, spending time with Mr. Ballet Flat, various crafts, watching football, baking, pop music, bargain hunting and ice cream. My idea of a great date night is dinner and clearance shopping with Mr. Ballet Flat! I currently live below sea level in the suburbs near New Orleans, where I make maps all day, everyday for my job. I'm slowly becoming more and more obsessed with anything New Orleans related for our wedding, and I can't wait for the big day!
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