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I’ll admit it. I really wanted to see tears from Mr. Kitten as I walked down the aisle on our wedding day! Okay, maybe I didn’t want him to break down like this guy, but I was hoping for one little tear, or some seriously watery eyes, at the least!
Mr. K and I aren’t very emotional people. I have only seen him tear up once–when he proposed to me, 2.5 years ago! And I hardly ever cry myself–he has probably seen me cry only a handful of times during our 4.5 year relationship (one of those times was on our minimoon, but I’ll save that for a later post!).
I wrote earlier about our decision not to do a “first look”, which is largely based on the fact that I wanted to save up all that emotion (a.k.a. Mr. Kitten’s tears!) for our wedding ceremony.
Have you ever seen the movie 27 Dresses? In the movie, Katherine Heigl’s character says that her favorite part of a wedding is the grand entrance. But she doesn’t look at the bride, her attention is focused on the groom’s face as he watches his bride walk down the aisle. I couldn’t agree more–there is something so moving about seeing a guy get all choked up because he is absolutely overwhelmed by the sight of his future wife. I absolutely love it!
So did I get the man-tears I was hoping for on my wedding day? Stay tuned to find out!
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I think I’ve told my fiance about my desire to get a little weepy looking- I think it’s very sweet. 
I hope you got the tears- I’m keeping my fingers crossed I do too!
I hope FH gets a little teary, but I think he’ll be so nervous that it won’t happen.
I hope you got a little tears… I can’t wait to see your recaps!
Haha, fun survey. I don’t even know for sure if I’LL be a mess or totally composed — so it’s definitely not fair for me to expect a strong emotional reaction from the mister!
I second AliCherri - I’ve told him how cute I think it is when grooms cry, but I think he’ll be too nervous. I hope Mr. Kitten teared up!
I wrote “he better” even though I don’t feel THAT strongly really- but I’ll admit, I wouldn’t mind a few Man Tears! I’ve definitely seen him cry, not many times, but it definitely happens. I’ve definitely seen him get choked up, too- which is the look I’m hoping for. He looks so sweet when he gets choked up I hope Mr. K teared up for you too!!
I suspect he’ll shed a tiny discreet tear. But I’m fine with it either way. Oh the teasers! Enough already, we want to see the goods, Miss K!!!!
Oh gawd…I know my FI is going to be a mess. on New Years Eve few years ago I walked out of the room all done up and he nearly lost it. Whenever I wear a pretty dress and get real fancied up, he gets all misty. To tell you the truth, I love it
That picture is so funny…I said to myself, “I hope that isnt what her fiance did!” LOL that looks like a “I can’t believe Im doing this” or a “I cant believe they forced me to marry her” cry not a “I cant believe I get to spend the rest of my life with this wonderful woman” or “I am one lucky guy!” cry! If he crys or doesnt cry…”I’m one lucky girl!”.
I dont care if he cries or not (he is sitting next to me) but I would LOVE to see some water in his eyes. He is not very emotional so I wanna get something from him since I will be emotional
I’m pretty sure I can deal with not crying, but if he starts crying, I’m done! So, I hope we can both make it through, sans tears.
Cute post! My husband cried like I’ve never seen. At the first look I had to tell a joke so he wouldn’t start. During the ceremony I had to shake my head “no, don’t do that”…but then I read my personal vows and the waterworks started flooding! I was shocked that I was so composed, all day long, and didn’t cry at all.
I think teary eyed is good, but I’m not expecting a big cry fest. I can’t wait to find out how it turned out!
I’m totally the crier! I may need him to hold it together for me to… I have a feeling we’ll both cry!
We’ll be doing a first look, but I still think he’ll be emotional (not necessarily crying) when I walk down the aisle. It will be a different feeling walking down the aisle with our friends and family, than when it is just us.
We will also be writing our own vows, which I think will add to the possibilities of there being “man tears.”
Oh Mrs. Kitten we are so the same about this… My husband says he’s not afraid too but yep he usually hides his emotions. He didn’t shed a tear and I’m not gonna lie, I was disappointed in the aftermath.
I think he was a bit choked up as he started out saying his vows without looking in my eyes, he was looking downward at my chest! Of course I couldn’t have that so I bent my knees down obviously and brought his head up with my eyes, which caused everyone to laugh and the moment was gone, humorous but raw emotion, yep gone….
Ah well, looks like it will wait till I give him his first child.
Mrs. Kitten stop being such a tease! I’m really ready to hear about the WEDDING!
I secretly hope for a choked up moment from FI. But considering I was a bawling wreck while reading your post from yesterday, I am pretty sure I will be too emotional to remember : )
Ever since I saw 27 dresses, I always say I’m going to look at the groom, but once I hear the bride come in I totally forget and get caught up in the excitement of watching the bride!
maybe getting a little misty is ok. i’m afraid that if he starts crying, i’ll degenerate into ugly-cry-bride!! 
The crying groom pic looks like 2 guys I know! I wonder…Emmett or Brian “Fife”., is that you?!
I know a bride who sobbed the whole way down the aisle. SOBBED. It wasn’t pretty. I’m sure I will get a little teary-eyed (mostly for my dad - cause I am a daddy’s girl! : ), but we will definitely be sans waterworks. Sniffles are cute, sobbing is tacky!
I’m hoping for a little tear at least. My guy tries to be the tough man but is really a mushball.
great post!
I have never seen my FH cry, so that would be a shock! I doubt it though. Recently, we recently miscarried and he didn’t cry, so I really do doubt that he would at our wedding, but you never know. I really think he always believes he has to be strong for me so I won’t fall apart.
He is in the military and comes from a long line of service, policeman, marines. It bugs me, but that is him and I have to accept it.
Now you got me thinking…
DH didn’t cry. As long as he looks at me with love and happiness, I’m ok And he did.
I couldn’t agree with you more!!! There really is something so wonderful about seeing a man so moved by his bride. I can’t wait!!
My mom thinks its a BAD thing when the bride or groom cries, she seems to think it is their subconscious telling them they don’t want to get married.
I completely Disagree with her, I know that I have cried at the happiest times of my life! And I know my FI will be shedding a few tears and I just hope I don’t get that look from my mom…..
I think its nice if the groom sheds a little tear, but I’m terrified that if I see Mr. M cry, I will lose my own composure.
I think I’d like to see him get at least a little teary. Or at least the face he does when he’s telling me how much he loves me. *swoon*
He’ll get teary. I know it. He’s a sensitive guy and I will cry for sure which will probably induce more crying on his part. But I don’t want us to cry too much, there has to be a happy medium.
I believe that photo you posted is the male version of the ugly cry! Honestly, I don’t think it’s a good idea to load up your expectations about another person’s reactions, so although I’ve been fantaszing about what it will be like to look into his eyes as I walk down the aisle toward him, I don’t have a clear hope or idea about what that will exactly look like. Whatever happens happens.
Oh, I should probably note that the above opinion is based on the fact that unlike you and Mr. K, West Coast Groom and are OPPOSITES when it comes to your emotional expressiveness–I am an open feeler, and he is a typically reserved, passive, non-reactive type. So expecting tears would be a little unrealistic of me personally!
Mr. Spin is pretty senstitive under his quiet exterior. I’ve seen him cry…maybe 3 times in 5.5 years but I know it would be more if we watched Extreme Home Makeover more often (makes us both cry every time. sheesh ^_^).
Gosh, he teared up pretty much immediately when he asked me to marry him. But I was crying too. I think we’ll both be at least a little misty-eyed but hopefully we can keep it together without descending into ugly-cry.
Although, I watched a Hallmark movie on Sunday and just *bawled* my eyes out, so maaaaybe I should work on toughening myself up so I won’t be a mess…^_^
I know I’m a few days behind, but what a cliff hanger! I’m hoping you have already posted the follow up and I will stumble across it shortly
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Mrs. Kitten, Austin/Grand Cayman
Age and Occupation: 25, Law Student
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, Dental Student
Engagement Date: October 19, 2006
Wedding Date: April, 2009
Venue: The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman
About Me: In 2009 I will get married (after a two and a half year engagement!), become an Army wife, graduate from law school, take the bar, move from Austin to Washington, D.C., and start my career as a lawyer! With all this going on, Mr. Kitten and I decided to have a tropical, "stress-free" destination wedding. Nevertheless, my micromanaging, detail-oriented, perfectionist side has prevailed---I am currently obsessed with every last detail of my "stress-free" destination wedding! But most of all, I'm beyond excited to become Mrs. Kitten on a fabulous Caribbean vacation surrounded by my friends and family!
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