Weddingbee Blog

I guess it’s true when people say that the only person who cares about your wedding more than you is, well, no one. In the grand scheme of things, your wedding is just one day to the people you’ve invited. Those guests will never fully understand the amount of time and effort you’ve put into that one day. In a matter of hours, the day is over and it’s a memory.

Outside of your guests, there are maybe a couple hundred people—acquaintances, long lost friends, former co-workers and neighbors—who will congratulate you when they hear the news, but in reality, your wedding day means little to them other than the fact that you now have a husband and new last name. And for the umpteen billion other people in the world who you don’t even know and will never ever meet? Yeah, they are too busy living their lives, working, taking care of their children, studying, shopping, paying bills, sleeping, relaxing, cooking, spending time with their friends, checking on their eBay auctions, exercising, driving, taking showers, talking on the phone, and thinking about the hundreds of things going on with them at any particular moment in time. Your wedding means nothing to them.

That’s right. While planning the wedding of our dreams is a huge time suck for all of us brides-to-be right now, the rest of the world is dealing with their own everyday things, all important to them and all more important than any wedding we’re planning.

And of course all of these “your wedding” and “you” references are really a finger pointed at me. In fact, it’s one of those really big, “We’re #1″ foam hand fingers.

See, the last few days, I’ve gotten a little caught up in all things Deviled Egg wedding. I am such a procrastinator that the planning hasn’t really taken over my life until this point. Granted, it is crunch time. We have just over a month to go, and I feel like my time is limited. I have a list of projects to complete and things to buy/do. Just about every day from here on out has to (HAS TO!) include some form of wedding-related activity, project or planning.

Then yesterday, I realized it was the day before a friend and bridesmaid’s birthday. Of course, being so caught up in our wedding, I never got a card in the mail. I felt terrible and rushed out on my lunch hour to buy a card, write a brief note inside, and drop it in the mail. Here’s hoping the USPS can get it to the other side of Pittsburgh in a day. I feel terrible about forgetting, especially since I’m usually on the ball with sending cards and keeping track of things. I hate to use the wedding as an excuse for my ignorance, but I do. I never wanted to be so involved in the wedding, or anything really, that I lost track of a birthday or other important date.

Then, Mr. DE set up some appointments for us to check out apartments. I really appreciate his initiative, but got so upset with him because I didn’t have the time to follow through and attend these appointments. The reason? You guessed it—I have stuff to do for the wedding. But isn’t finding a place where we can live together a more important aspect in the big picture? Yes, it is! And I feel so bad for my negative reaction. Bad Deviled Egg!

I guess, in a way, I’m thankful for the situations where I am reminded that the whole world doesn’t revolve around our wedding. These are just a few of the recent circumstances that gave me a nice slap on the forehead and woke me up to the fact that no matter what was going on with me, others around me had a lot of important milestones happening in their lives, too, such as birthdays, pregnancies, first soccer games, career accomplishments, and travel plans, all of which are just as important to them as a wedding and upcoming marriage is important to me.

While I’m finishing up this rather large helping of humble pie, have any of you experienced guilt over letting the wedding plans consume so much of your life?