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This post has been brewing since long before I was a Weddingbee blogger, and it bubbled up to the front of my mind while listening to the radio this weekend. You know that song, “Lucky” by Jason Mraz and Colby Callait? “I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend…” Yea, that one. That song’s not for me.
My fiance is not my best friend.
My first husband was my best friend; he was my everything. When I was with him, I depended on him completely for emotional support. He helped me carry the burdens of my job, my stress and my dramas. If you’d asked me then, I would have told you there could be no other way. How could you be loyal wife if you had another best friend? Was I supposed to talk about him to other people? No way.
Times have changed, lessons have been learned. I have a best friend — who is my MOH — upon whom I rely when my eyes are puffy from crying and I can’t see where I screwed up. I have a mom who has a knack for sifting through the crap and pulling out the important stuff. I have a dad who can always be counted on as an example of how to do it; he doesn’t even need to say anything. My brother fields frantic phone calls over petty crap (even wedding stuff… he will be a perfect groom someday) and my sister dispenses relationship advice with her particular brand of directness. Oh, yea, and I have a therapist. I’m a very intense person, and it takes a village to get me through life, but I’m lucky enough to have a whole host of people who are willing to do that for me. Because it’s about me.
We’ve survived — thrived, even — in this relationship because of my willingness to air my fears to people other than him. When I look back to my first marriage, I see clearly how many of my hang-ups could have been avoided had I been willing to talk about them with someone… anyone. Perspective is so important to keeping my Crazy under control. This blog proves that point. Not once have I regretted being completely (and sometimes painfully) honest about my fears and doubts. Not once.
My fiance — soon, husband — doesn’t have to be my everything. I suspect he’d do a bang up job, but I’ve found it healthier for me if I have a community of support rather than ask one single person to bear that load. He’s the person to whom I’m closest; I carry him in my heart. But I’m not in love with my best friend, though she is pretty freaking awesome.
I suspect this is a matter of semantics, but I’m curious, do you consider your fiance/ hubby your best friend?
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Thank you for writing this!!!!
I feel the same way every time I hear “you’re my best friend” in wedding vows. I don’t consider my FI my best friend. He’s my love and the person closest to me, but my best friend is and always will be my MOH! Everyone thinks I’m so weird for saying this, but I 100% agree with you!
Clever post. I think it’s smart not to put all your eggs in one basket, Miss Cheese. You’ve lived and learned, and have a healthy perspective.
Do you all have that song stuck in your heads now? Sorry about that… it is a sweet song, at least, not like the latest Beyonce song which I have to rush to change the station on or else it’s stuck for DAYS.
I do consider my fi to be my best friend. Although I totally see what your saying. During the begininng of our relationship, I made him my everything and only thing.
Within the past year, especially, we have matured a lot and have grown as individuals. He’s still my best friend, but I have learned to open up to all the other important people in my life and find more of a balance. I go to different friends and family members for different things. I think it’s awesome you have a village of people who are there for you, it reminds em of my friends and family and it means the world to have that many supportive people in your life.
And yes, I do have that song stuck in my head! Haha
I hear you on this one. ^_^ I think it perhaps is semantics in a way, but I honestly get nervous when people say “He’s my everything” or “He’s my best friend.” Not nervous that they’re co-dependant, because I know that’s not what they mean. But nervous that, for me, in my opinion, I know that I can’t be so wrapped up in just one other person to the exclusion of all else.
My twin sister will always be my best friend and Mr. Spin will always be the person I love, laugh and live with. But I don’t live FOR him. He can’t be my everything because I need to offer something of myself to him, not just a reflection.
But I think my English degree makes me think about the phrasing and subtext of this perhaps a bit too much. ^_^
I think the problem is that people think you can only have one best friend. My MOH, my mom and my FI are my best friends. I think about who I run to when something happens (good or bad) and those are the 3 people I tell first. It’s healthy to not put all your eggs in one basket. I just have more than one basket 
totally agreed. i think it’s so dangerous to put your everything into one person, especially seeing the relationships around me. Once someone gets into a relationship with another person, they seem to push everyone else away because their significant other HAS become that “best friend,” but what about their other established, great relationships? it seems to be something that has been forced upon them by our culture: my boyfriend/fiance/husband = my best friend.
..not always!
thanks for this post, miss cheese. i’m with you and linda. i love my fiance–he makes my life indescribably better and i’m all the happier with him–but i wouldn’t call him my best friend. he’s one of my greatest friends, but “best” would be unfair considering my relationship with my sister and college friend.
it’s a personal issue so i’m not trying to criticize anyone who does think of their FI’s as their best friend. i actually think that’s so sweet & lovely and sometimes i wonder if there’s something wrong that i don’t feel the same way (hence my appreciation for the post which makes me realize that people do feel differently on this subject!).
You always have such a good (and honest) take on things.
I do consider hubby a best friend, but he’s not my only best friend. And he’s not the best friend that I tell EVERYTHING to. Actually maybe hubby is more like my best companion. I have a couple other besties that I vent too…and sometimes vent to about hubby. hehe.
I definitely consider my FI one of my best friends. But I guess like you I require some extra support to keep the crazy under control. When my mom was still alive, she used to be able to handle all of my crazy (she was a pretty remarkable individual), now, like you said, it takes a village. Though FI knows pretty much everything about me, and gets to hear most of the crazy, sometimes he doesn’t get it. After all, he is only one man. So, though FH hears everything, I too rely on others to sometimes talk me down/ or up, or just girl chat (after all how is FI supposed to girl chat anyway). My sister who understands my past and all my stupid hang ups, and my best friend and bridesmaid, who never judges my OCD tendencies.
thank you, thank you, thank you for this post. I’ve always felt…”wrong” for not thinking of my FI as my best friend. I mean, I tell him everything and we have no secrets, but he’s not my best friend. He’s my fiance, the love of my life, and soon to be my husband, but not my best friend. He’s just so much more than that. My best friend is my MOH and a guy I grew up with and I consider them my best friends because I know that despite how long we go without seeing each other we can pick up right where we left off. Besides, I need someone to complain to when my FI is being annoying, and that’s what best friends are for!
Thanks again for this post and making me feel less like a bad person for not making him my best friend!
FH is my best friend… but he’s not my only best friend. And i agree… spread the support. have a community of friends to be there for you… b/c at the end of the day… I need more support too
I do consider my FI to be my best friend and have for a long time. I am very confident in that and believe that it is the best relationship to have for us. Everyone is different and I think it is important to respect those differences.
That being said, I also have 5 other people in my life who are also my best friends. I talk to them about different things that come up and listen to their perspectives. I think that is so important to hear different ideas, cause there are always so many sides to each issue and my FI could never possibly see all of them. I do not rely on my FI for everything. I am my own person and am very independent and think that we have a very balanced life and consider each other to be our best(est) friend
Thank you so much for posting this! My FH is one of my closest friends but I think it is so important to have a community of other friends that I can rely on to listen to me complain about initiations!
Oh I have to agree! Boyfriend is an incredibly wonderful person, whom I love dearly. But he’s not my best friend. By nature I depend on a lot of people for emotional support. My sister is the only person who can know what it was like to grow up in our house, my friends are dealing with many of the same issues I am, and my mom and grandmothers give excellent advice. I love Boyfriend, but sometimes I need to bounce things off of other people who might see it more from my perspective.
Great post!
My fiance is my best friend!
I have a slew of others I consider “best friends”, including my sister.
However my fiance is the first person I want to talk to when I have a bad day! If I’m sad, mad, happy I want to call him first!
It wasn’t always this way but after 8 years together we’ve become one anothers best friend!
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I think like with any friend, it depends on the day as to whether if my man is my best friend or not. =o)
More often than not he is. He doesn’t judge me, he doesn’t make me feel insecure. I feel really comfortable as myself with him. And that is the most single relieving thing about him.
But I do understand what you mean by going from a relationship where someone is your everything… to learning that your significant other doesn’t need to be your everything.
the bf and i consider each other to be best friends but we also have our own best friends from way before we got together. i think it’s important to maintain that kind of balance.
we don’t tell each other everything and sometimes when things get a little cringe-inducing between us, it’s nice to have our own best friend to go to for some nice chit-chat and perspective straightening.
Thanks for your honest post, Cheese. You are “lucky” to be surrounded by such a great support group.
Yes, I do consider my fiance my best friend. However, spending quality time with my bridesmaids at dress fittings, my shower and bachelorette party has reinforced to me the importance of having girl friends in my life. I’ll admit that I was not the best at keeping in touch with friends when I landed my first job out of college and met my now fiance.
But now that we’re getting married, I am going to “vow” to keep up the friendships that have been strengthened through the process of planning our wedding. I am looking forward to spending more time with the girls who mean so much to me!
Great post! I totally feel the same way and I thought maybe I needed to reevaluate my relationships. I’ve had my best friend by my side since 7th grade and while I love her, it’s a totally different kind of love.
I consider my boy one of my closest friends, but he isn’t my best friend. I was always scared that I was the only one, so thank you for showing me how wrong I was. My FH is someone that I know that I can lean on. I just moved to our current home about a year ago, while he grew up here so helped me though a lot. Also he lets me be me without judgment and supports me in every way while I am in school.
My best friend on the other hand is someone who I met about 10 years ago. He is like my brother. We can be fighting and ripping eachothers heads off one day and then he will be there to listen to me vent the next. I know that my FH lets me vent, but its just not the same. My best friend is just that, my best friend. I don’t think we could have a relationship without ruining our friendship. Its weird.
I’m glad to have my FH. He is amazing. He is my best friend next to my best friend, but he also so much more than my best friend could ever be. I love him so much!
I very much agree with this. Actually, it has caused a few disagreements with a few past boyfriends. My boyfriend, fiance, etc., is my lovah, not my friend. A friend doesn’t speak to me in terms of how close that romantic partner is to your life. Lots of people have many different views on this, but I just have never considered my boyfriends to be FRIENDS - they are much more than that. And nobody can shoe shop with me the way my girlfriends can.
while my fiance is most certainly my best friend, he’s not my only best friend. he is the one i usually run to first when things happen but i also have my best girls who i also talk to about almost everything. plus my mom and my sister of course. i just feel like sometimes you can’t tell best friend a something so for that you go to best friend b. my fiance is best friend a and i do tell him just about everything but sometimes i just need a girl to talk to who can understand a little better where i’m coming from. ha, i almost feel like this is elementary school where we used to rank our friends - “you’re my first best friend, you’re my second best friend…”
I actually do consider my husband to be my best friend… and no, I don’t have many other people around me that I also consider best friends. My mom would come close, probably, and my MOH as well, but all of my close girlfriends have always had sisters or close cousins or other best friends so I have never really had a mutual “best” relationship with anybody BUT my husband.
And honestly, the nature of our relationship as husband and wife means that there are things between us that I never would reveal to another best friend, if I had one, because it would be a betrayal of trust.
I do understand the sentiment, but I hope nobody comes away from this post painting all “spouse/lover best friends” with the same co-dependant brush. (Not saying you were, Miss Cheese)
This is a great post! Although I consider my FI one of my best friends, I also have other people I rely on for other things. I think this is really important in any relationship. You can’t rely on one person to be everything for you. I “get” things from my girl friends I could never “get” from my FI and the other way around. It’s a nice balance.
Great post, Miss Cheese! I share things with my fiance that I don’t share with others, including my best friend. However, I have my best friend and my fiance has his - having this outlet outside of our relationship works well for us.
Is it weird that I still am considering “Lucky” for our first dance song?
When I hear songs, etc., describing the significant other as the “best friend,” I don’t usually think of it in terms of he/she is my best friend and lover all rolled into one so I don’t need anyone else. I don’t think that’s the intent of most people who say their SO is their best friend. Usually, I think they mean that their relationship is built upon a solid friendship and that their connection on that level isn’t engulfed by the romantic connection. So often it seems as if couples get lost in the romanctic (and sexual) side of the relationship that they don’t connect as companions and when the passion fades they realize they don’t know each other. I think for the most part we all agree on what kind of relationship we want with our SO whether we like attaching the title “best friend” upon him/her or not.
Thank you so much for posting this Cheesey! I love FH beyond belief but I don’t consider in him my BFF… My BMs are my BFFs I totally get where you’re coming from here.
honestly, my fiance IS my best friend. I have 2 others, but I am most excited to share my smiles and tears with him. I am not afraid of that though bc while he is one of my best friends, he is NOT my everything.
I hate the phrase “he completes me”.
I am complete and happy and whole without my fiance, he just makes the colors of the rainbows become that much brighter than the bright they already were before him.
I think this is something worth considering, and it’s “lucky” to have a great support system. Of course to have a friend you have to be a friend (great platitude!) so it’s a show of how loving you can be, too.
My fiance is my best friend. He’s not my only friend, but we are very close. Closer than friends. However, I’ve been reading the Nichomachean Ethics on friendship to look for quotes to use in the wedding and a lot of Aristotle’s ideas of friendship resonate with me. I hold my fiance in the same esteem he uses to define friendship; most other friends are not quite so close or dear to me.
I consider my fiance my best friend. No doubt. While there are other people that are important to me, that I share *most* things with, my fiance is generally second only to myself (if that makes any sense). I will say, I think the phrase “best friend” is somewhat inaccurate because he is so much more than that - We certainly won’t be exchanging vows along the lines of “today I marry my best friend”.
I do consider my husband my best friend and companion. But I also have a female best friend, and my mother and I are very close. I fully take your point though , and feel the same way. It’s not mentally healthy for me to “only” have my husband. I need friends, family, etc in my life too. Thanks for your great post.
Miss Cheese, this was a brilliant post. A truly healthy life involves balance and support from all areas. I agree that it is unhealthy to lean on one person for everything because we are all human and we are subject to let each other down at anytime for various reasons. But we also shouldn’t task one person to take care of EVERY SINGLE need that we have as we travel through this journey of life. True happiness, balance and love involves family, friends, groups, clubs… things like this wedding bee website and community.
Happiness is about being connected. Connected in a healthy way to the people that make your world turn because you are right, in the end, it is about you. And the more positive and healthy connection you have, the freer you are to express true love to those closest to you.
Great post, with lots of wisdom. Thank you for sharing this.
I do consider my fiance my best friend, but it’s a different “friendship” than my best girlfriend and I have. She knows my past, she knows ALL the stupid crap I did, all the silly dating mistakes I made, etc. She was there for me like no one else when my mom died. I’ve been there for her through all her crazy family, ex hubby, and kids drama. We have a past. There are things I can talk to her about that I can’t talk to him about and vice versa.
So yeah, I do consider them my two best friends in the whole wide world but both have different meanings to me. I know I need her in my life and don’t feel quite right when we don’t talk often enough. Just as I do know for sure I want my fiance by my side for always. He’s the only person I can stand being with all the time.
This was a really interesting post. You’re very lucky to have so many sources of support in your life. I used to be like you with previous boyfriends, but my fiance is definitely my best friend (my BFF, if you will). My MOH is my sister, and I would have never thought I could be closer to anyone than I am with her, but here we are. I totally love hearing that Jason Mraz song, because I really do feel lucky to be in love with my best friend.
Great post, as always!
I consider Mr. Powder Puff ONE of my best friends. My BFF is one of my bridesmaids, and we’ve been best friends for probably ten years. No one in the world could replace her!
Wow, what a neat thought-provoking discussion this is! (I’m in a gushy mood today.) I just wuv you guys to pieces.
I forgot that I left a piece of the thread untied (bad analogy, shoot me) — the one about loyalty. With my first husband, I felt it disloyal to share that we’d had a disagreement or fight… that was between us, thankyouverymuch. Since then, obviously, I’m more open to sharing — because perspective rocks, and I don’t think you can have that perspective when you’re one of the two people involved. So it’s not disloyal — unless you’re really sharing secrets — it’s mature. At least, I think so. And, as I am when I blog, I keep the point of view pretty tight — this is my story and my “lens.” My best girls understand that.
What do y’all think about the loyalty vs. friendship angle? I suspect it helps that Mr. C is pretty confident, so he’s never begrudged me the opportunity to get an outside opinion.
That’s a difficult question. It’s hard to know what’s going on in a relationship you’re not in. I talk to my mom a lot … but I have to be very careful when I’m inclined to complain about the Mr., because I know she’ll take my side. I want to share the good things with her. I’ll gush and rant and seek advice from others, but always with an air of anonymity, or if it’s personal, quickly followed by something positive.
my fiance is actually my best friend. he’s one of my best friends at least… and probably the one that I talk to the most and tell everything to… even if it’s a complaint about him… because that is how we communicate best about our problems. he is actually the first guy that I could be totally and absolutely myself with and the one and only person i would want to spend the rest of my life with. so yes, he is my best friend. the best.
My fiance is definitely my best friend, hands down. I have a very close girlfriend, my MOH, but I find that no one really gets me (or wants to try as much) as my fiance. But my MOH does come in handy at critical times, like when I want to throttle my guy!
I do consider the hubs to be a close confidante, but I still have my best gfs to go to. Who I go to depends on the situation, he’s the first I go to for many things but he can’t take the place of my girls. My bff has helped us both be able to understand the other better, and without her being able to see what we used to fight about she never would have been able to help us thru it.
Side note - the reason I fell in love with FI has a lot to do with his best friend traits. he was my closest friend for a while and when things started turning emotional he kept telling me he was terrified on losing his best friend. but now he he says hes got a best friend for life :0)
I think its all about your way of thinking - some people, like Snappy, can’t see them as friends. Doesn’t mean their wrong, just they way they see things is different than mine
You wrote exactly what I’ve been thinking. I have other best friends that really deserve the title. My fiance already HAS a title - he doesn’t need two 
And I need people to talk to other than him.
He’s certainly one of my best friends, but I had a previous relationship that was much like you describe your first marriage. And I’m glad now that I see I can branch out and confide and rely on people other than the man I live with and love.
My best friend is my twin sister. I’d never consider my FI my best friend because I have her and have had her my entire life. I agree it’s great to have a whole support system rather than just one person. I always bristle at the marrying my best friend phrases.
My FI is my best friend, but my MOH is also my best friend. In fact, I have a whole team of best friends, and they all serve as a different support system and I love them for that.
Thank. You!! Sorry, the ‘Best Friend’ position was filled iin fourth grade (over 20 years ago!). I’m pretty sure he knows I’m not lookin’ to replace her
I don’t think that classifying my FI as my BF means that I am leaning on him as my sole support system. I have many other friends, but my FI is my BEST friend, and if I trusted ONE other person in the world for ANYTHING, I know he is that person. Sure I’ll share with my MOH, my mom, my friends. We all support each other. But the only unconditional support I know I’ll have is from my FI. And I love that about him!
It is absolutely hilarious that you would post this today because (and I must have been living under a rock) I JUST heard this song for the first time yesterday! And after I did I downloaded it and played it for my FH and we both giggled and loved the song. I would have to say that I consider my FH to be my best friend but I dont have many, thats not to say that he is my entire world…I just happen to be a very independent person. He has his own male best friend that he has known forever but our “friendship” and love is different than anything that we have with anyone else…there are no secrets between us and I feel truly at home with him. He is the first person I call or go to with any problem I have (even if that problem is him). That is not to say that neither one of us will open up to anyone else about eachother. I think this is the first time that I can say that I am in love with my best friend and its totally healthy. I cannot wait to be married!!
I love this post Miss Cheese! You are so right about perspective. I think it shows you ARE loyal if you’re willing to get a trusted person to weigh in and set you straight/confirm what you’re thinking. It’s unhealthy to depend entirely on one person no matter what their relationship to you.
I do consider FH one of my best friends. He is the first I go to with things most of the time, but not all the time. Goodness knows he doesn’t want to hear about all of my girl problems, LOL. I try to strike a balance because there have been times where we relied very heavily on each other. I love that we can do it, but I don’t want to wear us out either.
i totally consider my fiance to be my best friend. we fit so perfectlyand can confide secrets in eachother. We think the same and can spend everyday together without any major hiccups. But…at the same time…when I am mad at him or we do have a fight, I know I can turn to my mom, my sister, or my closest girl friend and they will give me the advice i need or the shoulder to cry on to get through it. He is my best friend but i have a wonderful family that i am close to as well.
Lovely post as usual. My FI has become one of my best friends, but that took a long time. Plus- his friendship is very different from the kind of “best friendship” I get from my MOH and mom. While he is loyal , loving, and supportive, there are simply some things I would rather consult my girls on. I think is essential that you have lots of people in your live to share you fears and joys with. Recently, I have been dealing with alot of complicated family issues, and due to stress and time I have been unloading most of them on my FI. I can see the toll it is taking on him and our relationship. I have been pulling back a little and calling more of my friends for support, just so our dynamic and time together is about more than just stress and drama. Our marriages can’t be the catch all for all of life’s twist and turns. Smart move on diversifying your support system. the more I read your posts the more I think you are on the way to building a truly great relationship
he is my best friend in that i have no need to hold secrets from him (except special surprises). but i don’t “offload” everything on him.
galpals for the general chatter and good fun company, gripes about rships etc but at the end of the day, he’s the one person that i can safely think aloud with.
Yeah, one thing I didn’t think about was the whole “offload” thing — my husband asked me pretty early on to please, for the sake of his sanity, when I just need to vent or cry or something and don’t need him to fix it, to call my mom. So I do that. It helps him to focus on what I need him for better than if his energy was taken up by every little thing.
As to the loyalty issue — for the “big” issues, we have a few designated helpers that we talk to, but we try to talk to them together. Both of us try to avoid venting about the other to a third party because we know that people remember the negative longer than the positive, so while I may say 15 great things about my husband to my girlfriend, she is going to remember the 5 bad things I have come to her about. We also decided that the specifics of our sex life was something that we would only talk about with either counselors or medical professionals, at need.
i consider my fiance my best friend but i think it’s important to have other types of people in your life. someone to talk about your religious/faith issues, someone to support you in academic endeavors, someone to talk to you about family/childbirthing issues… etc. the list of different types of support goes on. it’s healthy to have different types of people in your life and not just be exclusive 24/7.
When I think of my FI, I don’t necessarily think of him as a “friend.” I don’t know how to explain it exactly, but he’s my fiance, my future husband, my life partner, the father of my (hopefully) future children. It’s so different than “friend.” I’ll admit, I don’t talk to FI about frivolous things like jewelry or shoes — I reserve that for my best girlfriends. But I also don’t talk to my girlfriends about intimate details of my relationship with FI. My relationship with him is just so different than my relationship with them that I have difficulty classifying them all as friends, and to me the words fiance or husband says everything that needs to be said about our relationship.
I hear what your saying Miss Cheese. When my fiance and I began dating we definitely relied on each other more for emotional support than anyone else. I’m not proud of it, but I definitely let my friendships fall by the wayside at first.
However, in the last year or so we’ve both really opened up to other people and have realized that we need to lean on other people as well (it doesn’t need to be just us all the time). So now, I have two best friends. My FI AND my maid-of-honor. And it’s so much better!
Thank you.
I have never considered my FH my best friend. And I wouldn’t want to be his best friend.
I was married when I was 18 and my first marriage was similar to Miss Cheese’ in that we we were fiercely loyal to each other to the exclusivity of everyone else aroud us. Maybe if we would have loosened our grips on each other we wouldn’t have imploded. Hindsight, blah blah blah…
I have my best friend to shop with, and be snarky with, and call when I feel fat, and to bitch about my FH, and to do all the girly things that FH doesn’t mind doing, but really, he’d rather be watching hockey.
He has his friends to watch or play hockey, talk about boobs with, work on cars or garges or whatever they do, shoot the shit, play with guns, and bitch about me driving him crazy. I could hang out for all this, but I’d rather be shopping.
I lean on my FH in a way that I don’t lean on my best friend, though. I am so comitted to him and our happiness. If my BFF pisses me off or is bugging me (we’re both reaaallllly high strung) or spills wine on my white blouse, I can just ignore her for a few days.
I find a lot of comfort in the sharing everyday life with FH. From talking about the grapes going bad in the morning to calling each other about the interest rates on the credit cards at lunch to what to have for dinner, to settling down to some Guitar Hero at night. But, we still have some mystery in our relationship bc we don’t talk about everything or do everything together. We still surprise each other. We still have passion . I don’t know. It works for us. Maybe it is just semantics, but it makes me feel good to know that FH is my future husband and BFF is my best friend, and there are boundaries for me.
I think I just went off on a tangent…….
Hmm.
I’d consider him ONE of them.
But I have many. I’m lucky in that I have a group of best friends - friends that I can count on through anything - and vice versa.
Nick’s good for the practical problems, but is so testosterone filled that the emotional irrational problems of mine strike fear into his heart.
I have friends that tell me to shut up, that I’m acting retarded.
I have friends that validate anything I’m feeling at the moment simply because they have the ability to put themselves in my shoes.
I have friends that will hold me if I ever decide I need to cry.
And I have a mom who is the person I go to with all my little silly stories.
I can’t imagine only going to Nick for everything - or what that kind of burden would feel for him.
I want us to have an US - but I also want to have a me - and for him to have a him.
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Mrs. Cheese, Knoxville
Age and Occupation: 29, Engineering Manager
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 27, CAD Designer
Engagement Date: July 31, 2008
Wedding Date: May, 2009
Blogging Since: October 16, 2008
Venue: Our home and the two acres it sits on
About Me: I’m an emotional girl who loves sentimental things, parenthetical asides, and trying to do things herself. I can cook, sew, am a whiz at planning, terrible at delegating, and totally in love with my fiancé (who will be my second husband but first love of the rest of my life). For our home/ garden/ DIY wedding, we’ll be moonlighting as interior designers, home improvers, and gardeners with the help of our fabulous friends and neighbors. We can’t wait to be married, and are learning how fun getting married can be.
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