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Mrs. Mary Jane, Grand Forks, ND Age and Occupation: 26, Instructional Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Lead Programmer Engagement Date: February 28, 2009 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: City Hall About Me: I'm a career woman on the surface and a homemaker at heart. I love fast cars and high heels, and my favorite food is cake. Mr. Mary Jane and I are both full-time employees and students, and we just bought our first house. We love to curl up on the couch with buttery popcorn, Sour Patch Kids, and the latest Netflix arrival -- whenever we can get a break from everyday life.
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“Grandma got married in a brown suit.” This statement has been uttered — complete with wrinkled nose — by the little girls of my family (myself included) throughout the years. A brown suit? Really?

To paraphrase grandma and grandpa’s story: they had a very short time to plan their wedding. Grandpa was accepted into school on the other side of the country. The pair wanted to move there together as a family, so they decided to get married. The problem? They had to move in a matter of weeks! The bit of money they had needed to be conserved for their travels ahead, so grandma carefully considered the importance of a fancy wedding dress in the grand scheme of things. Ultimately, she passed on lace and beading and instead bought the aforementioned brown suit. (Actually, it was olive-colored.) Her reasoning? She would need a job when they reached their new home, and the suit would be practical attire for interviews and work. They’ve now been married nearly 60 years and are some of my greatest role models for a successful marriage and life.

While Mr. Mary Jane and I aren’t planning a cross-country move, and we’ve already got our career situation worked out, we are finding ourselves in a somewhat comparable situation.

We’re paying for school. We’re paying for our cars. We’re saving for the future. And now, we’re buying a house. Expenses, much? I just can’t see the rationale in spending $2000 (i.e. a new front-loading washer/dryer), $1000 (i.e. a new modestly-priced dining room set), or even $500 (i.e. a home inspection and appraisal) on a garment that I’ll wear for possibly 6 hours total. I don’t mind buying a new outfit to wear for the wedding, but it’s got to be practical: something I can wear again.

I won’t kid myself in to thinking I’d wear any wedding-y dress again. I don’t care how simple it is. If it’s white or off-white and I wore it to get married in, I will not be wearing it again. I am, however, lacking in professional clothes. I decided to turn my searches toward “wear to work” and “daytime” styles.

I was looking for something sophisticated, but with feminine details. Something traditional but different. Something that could scream, “court house,” at one time, but could later be seamlessly re-purposed for “academic conference” or “dissertation defense”. And preferably, something that would look good with my pearls.

Ladies (and gentlemen, if there are any hanging around here), I now present to you:

Finding a (Non)Wedding Dress: Part 3 (The Finale?) :  wedding wedding dress Dresspa017
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My brown suit. I ordered this Jones New York suit from Macy’s, and at under $200 it was the perfect fit for my guidelines and my budget. I hadn’t wanted to go this short (I don’t care for my knees) but I really liked the neckline. I’m not entirely wowed by it, but I do like it a lot. With it, I could wear a nice pair of heels or even some cute boots! So I think I’ll keep my eyes open for other options, but this is my “probably” option for now.

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I took these photos of myself with the camera balanced on my dresser, so I’m going to blame my odd-looking stances on the angle of the camera. I put on my pearls and some random shoes from my closet. I think the jacket needs alteration under the arms and the whole thing needs a good steam, but still it looks alright. I would be honored to get married in my brown suit just as my grandmother did many years ago.

Would you ever consider wearing a skirt or pantsuit on your wedding day? Did you choose an out-of-the-ordinary outfit for your ceremony or reception?

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72 Responses to “Finding a (Non)Wedding Dress: Part 3 (The Finale?)”

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lit_geek26
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lit_geek26 (message)  138 posts, Blushing bee

I think it’s utterly chic and timeless!

 
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markyk
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markyk (message)  227 posts, Helper bee

i would wear a chic pantsuit! i’m considering it for the afterparty!

 
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Kodiak

Gorgeous suit! I usually hate suits but fall for ones with cute feminine details like this. I think it’s awesome.

 
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andriab (message)  72 posts, Worker bee

That’s pretty!

My matron of honor’s grandmother got married in a black dress. She was very country and had only been told that she needed a new dress for her wedding day. Because the war was on she went down and picked the prettiest dress she could find- which just happened to be black! She didn’t know it was supposed to be white! Her marriage lasted for over 60 years (until death) so I guess it worked!
My MOH decided to go the same route, she got married in a red dress at the same (kind of) court house that her grandmother married in.

The brown looks pretty but have you considered keeping the suit and picking a color that you like (assuming it’s something different)?

 
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piepie (message)  19 posts, Newbee

I love it! Looks fantastic on you — and much better than any of those long slinky dresses.

 
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spraguebride
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spraguebride (message)  1,254 posts, Bumble bee

You look very Jackie O!

 
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midwestelle
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midwestelle (message)  175 posts, Blushing bee

Dear wedding suit,

I love you.

Signed,

Someone who will wear a white dress that she, her mother, and her fashion designer friend will all approve (sigh)

p.s. you could totally rock a little pillbox hat or birdcage veil or something vintage-y with that, if you want that extra “bridal touch.” Or not. :)

 
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ke3
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ke3 (message)  255 posts, Helper bee

you look great in that suit! it really is a wonderful neckline, especially with the pearls!

 
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canegirl08
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canegirl08 (message)  158 posts, Blushing bee

OMG, are you my parent’s long lost grandchild? :) My parents have the EXACT same story about their wedding. The only catch is that my mom didn’t even buy a suit. She borrowed a cream suit off her sister that her sister had grown out of. On August 15th they will have been married 45 years (and she still has that suit in her closet although it would NEVER fit me).

That being said, your suit looks AWESOME! You could glam it up with some wrist length gloves, a pillbox hat or fun fascinator, and your pearls. I absolutely love it and may race out to buy one myself just because it is so darned cute. BTW, the length is perfect.

 
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bellenga (message)  7,536 posts, Bumble Beekeeper

Ok..now a fascinator with a light brown or taupe birdcage veil! maybe even a pillbox hat and birdcage veil? I love that look..very retro chic!

Definitely as Canegirl suggested go with pearls too. Have a glam bouquet, maybe dress it up with some guinea feathers (which come in a lovely brown) and maybe on the headpiece too! That would be utterly gorgeous!

 
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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,565 posts, Bee Keeper

What a timeless little skirt suit!

 
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JennyBryde
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JennyBryde (message)  1,168 posts, Bumble bee

I think it’s a sweet little suit! It reminds me of when Carrie got married in her “sweet little suit” in the SATC movie!

 
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Gilneas (message)  1,393 posts, Bumble bee

I think, altered and steamed, with perhaps a fascinator/birdcage veil - it’ll be so classic, so vintage, that beautiful image in your head of getting married in a courthouse… it’s definitely not for you and your wedding

 
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Vyeta

I would go with something lighter in a cream. Maybe a pretty light blouse with that skirt?

 
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Newport Nuptials (message)  1,230 posts, Bumble bee

I think a skirt suit is perfect for a courthouse ceremony! nice choice!

 
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Vic004
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Vic004 (message)  804 posts, Busy bee

seriously adorable, I am also rooting for you to get a birdcage or little something, I love the story and the suit!!

 
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PeachandPearl
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PeachandPearl (message)  278 posts, Helper bee

I LOVE midwestelle’s suggestion of wearing a pillbox hat or birdcage veil… perfect for a courthouse and so very, very Jackie O!

 
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June Bug (message)  373 posts, Helper bee

I was just going to comment as well that I like midwestelle’s idea of a birdcage veil! I’m sure you can find some reasonably priced ones and add a little more bridal flair (if that’s what you’re going for :))

 
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frenchbulldog
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frenchbulldog (message)  7,706 posts, Bumble Beekeeper

I love that you are wearing a brown suit like your grandmother :)

 
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hirsche (message)  230 posts, Helper bee

=) I love the connection to your grandparents story!

 
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Mrs. Mary Jane, Grand Forks, ND Age and Occupation: 26, Instructional Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Lead Programmer Engagement Date: February 28, 2009 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: City Hall About Me: I'm a career woman on the surface and a homemaker at heart. I love fast cars and high heels, and my favorite food is cake. Mr. Mary Jane and I are both full-time employees and students, and we just bought our first house. We love to curl up on the couch with buttery popcorn, Sour Patch Kids, and the latest Netflix arrival -- whenever we can get a break from everyday life.

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