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I was interested in having a conversation about strippers and bachelor parties outside of the context of someone who is upset about it and looking for advice.

My fiance isn’t having a traditional bachelor party, but I do still get kind of fired up about the issue on my friends’ behalf. Several girls I know are horrified by their fiances’ bachelor party plans.

I am definitely one of those that is NOT OK with strip clubs for bachelor parties. I really don’t have a problem with strippers in general, but I would not be marrying my fiance if he frequented them during the time we were dating. This does not, however, stem from any kind of trust issues. Here is my reasoning, in a few points:

1. I would not be OK with it if one of my friends or one of his colleagues waved their breasts in his face. I would certainly not be OK with it if he paid a prostitute to wave her breasts in his face, whether intercourse followed or not.

2. I hate the idea of “the last hurrah”. If he wanted a last hurrah to singlehood, he should have taken it x number of years ago before we started dating. He hasn’t been a “free man” since the day he agreed to date me exclusively. I also feel like the “last hurrah” is pretty humiliating to me, the fiancee, because it’s like he’s saying, “My fiancee is this one woman, which is clearly not sufficient. I need to say goodbye to the boundless goodies out there.” I’m sorry—when he proposed, he SHOULD have meant, “You are the best woman out there, and I could never desire another.” The strip club bachelor party nullifies that whole idea.

3. It is humiliating and degrading to the woman he’s marrying. Why go to a strip club to look at the body of a complete stranger when you have a perfectly good set of boobies right here at home, that you get to touch!? I don’t expect him to never look at another woman and find her attractive. I do expect him to be discreet about it and not rub it in my face.

I realize I’ve expressed some strong opinions here, and that’s because I’m interested in hearing the strong opinions of others on the boards. Let’s hear it! What’s your take?

amandopolis

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