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After the toasts have been made, the cake has been cut, and the garter has been tossed, the bride and groom make their way to the nuptial bed. I mean, wasn’t that the point? Okay, we obviously haven’t exactly saved ourselves for marriage*, but yeah, after the party is over, I’m guessing he’s going to expect a little party of our own, and probably wants his present wrapped in a pretty package.
The pretty package is causing some serious stress around here.
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Why?
Well, despite all my efforts to disguise and hide them, my Double-Ds have a mind all of their own. They are front and center, present and accounted for. I’m not exactly tall, or particularly thin, but 34DD is a difficult size. I imagine there are girls out there in the hive with bigger burdens than mine, but 34DD is my burden, and it’s a heavy load.
The pretty package is extremely elusive.
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A girlfriend of mine got me the most gorgeous baby doll, not too different from the one above. It was not my friend. The Girls were escaping! It was not pretty.
Now, I realize the point is not support or coverage, but seriously, it was gross.
The problem here is that I’m a petite DD. However, most companies assume that because a girl needs a large cup, then she must be proportional. By the time I get lingerie that’s big enough in the cup to even look right, the rest of the piece swallows me whole. It’s like a lingerie muumuu. The bust fits, but I could have a small party in the rest of the thing. Oh, and the matching panties? Well… we’ll just leave it at that. You get the idea.
In high hopes that Vicki would be able to help, my girlfriend and I ran over to the mall. I, of course, fell in love with a set that is just to die for.
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Um, Yes please. Doesn’t it remind you of my rehearsal dinner dress (that isn’t my rehearsal dinner dress anymore… more on that later)? Lovely and eyelet-y. So, they didn’t have my size. I asked a sales girl.
“Oh, we don’t carry lingerie in that size, we only carry sizes up to 36C. “
Uh… what? Like, not in the store, but maybe I can order it off the website? No, Vicki’s doesn’t make lingerie in anything bigger than a 36C. That is so discriminatory. The sales girl suggested Fredrick’s of Hollywood.
Frustrated, we left. Later that evening, we curled up on the couch and browsed lingerie. I was not at all impressed with Frederick’s. Yeah, they have my size, but nothing was terribly cute. I went back to Vicki, with hopes that something might work.
I ended up ordering two different options.
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I’m afraid neither will work, but I’ll let y’all know.
*BTW, the mister and I have decided to abstain until the wedding… We’ll see how that goes…
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We always want what we don’t have! I’d kill for this problem… I have so little going on in the chest area, I too can hardly wear anthing.. most cups look like baggy pockets! I haven’t even started looking for my pretty package yet because it’s also quiet discouraging for me for the opposite reason! If only people like you could do a little redistributing, you know, help a sister out!! Haha. Your choices look great though, I hope they work for you!
My girls are also a large burden and I’m stressed about “dressing my package” too. I’ve had no luck with VS.
However, I found luck with Frederick’s of Hollywood and used their registery to ensure my girlfriends purchased “wrapping” that fit. I’ve also had luck with places like TJ Maxx.
Good luck!
I have trouble getting the bra tops on lingerie to fit me well too– have you thought about slips that don’t have cups…something like this might work:
http://www2.victoriassecret.com/commerce/onlineProductDisplay.vs?namespace=productDisplay&origin=onlineProductDisplay.jsp&event=display&prnbr=CN-181645&page=1&cgname=OSSLPBABZZZ&rfnbr=5251&atb=C
I always have a similar problem when I’m looking for bras/lingerie. I’m 5′2″, a pretty petite frame, but my honkers are 32D! Few companies even MAKE that size!
What’s the deal with “typical” bra sizes? Any girl knows that boobs can be anything but a typical size. (especially after pregnancy… I’m a little nervous to see what’s going to happen then!)
Have you tried a local independent lingerie store? My 32Ds dont like the big chains, or rather the chains dont like them.
Um, SO don’t have this issue — mine’s the complete other end of the spectrum…and soon, I’ll be pulling together a post explaining more, with specifics about how I’m coping (mainly with my wedding dress!).
Le Mystere, I’ve found has some very nice things for slightly mis-proportioned girls such as ourselves(hey, it’s compliment, apparently people pay lots of money to have what we have - although I can’t really think of a good reason why). Introducing: figleaves.com. pricey(depending on your definition of pricy) but totally worth it as they carry some styles up to ridiculous sizes such as 28J! Hang in there, it’s tough but you can definitely find something! As a 32G/H I totally feel for you!
I feel for ya.
I haven’t tackled this issue yet, so hopefully the readers have some great suggestions so I don’t get equally frustrated!
I TOTALLY feel ya! I have found (if you can get over your insecurities…) that *tailoring* helps a lot. Sure, you don’t want anyone else seeing you in that little number. But if you can find a female tailor who is willing, you can get the large size and then bring the rest down to scale. I’m telling you, you’ve never felt so sexy as when the item is made to fit! (And you can wear jeans to the fitting BTW.)
I work at Vickys and it is certainly frustrating when we cannot properly fit a customer.
Perhaps you could try going up in the band size, which should (somewhat) allow for the reduction in cup size? I know at a 34 D, I can fit into a 36 C also.
CC- totally their with ya!!!! I received a ton of Vicki’s stuff at my shower and it all had to be returned. I have yet to order anything else. Seriously ridiculous that they don’t carry above a C!!
A few suggestions- Gap Body- I swear by that place. Not extremely sexy, but great for the girls. Nordies or Macy’s. And finally, I just bought the best little number from Anthropologie- for the wedding night!!!
CC I hear yah! Nothing cute comes in our size
@Rina-roo: Thanks for the recommendation of Figleaves.com… I’ve never heard of that and they bathing suits too!
Ok… I totally relate to you. I’m a 32F and I’ve completely given up on VS. What I do suggest is http://www.barenecessities.com or http://www.figleaves.com . They cover every size imaginable for bras, figleaves carries swimwear, and I’m sure they probably have some great sets in appropriate sizing for both top and bottom. My only advice would be to make sure that the size you’re looking for matches up with their sizing (check to make sure whether it’s US, UK, or European because it makes a difference). I hope this helps 
As you know, I have the opposite problem. Grr. I like the last one!
I’m only a single D, but I hear you loud and clear! I wouldn’t trade my girls for anything, but they’re quite a challenge to dress. Everything’s push-up padded (like I need any help!), or boring, basic colors. I have this problem with regular clothes, too, and have to be careful to try things on before I buy from certain stores - Target, for instance, does not design for thin-but-well-endowed women.
Luckily, I’ve also found that the guys I’ve dated (including my dear husband) don’t really care for the lingerie so much as what’s underneath it… so I can feel better thinking of all the money I’m saving by not finding anything that fits me.
I wear a 34G (that’s four Ds, grr) and I have all but given up on fancy underthings. I wear t-shirts and pants/shorts to bed. I am off to check out some of these stores. I’ve heard of figleaves (they had a crazy 90% off sale this past Christmas) but didn’t think to look there. Thanks for the idea!
I have the exact same problem! Petite, but curvy. Have you tried figleaves.com? I just ordered a bikini from them that it actually my size!
Figleaves is great, I am 34DD (although very much “proportional”, much to my dismay =) and only recently had a “bra-revelation” when I found the fantasie line.
Their sales can’t be beat.
Ugh. I feel your pain. I’m a 34dd too, and with the rest of me being a size four I can never find cute lingerie that isn’t way too small in the chest or way too big in the rest. Maybe try Frederick’s of Hollywood? You have to be selective - I think some of their stuff is a little too over the top - but they do have more sizes.
I’m a 32 DD, or even a 30D sometimes.. and it’s a pain!
Elle MacPherson has really pretty, really sexy bras and lingerie. It’s a bit more expensive, but the quality is great and it really lasts. I usually go to Bloomingdales or Neiman Marcus (if you have one near you). You didn’t mention bathing suits, but check out http://www.ozeresort.com.au.. there’s a brand called Jets by Jessika Allen that sells tops and bottoms separately, and even has DD tops (that are CUTE, not granny).
Hope that helps! VS is the worst.
Amen! I haven’t started that search yet, but I’m dreading it.
I’m also a 34DD! so I totally feel your pain. I have one piece of lingerie that I got at Target of all places which actually fits right (although the matching undies are a bit big and loose, they still stay on)
GOOD luck in your search! Let us know how it works out!
Could you maybe find something in this style that can lace up so you can make it fit you in all the right areas? http://www.fredericks.com/Embellished_Bustier/45695,default,pd.html?cgid=lingerie%20-%20by%20style-bustiers%20%26%20corsets
I’ve had really good luck with the Wacoal lines (Macy’s carries them). I’m a 36/38DD sometimes DDD and the Wacoal bras are pretty, they cover, and they support. They also have some matching sets of bra/panties/garter. They aren’t cheap, but the bras have lasted years with machine washing and drying (in a lingerie bag, of course).
I feel ya! I’m the same size - 34DD with a smaller frame. I thought I was the only one who VS didn’t make anything for - and those babydolls are SO not attractive. I actually found luck at Fredricks too - though I had to try on a lot of things I typically didn’t think I’d like. I ended up LOVING their cute corset tops that have a skirt-ish bottom.
Good luck girl - it’s not easy and really kills the mood!
As a 36 C, Victoria’s Secret has annoyed me before, too. And don’t even try getting a bathing suit there–the XL will be too small (even though the chart says it will fit). Now that’s depressing.
Who would have thought VS prefers the smaller boobs? From the looks of their catalog…I never would have guessed!
I totally feel your pain, I too have the issue of 34DD’s on me. Being a size 3 in dress with a big chest makes for interesting cloths hunting, things are too big in some places and too small in others… good luck with the hunt and with staying “pure” from now till marriage.
Yeah, I’m a 36D and a ton of lingerie stores, even chain stores, dont carry that. Seriously? I am NOT a big girl by any stretch!!
Ok, I’m a big girl and the girls are even bigger so I totally feel your pain!
Everyone has said Fredrick’s is the place to go because they have everything you could ever want and need to support and still look sexy. Lane Bryant has some sexy bras too and they have 14 - but not sure what size you need?
Good luck with holding out until the wedding! I know you can do it!!
I’m on the opposite end of the spectrum. I’m only 34A, and VS only carries very limited selection for the little ladies (at least stores around me). Vicki just isn’t very accommodating.
I totally know how you feel! I’m a petite 32DD and have struggled finding things that work. I ended up with a ’slip’ of sorts from Vicki’s that came in XS-XL sizing. That was the best I could come up with for the price point I was looking for!
If it makes you feel any better, I often can’t find the cute stuff in a 32A, either
Haha, “lingerie muumuu”! My older sister has some big knockers and went to VS with a friend and I once. My friend picked up a bra in her size and my sister accidentally blurted out “I couldn’t fit a nipple in that!” We still joke about it nearly 10 years later.
I hope you find something that works out! And btw, I’ve talked to 3 recently married friends and the “party” doesn’t usually happen until at least the next morning since you’ll be so tired…
I am a 32D and LOVE Nordstrom. They will measure and fit you for bras and even order stuff from other stores if they don’t have something in your size that works. Their customer service is top notch in every department.
I heard a lady in the fitting rooms one day and she said, “Are they supposed to look like that?” and the saleslady was like, “yes”. they had been in there together for ages working on her fit. You could hear the relief in that woman’s voice when her something-Es were up where they were supposed to be.
Another lady that I know had a husband with two different size feet - Nordstrom was one of the only places that would sell them two pairs for the price of one!
I like figleaves but dislike having to order a bunch of stuff to return it. Sometimes I find my favorite bras from Nordstrom in Marshalls or TJMaxx, which is where i buy all of my lingerie. They sell high quality lingerie, usually, but it’s not always available.
AND, just wanted to mention that JCrew has D sizing for bathing suits online.
I SO UNDERSTAND!
I am a 34F
Apparently if you are only supposed to have big boobs if you are a lot bigger around. Or not interested in wearing lingerie.
So please do let us know how that works out and if you find any other places who carry stuff that is well-suited to us.
Incidentally I am worried about having a lingerie shower for this very reason :-/
ohmigod, i have your problem. 34DD and I’m petite and have a really small waist so everything looks ridiculous! try the elle macpherson line. i’ve had amazing success with her stuff and it comes in my size!
oh and go to journelle.com. it’s the anti-victoria’s secret store and it’s awesome. and they have real sizes too!
thanks so much for the ideas girls! I’m a size 2 and 34 DDD. i’m having a “personal shower” in a few weeks, and my sister had to ask specifically for gift receipts, just because i’m so hard to fit. i feel so bad…if i were in the place of my friends, i would have NO CLUE what to buy!
I’m only a single D but I’ve always loathed VS for employing models that are that size or larger and then not actually selling stuff that fits (yes they do have bras but not rest). Until they started carrying swimwear in the store, I wasted many a shipping charge hoping their cute cheap suits could fit.
I actually get lots of adorable and well-fitting lingerie at Macy’s, including what I’ll be wearing under my dress.
I have the same problem! You would think that with so many people getting “enhancements” now a days us natural girls would be able to benefit by larger cups on smaller outfits! Good luck finding something!
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Age and Occupation: 25, Registered Nurse
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Engagement Date: April 6, 2008
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