This all-wedding-all-the-time thing kinda sucks. Every moment I’m not working, I’m painting or sewing or haphazardly throwing things on a long to-do list that has long since taken a vacation from organization. “Paint bathroom ceiling” sits right below “decide on importance of wedding programs”. Little things mix with big things. I’m prioritizing via this little trick called memory – if I remember it, it must be important. If not, meh.
I’m totally sick of it and it’s only been this way for a few weeks.
With less than 20 days to go (ARGH!!! ohcrapohcrapohcrap), we are plugging through a thousand things, and luckily, they’re not strictly wedding-ish… or I’d probably say screw it, and not do them. But emptying random stuff from the guest suite can’t be avoided. Picking up and laundering the ever-growing piles of clothes must be done. Slipcovering the stupid couch — because we’re suckers and let the dogs sleep (and wrestle, argh) on the other slipcover, which now looks completely disgusting — has gotta happen.
And then there’s the list of real wedding tasks: finish writing ceremony, meet with preacher, send road closure paperwork to city, invite neighbors, plan ceremony situation, finish song list, pick a first dance song, etc, etc, ETCETERA. *deep breaths*
Okay, gotta run and do something. Thank goodness for work, which at least gives me an excuse to sit in front of my laptop (and blog!) rather than paint or sew or build a garden bench (yes, I swear, I’m totally gonna get that done).
How are y’all doing? Anyone else in the Last Month Crunch?
@IA_Snowflake: Thanks! I’ll need it to get the paint outta my hair in time!! LOL.
I am….I’m totally there with you stressed like crazy! 
Honestly, if it stresses you out this much and you aren’t having any fun{your posts seem to have an overwhelming theme of dread}, why don’t you elope. If you truly want to get married, but not have the wedding, then that’s what you should do. It’s not worth it to drive yourself nuts doing something you don’t seem to enjoy.
We get married this month, too!!! I’m not consciously stressed (yet). That is, I had this nightmare about flowers the other night. But in my waking state, I don’t feel anything. I think I must be missing something. Something very important, I’m sure.
You’ll be fine and it’ll come together unexpectedly well. Deep breath!
I am totally there with you…little desktop countdown clock says 35 days (GOOD LORD!!) I am in the stage right now where I am tired of spending money but that just makes more DIY projects for myself. It was bad and good timing that my fiance has to start working nights starting next week so I can actually get projects done at night without distractions, but I am so fed up…I know that everyone around me cannot wait for the wedding to be over so I can talk about something else 
Even Im tired of listening to me talk!
Mrs. Cheese,
If you’re serioulsy stressing over laundry and cleaning your house. Can I suggest that you load all your laundry in your car and drive to a laudry mat where they do it for you and even fold it(I’ve done this numerous times when company is coming and I don’t have enough time in the day to get caught up). You could also hire a house cleaner to come in a couple days before the wedding and clean house for you so that you can spend all your time doing those things that absolutely, positively need to be done. I’m no where close to my one month countdown but that is what I plan to do the week before I get married.
@KateMW: I’ll enjoy it when it gets here. Really. Thanks for worrying.
My goal is to give you a little window into my life as a bride. With two weeks to go and a whole family descending upon us, some people get stressed. I’m one of them. Almost 4000 sq ft have been painted (more than once), lots and lots of landscaping has been accomplished, etc, etc.
It’s possible to be stressed AND STILL want a wedding. Really.
@tifnicole: Outsourcing! The mister hates it, but I’m planning to do that just this weekend! And the house cleaner!
I’m not even IN the last month yet, but I feel like I’m still in a crunch! WHY??
AGH! I’m right there with you – we have 15 days and I swear I’m going to burn my to-do list in a sacrificial bonfire once this shindig is over. Good luck and try to find a few minutes each day to enjoy life and think about how much fun the wedding day is going to be!
Cheese, if it helps you feel any better I hung out with a bunch of former brides last weekend and they ALL said they went through a similar experience
And I think I probably will too, because I’m have, what the professionals like to call, a procrastination problem 
So the counter says I’m 36 days away… and OMG at the list of stuff that still needs to get done. I realized this morning that my hair trial is TOMORROW…yeah I have no clue what I want. I also have to finalize the menu tomorrow….looks like we’ll be going through menus during our 4 hours in the car on our way to visit my dad in the hospital and back. Oh wait…I forgot to mention that. My dad’s heart decided it needed to act a bit crazy this week (he’s fine but they are watching him a few more days to make sure). So I hear ya Cheese… hang in there girl!!
I’m 3 1/2 months out and I’m still feeling crunched/panicked/stressed. It may be because I’m a perfectionist and hate feeling rushed, but sometimes you just have to throw up your hands and say “good enough” and move on… and I’m only having a small somewhat simple wedding.
@MissCamera: ahhh… actually I’m only 2 1/2 months out. Wow, now I feel even more pressure.
My Head hurts from all the things on the “To Do” list …. It’s stupid to say but I am sooo glad I am not alone in this feeling of living in a wedding bubble….
@Miss Cheese…Yes, I know that it’s possible, I’ve been married for 6 years and have a five year old. I feel like I invented stress. I am not saying don’t get married or you’re not ready, etc. I’m just saying maybe the “wedding” isn’t worth it. But, if it’s two weeks away, nevermind. LOL Just take a Xanax and get to painting. Want some help? I’m in Birmingham.
my to do list is quite overwhelming… i’m right there with you… When did May get here so fast???
I am feeling the crunch. I’m trying to do fun touches but I don’t have the energy for them anymore. I know the wedding will be wonderful with or without my little projects (right now, cupcake flags!) but I really want to do all kinds of fun projects. However, the problem is that they’re stressing me out — not fun!!
I have 16 days to go… very much looking forward to actually seeing everything come together. I’m also slightly worried about what I’ll do with my time after the wedding.
I have 10 months until my wedding, but “listening” to you up there just scared the bejeezus out of me! LOL Right now I am enjoying my DIY projects and to-do list, but something tells me in about 7 or 8 months….not so much. Hang in there lady!
I’m there!!! But we just miraculously finished (most) of our rsvp cards, so that’s good!!!! One more thing…
Mrs. Cheese, Knoxville Age and Occupation: 29, Engineering Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, CAD Designer Engagement Date: July 31, 2008 Wedding Date: May, 2009 Blogging Since: October 16, 2008 Venue: Our home and the two acres it sits on About Me: I’m an emotional girl who loves sentimental things, parenthetical asides, and trying to do things herself. I can cook, sew, am a whiz at planning, terrible at delegating, and totally in love with my fiancé (who will be my second husband but first love of the rest of my life). For our home/ garden/ DIY wedding, we’ll be moonlighting as interior designers, home improvers, and gardeners with the help of our fabulous friends and neighbors. We can’t wait to be married, and are learning how fun getting married can be.
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