Calgon, Take Me Away…

This all-wedding-all-the-time thing kinda sucks. Every moment I’m not working, I’m painting or sewing or haphazardly throwing things on a long to-do list that has long since taken a vacation from organization. “Paint bathroom ceiling” sits right below “decide on importance of wedding programs”. Little things mix with big things. I’m prioritizing via this little trick called memory – if I remember it, it must be important. If not, meh.

I’m totally sick of it and it’s only been this way for a few weeks.

With less than 20 days to go (ARGH!!! ohcrapohcrapohcrap), we are plugging through a thousand things, and luckily, they’re not strictly wedding-ish”¦ or I’d probably say screw it, and not do them. But emptying random stuff from the guest suite can’t be avoided. Picking up and laundering the ever-growing piles of clothes must be done. Slipcovering the stupid couch ”” because we’re suckers and let the dogs sleep (and wrestle, argh) on the other slipcover, which now looks completely disgusting ”” has gotta happen.

And then there’s the list of real wedding tasks: finish writing ceremony, meet with preacher, send road closure paperwork to city, invite neighbors, plan ceremony situation, finish song list, pick a first dance song, etc, etc, ETCETERA. *deep breaths*

Okay, gotta run and do something. Thank goodness for work, which at least gives me an excuse to sit in front of my laptop (and blog!) rather than paint or sew or build a garden bench (yes, I swear, I’m totally gonna get that done).

How are y’all doing? Anyone else in the Last Month Crunch?

BLOGGER

Mrs. Cheese

Location:
Knoxville
Wedding Date:
May 2014
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    IA_Snowflake 1913 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:07 pm

    Good luck miss cheese!

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    cheese 801 posts, Busy bee @ 12:12 pm

    @IA_Snowflake: Thanks! I’ll need it to get the paint outta my hair in time!! LOL.

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    balletflat 852 posts, Busy bee @ 12:13 pm

    I am….I’m totally there with you stressed like crazy! :(

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    KateMW 2704 posts, Sugar bee @ 12:17 pm

    Honestly, if it stresses you out this much and you aren’t having any fun{your posts seem to have an overwhelming theme of dread}, why don’t you elope. If you truly want to get married, but not have the wedding, then that’s what you should do. It’s not worth it to drive yourself nuts doing something you don’t seem to enjoy.

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    perfume 2239 posts, Buzzing bee @ 12:26 pm

    We get married this month, too!!! I’m not consciously stressed (yet). That is, I had this nightmare about flowers the other night. But in my waking state, I don’t feel anything. I think I must be missing something. Something very important, I’m sure.

    You’ll be fine and it’ll come together unexpectedly well. Deep breath!

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    FutureMrs_S 22 posts, Newbee @ 12:29 pm

    I am totally there with you…little desktop countdown clock says 35 days (GOOD LORD!!) I am in the stage right now where I am tired of spending money but that just makes more DIY projects for myself. It was bad and good timing that my fiance has to start working nights starting next week so I can actually get projects done at night without distractions, but I am so fed up…I know that everyone around me cannot wait for the wedding to be over so I can talk about something else :-) Even Im tired of listening to me talk!

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    tifnicole 94 posts, Worker bee @ 12:33 pm

    Mrs. Cheese,

    If you’re serioulsy stressing over laundry and cleaning your house. Can I suggest that you load all your laundry in your car and drive to a laudry mat where they do it for you and even fold it(I’ve done this numerous times when company is coming and I don’t have enough time in the day to get caught up). You could also hire a house cleaner to come in a couple days before the wedding and clean house for you so that you can spend all your time doing those things that absolutely, positively need to be done. I’m no where close to my one month countdown but that is what I plan to do the week before I get married.

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    cheese 801 posts, Busy bee @ 12:41 pm

    @KateMW: I’ll enjoy it when it gets here. Really. Thanks for worrying.

    My goal is to give you a little window into my life as a bride. With two weeks to go and a whole family descending upon us, some people get stressed. I’m one of them. Almost 4000 sq ft have been painted (more than once), lots and lots of landscaping has been accomplished, etc, etc.

    It’s possible to be stressed AND STILL want a wedding. Really.

    @tifnicole: Outsourcing! The mister hates it, but I’m planning to do that just this weekend! And the house cleaner!

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    MightySapphire 7632 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 12:43 pm

    I’m not even IN the last month yet, but I feel like I’m still in a crunch! WHY??

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    MarryingtheNavy 233 posts, Helper bee @ 12:45 pm

    AGH! I’m right there with you – we have 15 days and I swear I’m going to burn my to-do list in a sacrificial bonfire once this shindig is over. Good luck and try to find a few minutes each day to enjoy life and think about how much fun the wedding day is going to be!

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    frenchbulldog 1088 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:53 pm

    Cheese, if it helps you feel any better I hung out with a bunch of former brides last weekend and they ALL said they went through a similar experience :)
    And I think I probably will too, because I’m have, what the professionals like to call, a procrastination problem ;-)

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    ggsb 1245 posts, Bumble bee @ 12:54 pm

    So the counter says I’m 36 days away… and OMG at the list of stuff that still needs to get done. I realized this morning that my hair trial is TOMORROW…yeah I have no clue what I want. I also have to finalize the menu tomorrow….looks like we’ll be going through menus during our 4 hours in the car on our way to visit my dad in the hospital and back. Oh wait…I forgot to mention that. My dad’s heart decided it needed to act a bit crazy this week (he’s fine but they are watching him a few more days to make sure). So I hear ya Cheese… hang in there girl!!

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    MissCamera 770 posts, Busy bee @ 12:55 pm

    I’m 3 1/2 months out and I’m still feeling crunched/panicked/stressed. It may be because I’m a perfectionist and hate feeling rushed, but sometimes you just have to throw up your hands and say “good enough” and move on… and I’m only having a small somewhat simple wedding.

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    MissCamera 770 posts, Busy bee @ 12:58 pm

    @MissCamera: ahhh… actually I’m only 2 1/2 months out. Wow, now I feel even more pressure.

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    Future Puida 98 posts, Worker bee @ 1:07 pm

    My Head hurts from all the things on the “To Do” list …. It’s stupid to say but I am sooo glad I am not alone in this feeling of living in a wedding bubble….

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    KateMW 2704 posts, Sugar bee @ 1:39 pm

    @Miss Cheese…Yes, I know that it’s possible, I’ve been married for 6 years and have a five year old. I feel like I invented stress. :) I am not saying don’t get married or you’re not ready, etc. I’m just saying maybe the “wedding” isn’t worth it. But, if it’s two weeks away, nevermind. LOL Just take a Xanax and get to painting. Want some help? I’m in Birmingham.

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    ccruz 21 posts, Newbee @ 1:49 pm

    my to do list is quite overwhelming… i’m right there with you… When did May get here so fast???

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    mary-alice-me 1864 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:06 pm

    I am feeling the crunch. I’m trying to do fun touches but I don’t have the energy for them anymore. I know the wedding will be wonderful with or without my little projects (right now, cupcake flags!) but I really want to do all kinds of fun projects. However, the problem is that they’re stressing me out — not fun!!

    I have 16 days to go… very much looking forward to actually seeing everything come together. I’m also slightly worried about what I’ll do with my time after the wedding.

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    becky43076 15 posts, Newbee @ 2:23 pm

    I have 10 months until my wedding, but “listening” to you up there just scared the bejeezus out of me! LOL Right now I am enjoying my DIY projects and to-do list, but something tells me in about 7 or 8 months….not so much. Hang in there lady!

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    taffy 3081 posts, Sugar bee @ 7:36 pm

    I’m there!!! But we just miraculously finished (most) of our rsvp cards, so that’s good!!!! One more thing…

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    bruschetta 5565 posts, Bee Keeper @ 9:05 pm

    Wow, Miss Cheese — props to you for successfully juggling work, blogging (oh-so frequently, too!), wedding planning AND home prep FOR the wedding.

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    bluejay2201 117 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:19 pm

    22 days for me. Every time we check something off the list, three more things take its place. I have a mountain of clean laundry in my living room waiting to be folded, an ever changing seating chart sprawled on my dining room table, and half done projects scattered every where else. I’m just looking forward to the day before the wedding, with all our family and friends, when we start celebrating! :)

    I’m with you Miss Cheese! It’s coming soon and it’s going to be wonderful. Find that happy moment and hold on! :)

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    mrspaetz 3812 posts, Honey bee @ 1:44 am

    eeeeek i’m almost there, and wondering how i’m gonna get everything done! GAAAH!

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    luckeyme09 97 posts, Worker bee @ 2:47 am

    i’m @ 43 days and there are a million things to do…surprisingly i am not too insane..and right now i am focusing on writing papers for school and graduating. as soon an may 17th rolls around its gonna be all wedding all the time!

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    NiceWedding 46 posts, Newbee @ 7:13 am

    We got married last weekend. The last month was a killer. I went to bed at midnight and got up by 4 or 5 a.m. to work on wedding stuff, then went to work all day. I was so so tired that we barely did anything on our minimoon but sleep. Seriously. However, it was so worth it. Our wedding day was amazing … and all the little details paid off. A wedding is not about little details, but they do go a long way in making people feel special – including the bride and groom. I was especially nice when my darling husband would say something like, “You were so right about … it made a huge difference.” Or, “I’m so glad you decided to … it made the day.” I think he finally understood my late nights, early morning and general levels of stress.

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