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Mrs. Mary Jane, Grand Forks, ND Age and Occupation: 26, Instructional Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Lead Programmer Engagement Date: February 28, 2009 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: City Hall About Me: I'm a career woman on the surface and a homemaker at heart. I love fast cars and high heels, and my favorite food is cake. Mr. Mary Jane and I are both full-time employees and students, and we just bought our first house. We love to curl up on the couch with buttery popcorn, Sour Patch Kids, and the latest Netflix arrival -- whenever we can get a break from everyday life.
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I Have Issues [Part 1]

April 29th, 2009 @ 12:12 pm by Mrs. Mary Jane

I’m a nail biter, I have acne, and I don’t like vegetables.

How’s that for a super-fun way to start a post? Well, it’s all true. These are issues I’ve been trying to deal with for years, and as my wedding day approaches they’re becoming even more important to me. This is the first post of a three-part series about wedding-inspired self-improvement.

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Nail biting is the problem that should be the easiest to solve. I have thin, peeling, flaking, easy-to-break nails. I always have. I can’t open a soda can or shampoo bottle without cracking a nail off, and they frequently get caught and tear on fabrics and other seemingly harmless surfaces. And to make matters worse, I bite ’em. I don’t technically chomp on them, but I passively gnaw on them when I’m nervous, bored, or simply when my hands are unoccupied. I do it while reading, while doing homework, while sitting in meetings at work, while driving… you get the picture. The main reason I do it is because my nails are so jagged and flaky all the time. I feel like I need to use my teeth to even them out a little. Not only does it look gross and childish for me to constantly have my fingers in my mouth, but it also further weakens nails that were fragile to begin with. I love having painted nails, but my nails bend and peel so easily that no manicure ever lasts more than a day or two. Now that I’m engaged, my hands get more attention than they used to. People sometimes ask to see my ring, and I know there will be photos of my hands on my wedding day too. I really want my hands to look nice.

Since getting engaged, I’ve taken these steps to help stop my nasty nail-noshing tendencies:

1. I take a calcium supplement with my supper. Part of the reason my nails are so thin and flaky is that I don’t eat enough dairy or drink enough milk. I just don’t like a lot of it very much. You can only go so far on cheese and ice cream! As a woman, there are a lot more important reasons than fingernails to increase one’s calcium intake, so I feel good about this step.

2. I keep nail files everywhere. I went to Target and bought a 12 pack of emery boards for under $2. I keep one in my purse, one at work, one in my school bag, one in my car, one by my chair at home… you get the picture. Since my fingers seem to end up in my mouth because they’re uneven, I didn’t want to give myself that excuse anymore. Hangnail? Break? Chip? Flaking? I have a file. No excuse to resort to teeth.

3. I moisturize. I bought some Burt’s Bees Cuticle Cream. I have some at work and some at home, and I put it on a few times a day. Not only does it help keep the raw cuticles and hangnails at bay, but I also don’t care to eat it (and hence, if my fingers are all greased up with this stuff, they won’t be in my mouth).

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4. I’m aware of what I’m doing. Self-awareness goes a long way. To just be able to internally say, “You’re biting your nail. Stop it.” is a big step for me.

My results haven’t been perfect, but I have made some progress and I definitely have longer, nicer nails than ever before.

Have you got any bad habits you’re trying to kick before you say “I Do”?

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lobstergirl (message)  260 posts, Helper bee

have you tried pre-natal vitamins, or those specifically for enhancing nails and hair. Also their are some nail strngtheners out there that are pretty good.

 
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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,565 posts, Bee Keeper

Have you considered adding a b-vitamin (like biotin) to your regimen? I take one for hair growth, and it’s also supposed to help your nails…since starting it, I’ve definitely noticed a difference in their strength. Also, when I get stressed, the top layer of my nails sometimes peels and cracks…and with biotin in my system, that doesn’t really happen anymore!

 
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Sheri

i have weak nails too, and although im not a biter, they easily break, then snag, then tear. then repeat. ive started using sephora by OPI strengthener. so far they are lots stronger (i’ve only been using it about a week). we’ll see if the cracking stops too!

 
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Miss Bear Cub (message)  1,566 posts, Bumble bee

my fiancé is a nail-biter. The main reason I want him to quit is so his scraggly nails won’t scrape me!
I always keep nail clippers on me. Nail files can work, too, but are they suitable for brittle nails?
Have you tried nailtiques for the brittle nails? It’s a protein-enhanced nail strengthener! (not really nail polish). I love it!

 
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FlipFlopBride (message)  1,437 posts, Bumble bee

i bite my nails, too, and for the same reasons. but my REALLY bad habit is biting the skin around my nails. i know it’s really gross, but there’s not a lotion out there that can make those tough edges go away. must be genetic.

I’m going to get some Burt’s Bees and see if that works for me. :)

 
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Miss Bear Cub (message)  1,566 posts, Bumble bee

BTW I love burt’s lemon cuticle cream!!

 
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L

I hope you also write a post about the acne!
At least you’re tall… I’m petite so I really look like a teenager and feel like one whenever I look at my face. I sometimes wonder why I still have acne if I’m not a teenager anymore! It stresses me out just thinking about it, and I have no idea how to get rid of it.

*sigh*

 
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aliangel64 (message)  135 posts, Blushing bee

Try chewing gum - it will keep your mouth busy (and I mean that in the most PG way). It definitely helps me when I’m concentrating on something or stressed, which is when I tend to start chewing.

 
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Emmy

My nails used to be the same way - weak and peeling - and easy to tear. I tired everything - nutri-nail strengthener, cream, pre-natel viatamins etc. None of those worked. Then I started changing my diet to be heatlhier - my diet was awful. Once I added more veggies, H2O, healthy protein and fiber to my diet, my nails completely changed! Now they grow long and healthy - they look so nice, I don’t want to bite them anymore to even them out or fix rough edges. I can’t believe they are my nails!

I know one of your goals is to change your diet - I am sure it will help your nails, too! (and maybe acne).

 
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LatteLove (message)  5,587 posts, Bee Keeper

we must have the same nails!! I bite my thin flaky annoying nails ALL. THE. TIME.
fiance hates it. he will sometimes pull my fingers away from my mouth.

Too bad he lives across the country and can’t be a on nail-biting duty all the time.

 
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edb (message)  415 posts, Helper bee

Your protein intake should also affect your nail strength - are you sure you are getting enough? With filing, make sure you file mostly in one direction - otherwise you weaken the nail.

Does it help you quit to know that nail biting can cause tapeworm?

 
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TheEditrix (message)  135 posts, Blushing bee

I too have naturally crappy nails. I don’t typically bite them (though I do sometimes chew on my cuticles — ick) but it seems like they’ll split (horizontally) even when I’m doing my best to keep up with a nail care routine. I have even considered getting fakes for the wedding, though usually a plain ol’ pro manicure can make them look good even when they’re short.

I did find one pretty good strengthener at the salon — Duri Rejuvacote. I haven’t seen it at any other stores but you can buy it online. If you follow the directions on the box it does work better for me than a lot of other strengtheners I’ve tried (including OPI’s Nail Envy, Nailtiques and you name it).

I love the Burt’s Bees stuff! When I’m at home I try to use Solar Oil pretty regularly. Makes a world of difference … when I can remember to keep using it!

 
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Serena

@edb:

That would be the same as telling a smoker all the negative side effects of smoking (and there are oh-so-many more than nail-biting) but that doesn’t necessarily make them stop.
Tons of people smoke even with the warning write on the cigarette packs. It takes strong will to quit.

 
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Hilary

It sounds to me like these three issues go hand in hand. Eat healthier (more veggies) and it will help your acne and nail strength. Eating veggies may be hard for you, but won’t it help to know that it may help your other two “issues”?

 
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flbeachbride (message)  497 posts, Helper bee

Definitely take a biotin daily - it has done wonders for my nail-splitting/cracking, although I don’t bite them (anymore, but as of like 12 years ago). That will most definitely help with the stregth!

 
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ATbride (message)  81 posts, Worker bee

I was a chronic nail biter as well, until about a month ago. I decided one day that I wanted pretty nails for my wedding, and that 30-something was too old to still have this habit. So, I enlisted some friends at work to help remind me to stop biting, and I hung a paper clip off my computer monitor - each day I didn’t bite my nails, I could add a clip to the chain… and if I bit, then they all had to go back in the drawer. A silly encouragement system…. but it has worked for me! Good luck - I know how tough a habit it is to break!!

 
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sassypants

I swear by biotin!!!

 
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Miss Snowflake (message)  597 posts, Busy bee

Wow, are you me? :) I’ve been a nail biter as long as I can remember, and I’ve had the same thoughts… I want my hands to look nice on my wedding day, but I can’t see to stop biting!!! It’s not so much my nails (ok that’s a lie) but I, like FlipFlopBride, have really tough, dry skin around my nails and even my cuticles. I’m sure it’s a side-effect of all the biting, but I can’t seem to stop! Maybe I’ll try that Burts Bees stuff and see if it helps… and the biotin vitamin. Thanks, Miss Bruchetta and Miss Mary Jane!

 
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Zoe

wow, it’s like looking into a mirror b/c I do the exact same thing! Must check out this cuticle cream…. :)

 
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Kristal

Just like FlipFlopBride and Miss Snowflake I am not only a chronic nail biter but I also bite the skin around my nails. I’ve been a biter for as long as I can remember. When I was younger, my mom even tried soaking my fingertips in nail polish remover thinking I wouldn’t bite them when they tasted like acetone. Wrong. I still chewed on them. (I know…gross right?) Is there a Nail Biters Anonymous group we can all join for support? lol

 
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Mrs. Mary Jane, Grand Forks, ND Age and Occupation: 26, Instructional Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Lead Programmer Engagement Date: February 28, 2009 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: City Hall About Me: I'm a career woman on the surface and a homemaker at heart. I love fast cars and high heels, and my favorite food is cake. Mr. Mary Jane and I are both full-time employees and students, and we just bought our first house. We love to curl up on the couch with buttery popcorn, Sour Patch Kids, and the latest Netflix arrival -- whenever we can get a break from everyday life.

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