Weddingbee Blog

Pardon the brief interruption from the honeymoon recap while we bring you a glimpse into the groom’s side of the wedding planning equation! Our photographer, Samantha Warren, recently ran a series of guest posts on her blog, titled “Bride’s Side”. She asked her previous clients to give advice to her future clients in the form of a blog post. Well, today she had to change up the title of her series just a bit, because Mr. Tiramisu volunteered (his wife may have coaxed him just a little) to offer his point of view, as well.

In response to Sam asking us, “What do you know now that you wish you had known then?”, Mr. Tiramisu had the following to say:

You always hear people say, “It was the best day of my life,” when describing their wedding day, but I guess I never truly believed them. Sure, weddings are fun, but the best day, out of all the days in your life? Surely unlikely. When people get married they’re old enough to have lived many thousands of days (I hope), and continue to enjoy many thousands of days after the wedding. The time that makes up that one day is a drop in the bucket of life. Right? I mean, it sounds like something husband says fishing for brownie points from wife. Picking that one day you joined her out of the thousands- how can you lose with that one? Smart play, guys.

But… now I’m a believer. I wish someone had drilled through my thick skull that it was going to be the best day of my life, and you should prepare yourself as such. As an ADD groom with a big family and an out of state wedding to help plan, I was overwhelmed and disillusioned by the whole wedding planning bonanza. I let some of that malaise carry over into my wedding day expectations. Don’t do that. You will be gravely mistaken.

There is only one day in your whole life when all of your best friends and closest family gather in one place to celebrate that you and the love of your life have found each other. One day. The only day that college buddies, uncles, neighbors, your grandmother, your wife’s grandmother, and people you have never met will raise a glass, and cut a rug together in name of your eternal happiness. That, is a great day by any definition. The best day, by mine.

Sam also had a series of questions for her participants to answer. Here are a few of Mr. T’s responses:

Favorite wedding moment: When the power went out, the cake almost fell over, the lawn furniture blew away, hail dotted the grounds, and I saw the band pour water out of their speakers, I looked around and saw that people were smiling, laughing, enjoying themselves, and that my wife was still glowing just as brightly as ever. I’ll never forget that moment of relief and peacefulness.

Detail that was worth it: Signature Drinks- those Dark n’ Stormies were a hit, which explains a lot about our guests’ post-reception antics!

Detail that was a waste: We rented extra lights because we were paranoid about the lighting being too weak in the tent—they were totally unnecessary and kept tripping the circuit breaker.

Best wedding splurge: The Band. They rocked the house/tent/swampy grass patch.

Best wedding steal: The lanterns with LED lights that we put together ourselves—we spent $250 on them and the rental company wanted over $5K!

My best advice is: Listen closely to what your partner wants. That can go a long way towards a smoothly planned wedding. Do your best to make your wedding great, but if you can’t pull off what you’ve dreamed of, don’t worry. Your family and friends are what make the wedding—everything else is a bonus.

You can see the rest of the post here.

Mr. Tiramisu’s was the thirteenth entry in this advice-filled series. You can check out more of the entries on Sam’s blog here.