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Mrs. Stiletto, Chicago Age and Occupation: 26, Non-Profit/Fundraising Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Engineer and Photographer Engagement Date: March 2, 2008 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: The 19th Century Club About Me: My fiance and I love living in the city of Chicago with our cats Basil and Linus, and vow to never move to the suburbs if we can possibly avoid it! We’ve poured ourselves into planning a wedding that reflects our personal style - modern and high contrast with a vintage twist. Blogging keeps me creative, baking keeps me happy, and grande nonfat no foam sugar free vanilla lattes keep me sane.
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Some Middle School Dancin’

May 3rd, 2009 @ 3:00 pm by Mrs. Stiletto

Why, you ask, will the Stilettos be doing some middle school dancing? This Stiletto isn’t so much of a dancer, sadly. It seems fitting, really, considering the scope of our relationship. Mr. S and I actually have a definite role reversal in many aspects of our relationship. He’s a fanatical cleaner (seriously, I’ve never cleaned the bathroom since we’ve lived together), a great cook, and always seems to know when we’re running low on the essentials like toilet paper and hand soap. If it were left to me, we’d be running to the store in a panic as each of these items ran out. I’m a much more laid back member of the household, and tend to be the one leaving shoes out and not seeing the reason for making the bed in the morning (seriously, aren’t we just going to mess it up again?!).

Anyway, where was I? Oh yes - dancing. The stereotype seems to be that women are usually better dancers and the guys struggle with no rhythm and generally avoid the dance floor. I, sadly, am the wallflower of our duo. Mr. S has natural confidence on the dance floor and is just so darn cute. In recent years, I’ve finally started going out onto the dance floor, but I need a good dose of vodka tonic to really get me going. And, let’s be honest, I probably look like a ridiculous fool… but I’ve had to make my peace with that.

So, for the first dance, I’m not anticipating any fancy twirls or big dips. I’m thinking more along the lines of my hands on his shoulders, his hands on my hips, and some awkward swaying back and forth.

Did I also mention that I absolutely hate being the center of attention, and the thought of our wedding day could easily bring on a cold, panicky sweat? So, when Mr. S and I are out there swaying to the music, I want it to be a great song that is personal and emotional… and us, of course! We’ve finally narrowed it down to three “swaying” songs.

Song #1: Jason Mraz featuring Colbie Caillat “Lucky”

This is a song that wasn’t particularly personal for us. I happened to hear it on the radio and just thought it would be perfect (and, I’ve also had a bit of a crush on Jason Mraz). I really love the line, “Lucky I’m in love with my best friend.” Aww. Mr. S is completely my best friend. Hands down.

Song #2: The Decemberists “Crane Wife 3″

Sorry for the sub-par version of this - I always want to make sure whatever YouTube video I post won’t be taken down for any reason. Anyway, if you don’t know this song, you should. It’s beautiful, and always makes me think of Mr. S. However, it also makes me think of a couple of his friends, for whom he shot engagement pictures for last year. He used this song for the slide show he created, so I always associate it with that. But, I love the song!

Song #3: Iron and Wine “Resurrection Fern”

Mr. S had suggested this song a little while back. I listened to it, and immediately said no. I listened to it later while driving home from a wedding… and fell in love. It’s gorgeous. But, they’re not the most wedding-ish lyrics, are they? I was looking online for the meaning of the song, and it definitely doesn’t seem to be a love song. But, does that really matter?

Okay, so this is the moment of truth. Do you have thoughts on songs #1, #2 or #3? I have my favorite of the three. What’s yours?

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27 Responses to “Some Middle School Dancin’”

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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,553 posts, Bee Keeper

The Decemberists! I love those guys! Take the song back and make it your own. ;-)

 
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Miss Marine (message)  141 posts, Blushing bee

Oh I really like “lucky” but I think that you should pick the song that has the most sentimental meaning to you! I also think that the Iron and Wine song is a little hard to dance to…..

 
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melodicsighs1 (message)  804 posts, Busy bee

i love crane wife, but do you know the story it’s based on? seems quite a sad song for a wedding.

 
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xLailax (message)  234 posts, Helper bee

I like pick #2, I’ve actually never heard it before your post, and I really like it. I like #3 too, but the Decemberists would be my first pick… do let us know what you decide on!

 
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Miss Marine (message)  141 posts, Blushing bee

oh! I forgot to mention that I think we’ll be dancing to “Heavenly Day” by Patty Griffin

 
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Emilydll (message)  428 posts, Helper bee

I love the Jason Mraz song but think it better fits a beach wedding for some reason.
So my vote is #3, I think it’s a beautiful song and would be easy to dance to! :)

 
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Rhonda

“Lucky” is one of our choices, but it’s a song close to our hearts. I think the Decemberists sounds like a great choice for you

 
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lobstergirl (message)  223 posts, Helper bee

FH and I are using Lucky for our San Diego wedding. He and I were friends long before we ever dated (5 years to be exact), plus having moved from San Diego, we long to move back. I really like #3 as well. I agree miss marine about picking the song most meaningful to you.

 
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miss mouse (message)  3,354 posts, Sugar bee

I say go with Iron & White. I love him! And this song in particular is beautiful!

 
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Krissy

they’re all great choices, but i am a little biased toward ‘lucky’ cos that’s what we picked for ours =)

 
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Maude (message)  326 posts, Helper bee

I’m very partial to Iron and Wine over the other two :)

 
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And Enide

I really like “Resurrection Fern,” but I think your first reaction may be right. The resurrection fern gets its name from its ability to survive long droughts by drying out and then “coming back to life” when it rains. It lives on larger trees, especially oaks, so it’s a beautiful image of an intimate relationship between lovers. Even with these images, I can’t figure out the song’s meaning either. I deeply suspect its about a couple recovering, “coming back to life,” after some sort of physical or emotional loss.

It’s a gorgeous song, but the phrase, “And the falling house across the way, it’ll keep everything: the baby’s breath, our bravery wasted and our shame” probably doesn’t belong in a first dance.

 
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MightySapphire (message)  2,608 posts, Sugar bee

We’re using #1 for ours…AWW!! So I have to vote for #1!!

 
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Bentley (message)  27 posts, Newbee

I love the first one!!!

 
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Jo

Uh, the Decemberists wrote an amazing song, but considering it’s based on a story about a guy who killed his wife… I’d say it’s completely inappropriate for a first dance.

 
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ladyjane

Well, the crane wife legend isn’t exactly about a guy killing his wife… In most tellings, she flies away because he becomes greedy and peeks in on her weaving. So it is still a sad song, but not necessarily as inappropriate as one about killing your wife :)

That being said, the first dance is the one tune you know people will be paying attention to. While I dearly love Mr. Meloy and Co., you may want to consider a more positive love song.

 
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Miss Starlet (message)  210 posts, Helper bee

I was just going to comment almost the exact same thing as ladyjane.
I suppose it could be sad, or it could be opened up as your own interpretation of the song. If I heard the song at a wedding, I would see it as a tender moment with the couple promising to trust and honor and appreciate each other, because the worst thing that could happen would be losing the other person for whatever reason. It is a heart wrenching song. I absolutely love it. Not for us for a first dance, but I would want to hang out with the couple that would use it.
BTW, I think we’re using “fade Into You” by Mazzy Star or “Pistol” by Dustin Kensrue.

 
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Sarah Stahl

Love “Lucky” It’s beautiful and emotional. It will keep your guests watching…wondering…what you will do next!

 
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bruyere (message)  47 posts, Newbee

I am pretty heavily biased toward Iron & Wine (love, love, love him!), and actually pretty biased against Jason Mraz. It’s a fun song, and I like it, but it seems like his songs are so popular for weddings at the moment, and I’d rather do something a bit more unexpected.

 
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Miss Stiletto (message)  765 posts, Busy bee

Thanks all for your feedback :) I guess what we have to weigh out is how much the lyrics really matter vs. what the song means to us!

Oh and when I was talking to Mr. S about this post, he was like “I wasn’t thinking about The Decemberists” for our first dance. Ha! So I guess that one is out ;)

 
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Jo

@ladyjane: Oh, fair enough. I should have assumed there were tamer versions floating around, like every folk/fairy tale.

I grew up with the “she overworked herself and died because of his greed” version, and when I looked it up again after hearing that song, I could only find the versions where she died.

 
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Miss Peep Toe (message)  1,636 posts, Bumble bee

If you are still looking for a first dance song- go to Pandora. Plug in your two maybe songs and then listen to see if something else pops up that you like better. Just an idea- that’s what I did to find our song. Jaymay- You are the only one I love.

 
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Miss Stiletto (message)  765 posts, Busy bee

@Miss Peep Toe:
Ooh great idea! :)

 
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LatteLove (message)  4,120 posts, Honey bee

I love the Decemberists song!

@Miss Peep Toe: I’ve been using pandora to pick out a lot of songs for our reception playlists!

 
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Miss Cowboy Boot (message)  260 posts, Helper bee

I was considering Resurrection Fern too (regardless of its lyrics) but the tune is so sad.

 
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Mrs. Flamingo (message)  1,267 posts, Bumble bee

I’m a Jason Mraz fan, but I’m Yours remains my favorite from him. I like that last one too… If ever your out of ideas, I blogged about lots of unique loves songs (on my other blog)
http://glamourthis.wordpress.com/?s=love+song&searchbutton=Go!

Best of luck - either way…. they are all great :)

 
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TechGirl (message)  269 posts, Helper bee

@Miss Starlet: I completely agree with you. You can look at this way: his wife loved him so much that she did what she did, even if it meant hurting herself, for him. Not to say that you should hurt yourself but marriage is about compromise and sometimes sacrifice. It’s a beautiful song and story. Our string trio will play this while I walk down the aisle.

 


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