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Mrs. Glitter, Los Angeles Age and Occupation: 27, Research Consultant/Writer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Accounting Engagement Date: May 6, 2007 Wedding Date: June, 2009 Venue: Millenium Biltmore Hotel About Me: I was born and raised in West Los Angeles, California. I spent eight years in the Northeast working and completing my education. Having split time between two sides of the country has given me a true appreciation for both coasts. It has also provided an overabundance of cross country drives, flights and long distance relationship fun/misery! I love my family, my doggy Emma, fabulous wine, Anthropologie, politics, reading, being outdoors, exploring new cities, and good movies! My fiance and I are complete opposites, but somehow we have managed to fall completely and hopelessly in love.
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Registry Lessons

May 5th, 2009 @ 5:50 pm by Mrs. Glitter

Many months ago, Mr. G and I were shopping and found ourselves at Macy’s. On a whim, we decided to start our registry. We were like kids in a candy store. Armed with our complimentary Swiss Army tote bag, we used the scanner to swipe anything we imagined might look “cute” in our condo. Eventually we grew tired and confused by all of the options, so we gave up and went home.

A few months later, we were at the mall and registered at Crate and Barrel. Again, we got sidetracked by looking at pretty things. I think I scanned three different cake plates, a dessert cookbook, and Mr. G scanned a ridiculously expensive chair. Are we sensing a pattern here? Yep, Mr. G and I were suffering from what I deemed “purposeless registry syndrome”. Purposeless registry syndrome usually occurs when couples get “scanner happy”, experience confusion over what they need versus what they want, and generally waste a bunch of time.

Creating a registry is a process, and I’ve realized a few things along the way.

  1. Take On As Much As You Can Handle. The task of managing two registries stressed me out, so I made the executive decision to nix the Crate and Barrel registry. While I love C & B, I wanted to be able to look at one list and focus on one store.
  2. Get Organized. Arrive at your store(s) of choice with a good idea of what you might need; perhaps bring a list of your own. Most stores provide a generic list of common registry items for you, but it never hurts to do your homework ahead of time.
  3. Don’t start too early. When I finally sat down and started editing our Macy’s registry, I realized we had registered way too early (7 or 8 months prior). Many of the items we originally had picked out were either discontinued, no longer available, or sold out.
  4. Scan with a purpose. We were registered for 54 items and with a guest list of 250, Macy’s online suggested we register for 350 items. We don’t need that much stuff. I wanted to be practical while giving the guests a variety of items to choose from. I also kept in mind the budgets of our guests and tried to keep most of the gifts under $100. Here are some examples:
  • We don’t need fancy china, so we registered for everyday “throw around” plates. We decided on a simple white pattern. Therefore, if we break a dish (there’s a good possibility that will happen), it would be easy to replace.
  • We don’t need the big, professional KitchenAid mixer (who am I kidding?), so we registered for a simple hand mixer.
  • We don’t need a state-of-the-art coffeemaker, so we registered for a nice blender.
  • We don’t need fine crystal, so we registered for mismatched cups and glasses we will definitely use everyday.

You get the picture. For me, building our registry was all about practicality and classic style. I aimed for timeless pieces for the kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom that (hopefully) we will use for years to come. I tried to stay away from busy patterns and trendy pieces. Mission accomplished!

Have you completed your wedding registry? How was your experience?

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21 Responses to “Registry Lessons”

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MightySapphire
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MightySapphire (message)  2,608 posts, Sugar bee

As a suggestion, you can use AmazingRegistry.com to combine all your registries into one easy to browse page. I also like to register for gift certificates, and I know one guest said “The shipping was much cheaper.”

 
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Miss French Bulldog
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Miss French Bulldog (message)  6,063 posts, Bee Keeper

We’ve pretty much completed our registry… Mr Frenchie still needs to go over our Target Registry a delete something so we can add it to our website… but we’ve pretty much got it done.
We didn’t do it in one stop though. We’ve been to C&B and Macys a few times to tackle new items. The best advice we received was from a guy @ C&B! He said to go room by room (kitchen, bedroom, bathroom) and to even break the kitchen down into sections (appliances, utensils etc). That way you don’t get overwhelmed :)

 
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leenmachine
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leenmachine (message)  258 posts, Helper bee

We had a pretty smooth experience registering. There was one point where the FI got a little scanner happy but I calmed him down. THankfully, we had a list of what we needed with us and I was firm that if it was not on the list, we don’t need it! I do feel that we don’t have enough on our registry but that’s really ALL we need! I do have a few knives, measuring cup, kitchen utensil stuff sets. Those tend to disappear at times in our household so we can never have enough!

 
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cynpichardo (message)  1 posts, Wannabee

his majesty and i are starting to get ready to register. he has the mind set that “we already have stuff, what do we need more stuff for?”

your post was most helpful. it definitely gave me some ideas. our wedding is in december. it’s a destination wedding, so i’m not quite sure when we should start registering. all of our bridal showers and parties will be done this summer since the fall will be too overwhelming for me.

any opinions/advise?

 
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WorstTwinEver15
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WorstTwinEver15 (message)  760 posts, Busy bee

We haven’t registered yet (no need to, wedding is 16 months away), but I plan on making a list before we go!

 
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Horseshoe
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Horseshoe (message)  16 posts, Newbee

My fiance and I just registered a couple of weeks ago. We wanted the flexibility of registering for items from LOTS of different stores (because we don’t need all that much kitchen stuff, and wanted to be creative with our registry). But we also wanted some family members who aren’t computer savvy to be able to go to a local chain store and buy something in person. So, we settled on Target and one registry that would allow us to combine lots of online shops - MyRegistry.com. I LOVE this site. It’s easy to use and looks beautiful with pictures of all your items. You can also register for larger gifts like a “honeymoon fund” or a “furniture fund” and people can send any amount they want towards that item. There are no sign-up fees or charges to the purchaser or you. It’s great!

 
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Horseshoe
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Horseshoe (message)  16 posts, Newbee

Oh, also wanted to mention Honeyfund.com - that was our 3rd registry. AWESOME site where you can register for gifts on your honeymoon - like “couples massage” or “welcome bottle of champagne” or “jet ski tour”. You create the wishlist and prices, and people can send you the money via Paypal, or print out the gift and give cash/check at the reception. They have nice stock photos you can use to add a visual to each gift. love it!

 
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molly

We’re mid-way through registering (it’s taking a looong time) and I think your tips are good ones. We’re doing 3-4 registries, mostly because there are specific things we want at each store (C&B has our sheets, while BB&B has our preferred kitchen items).

I made an excel spread sheet with a list of all the items we want to register for and then the different stores we’re registering at. As we go, we check off items. This helps us see if we’re duplicating too much and ensures that we’ll get the thing we really want by not having it in two places (we’re only asking for the C&B sheets - i’m so in love with them!).

We’ve also got so many things already that we’re registering for only a handful of stuff for a large number of guests. Our plan is to mention on our website that we’ve got plenty in our home, so they should feel free to double-up with group gifts OR make a donation to a charity that we pick. Otherwise, we’d never make it through 3 showers and a wedding — our house would collapse under the weight of it all!

 
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Miss Glitter (message)  880 posts, Busy bee

@molly: Oooh! I was crazy over a set of C & B sheets as well! I love everything in that store! :)

 
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FoxHunter (message)  25 posts, Newbee

Ahh the registry! Your post was good- I like the rules you went by. As most of us probably are, I am trying to save money and that means cutting down on my shopping (clothes and shoes have suffered the most) so when I feel the urge to shop I go online and review the two registries I started in-store with my FI. I some times add new things and delete items I realize we have no use for. This is my little fun… I know I know I think I have a problem!

 
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Keladry
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Keladry (message)  184 posts, Blushing bee

I understand your frustration with registering so early- my family is pressuring me to register already, and we won’t be married for another year and a half! Most of the merchandise will be out of stock or discontinued by then! I definitely agree with waiting until much closer to the wedding AND that having a list will help you out.

 
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xLailax (message)  233 posts, Helper bee

Registries are messy, but I love your quick tips and I’ll keep them in mind when I go back to my MONTHS old registry. TEEHEE! I’m so bad! :D

 
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Miss Swan (message)  387 posts, Helper bee

I totally agree about being organized about the registry. It made the process pretty smooth when we got to the store. That was a good thing as Mr. Swan has a low tolerance for housewares. :)

I will say we might have registered a bit too early though. I’ve already had to replace one of the sheet sets on one of our registries.

Great advice.

 
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And Enide

We went the same route you did, trying not to register for anything we wouldn’t use for a long time. It’s tough, though, because most of those items are fairly costly. We want all our guests who want to buy us a gift to feel included, but we’re not sure how.

Incidentally, my fiance and I registered through the I Do Foundation. It won’t help you stay organized, but it is a pretty cool program. If guests go through our I Do Foundation website, the partner sites make a donation to the charity of our choice for every purchase. Weddingchannel.com sites, including Macy’s, do the same thing if you sign up for it. The service doesn’t cost you or your guests anything.

 
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Miss D'orsay (message)  1,293 posts, Bumble bee

While we registered early (my MOH told me to) nothing has been discontinued because we didn’t register at Macy’s. I definitely agree going room by room helps a lot. The only piece of advice I have is actually from my sister. She’s been to a couple weddings where (b/c she waited till the last minute) the registry was picked clean with barely anything left. She encouraged me to “over register” so that people who waited till the last minute would still be able to choose from the registry instead of having to guess. Though…we have 80 guests…which is much easier to over register for :)

 
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mary-alice-me
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mary-alice-me (message)  1,870 posts, Buzzing bee

Great advice. I think I need to go back over my registry for the things that are no longer available. I really would like a blanket for the bed, but I think it’s not available in the summer! Bummer for registering early.

 
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Miss Gloss
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Miss Gloss (message)  1,053 posts, Bumble bee

We registered early, only 1 thing has been ‘discontinued’ but I REALLY want it so I’m leaving it on there as long as possible!!

 
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Perk (message)  125 posts, Blushing bee

I have the same experience of advice as Miss D’Orsay- we were told to ‘over-register’ since things get picked over. We are registered at Macy’s and WIlliam’s-Sonoma. While we are registered for moth china and crystal, we have all of the holidays at our house with both families, so it’s something we would use often and what we really want.
Registering was a little difficult for us, mainly because my FI wanted to be ure we had a lot of ‘cheap’ things for our friends to be able to afford, but we didn’t need anything ‘cheap’- we have lived together for over 2 years. When we registered, it was our time to move up the chain from Ikea plates and Walmart sheets. I do agree with manyt- registering can be one of the hardest parts. You want to make everyone else happy, but you need to make yourself ahppy first.

 
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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,553 posts, Bee Keeper

I THINK we’re finished with our registry…but before the wedding, we might do some more tweaking!

 
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pvaulter718
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pvaulter718 (message)  1,596 posts, Bumble bee

HAHA! I think everyone goes a little scanner happy when they register! My fiance scanned a television - I mean, seriously?!? I know our friends and family love us, but uhhh…

 
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Jessie516
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Jessie516 (message)  4,017 posts, Honey bee

I think your advice to “scan with a purpose” is essential. I remember looking at the Macy’s suggestion list and thinking “No WAY do we need all this stuff!” We actually made a spreadsheet ahead of time with the items that we were looking for and then crossed them off as we went through each store. It kept us from registering for impulse items and being convinced that we needed everything under the sun.

 


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