Wedding Blog

I should be ashamed of myself. I had low expectations for my bridal shower. As I’ve mentioned before, there was a little bit of tension in the planning of it. I had felt that my BMs weren’t into it, and I was over it. So this weekend, when I arrived at my mom’s house with my friend Michelle (to whom I protested), I was VERY surprised and seriously humbled by the huge effort everyone had made on my behalf.

My mother, BM Abby, and my sister pulled together a wonderful and thoughtful event that came together beautifully. My mom cooked up a storm of Vietnamese lunch goodies. Abby made the cutest guest gifts of spatulas and cookie cutters.

And my sister coordinated the whole thing—despite being a busy lawyer commuting between Tel Aviv and New York. I chalked her harried/haphazard planning up to not caring. (But seriously, if I had her schedule, a bridal shower would be the last thing on my priority list, for sure. It was very perspective-giving.)

Saturday was the warmest day in Washington so far this year; it finally felt like spring. And it certainly looked it at my mom’s house. Everything was blooming, including the tulips she potted for the occasion and the ton of bouquets that were displayed.

Though there was not a lot of planning (my sister arrived in town the night before on Friday), the details did not betray this. My sister got everything together last minute, and used the leftover ribbon from the ring pillow to tie together the utensils. The table looked beautiful with sparkly glasses, Champagne, china, and cutesy napkins. And of course, Abby’s colorful bouquet of guest gift spatulas added to the fun.

I asked that Vietnamese food be served for the lunch part. Because none of the (pretty international contingent of) guests were Vietnamese, I thought it would be nice to have them taste a little bit of “the homeland”! So my mom obliged with green papaya and shrimp salad, tofu and noodles, spring rolls, and shrimp chips (no those aren’t pork rinds!). The most popular item (that I forgot to picture) were the summer rolls—a salad of greens, herbs, and shrimp rolled in thin rice paper.

We had such a good time opening up gifts and tasting the food! We didn’t do any of the usual shower games, as we apparently didn’t need them! The afternoon was chock-full of lively conversation that ranged from the wedding, to our significant others, children, then inevitably to travel and ethnic culture. It’s funny how food has a way of bringing people together (who doesn’t love food?), making them distinct (plenty of culturally diverse food gifts), as well as highlighting commonalities (my mom’s yucca cakes that she made for dessert was apparently also something that Brazilian lovely, Desi, makes as well).

Everyone was sooooo creative with the gifts they brought. Since Mr. P and I did not register for any gifts, my sister specified in the invitation that people come up with something interesting and food related for “the foodie”.

Garlic and garlic baker; fun condiments including Filipino banana catsup, truffle oil, pear vinegar and more; neat spices including Britannian fleur de sel and herbs de Provence rub, Boutanese lemongrass tea; Spanish smoked paprika, Russian spices, herbs Parisian; fancy shimmering and rose petal sugars; ethnic pantry items: french oyster hot toast spread and English curry beans; fantastic jams and sweeteners: Malawian honey, Brittanian caramel; pineapple chutney, sour cherry jam; a sh*tload of salt: lavender, Himalayan, fleur de sel, English sea, and French grey.

There was definitely a salt theme! I love salt! I now have a serious array of the seasoning that spans from French grey, to fleur de sel, to English sea salt, to two varieties of Himalayan pink salt.

One is the large variety rocks that comes with its own grater! I love it!

There was a ton of interesting spices to represent some of the nationalities present.

One gift of spice was particularly neat and apropos! Abby gave me this lovely box of various seasonings, along with this very special spice tin. Around the world throughout history, food and spices have been given as wedding charms. In a Chinese chard box (which, unbeknownst to Abby, we collect!), there were various charms including Rosemary for remembrance (a la Shakespeare); nutmeg (the German and English give this) for a sound marriage; star anise (given in China to represent all centered-ness (or something like that). There were some peppercorns in there too—I’m guessing to keep things hot!

My sister gave me a wonderful box of cheese from Artisanal fromagery and bistro in Manhattan. With the help of the chef, she handpicked the three different cheeses, along with tomato jam for the gift box. Mr. P and I looooove cheese, especially the stinky ones!!! And this box was ripe!!!

There were other thoughtful touches, including a large goody bag from the lovely English belle, Fay! She included things from her homeland like curry beans, a pineapple chutney (that she made), the garlic and garlic baker above (we love spreading roasted garlic on bread!) and something to prep us for our Italian honeymoon: A magazine of Italian gastronomic adventures—the Cucina Italiana!

We joked about all the ethnic stereotypes, including being late. We were expecting one more: Miss Cecile, who is French. The French are always fabulously late!

And she blew in an hour and a half late with fabulous gifts, including caramel (which of course contains lovely salt) from her grandmother’s hometown of Brittany, a vintage Champagne, and many other things from her travels, including Boutanese lemon grass tea and an every day favorite of oyster toast spread!

Ever the jokester, my long lost (and recently reacquainted) friend, Eileen, who had been emailing me about her diet trials, gave this bottle of lemon detox (for all the bloat that is inevitable of a high salt diet and any potentially crazy bridal weight loss frenzies)!!!

And as if all the talk and giving of food wasn’t enough, we had dessert of cupcakes, tropical fruit, yucca cakes, and Jasmine green tea. It was a little east meets west; the Vietnamese usually have fruit and tea after a meal, and what is a modern American bride without cupcakes? My sister picked up these red velvet and cream cheese frosted lovelies from Suzannes, one of the new local cupcakeries in the area!!

And after everyone left, my mother, sister, and I relaxed on the couch as they opened the hostess gifts I brought: wine glasses for my sister, and pinking sheers for my mother (Abby got Chinese coasters that I sent in the mail).

Later that evening, Mr. P showed up to get the debrief, some leftovers, and help me pack the car with all the goodies!

It was a fabulous time, with so much genuine love and kindness, that I have a renewed sense of gratefulness for my friends and family.

Did you have a themed shower?  What was the theme, and what was your favorite gift of the day?