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Mrs. Stiletto, Chicago Age and Occupation: 26, Non-Profit/Fundraising Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Engineer and Photographer Engagement Date: March 2, 2008 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: The 19th Century Club About Me: My fiance and I love living in the city of Chicago with our cats Basil and Linus, and vow to never move to the suburbs if we can possibly avoid it! We’ve poured ourselves into planning a wedding that reflects our personal style - modern and high contrast with a vintage twist. Blogging keeps me creative, baking keeps me happy, and grande nonfat no foam sugar free vanilla lattes keep me sane.
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On Our Search for the Church

May 20th, 2009 @ 5:45 pm by Mrs. Stiletto

I guess I haven’t written very much about our ceremony or church. Don’t worry, I fully understand that the most important part of “the day” is what happens in the church! But because we’ve been planning for quite some time, a lot of the details for the ceremony just simply have not been decided on.

When we started looking to have our wedding in Oak Park and found our reception site, the 19th Century Club, we had no clue where the actual ceremony would take place. While there is space at the reception site should be choose to take advantage of it, we had definitely envisioned being married in a church. Mr. S and I don’t have a church that we regularly attend right now, and even if we did, it would be in Chicago and we’d really like to keep everything in Oak Park.

But don’t worry! Oak Park has a lot of churches… but when we started to narrow the search, only a handful of them were either Methodist (my denomination) or Lutheran (Mr. S’s). As we started contacting those, we encountered incredibly expensive ceremony fees (I had expected a church to be a few hundred dollars, not $1,000+!) as well as some uneasiness on the part of many churches about the fact that we weren’t members and most likely would not become members (as it doesn’t make sense for us to join a church so far from our home).

We had already booked our reception last May on faith that we’d find a church and get the date that we wanted.

One of the last churches we contacted - last July - was our last hope, and turned out to be the best fit all-around! Euclid Avenue United Methodist in Oak Park was perfect on paper: great location, very reasonable fee, a historic church, and, of course… Methodist!

Source: Euclid Avenue United Methodist

But, we needed to visit the church and meet with the minister to check out one final piece of the puzzle. While the church could be pretty on paper and beautiful in person, we didn’t want to pick a place just for those reasons alone… a reasonable fee or beautiful stained glass tell us nothing about the minister and if he or she is the best person to marry us.

We first visited last summer, attended a service and then sat down with the minister. She was incredibly warm and welcoming, and we knew that this was the perfect decision. I appreciated that she told us that she would never tell us that we shouldn’t be married - that’s not her job - but if we thought it was a good fit to have her marry us, then we’d all get to know one another over the coming months.

Along with offering a great congregation and minister, the sanctuary is pretty easy on the eyes!

I love the beautiful pale yellow walls and all of the dark wood. The sanctuary is the perfect size for our 120 person wedding!


The stained glass windows are simply gorgeous, and this balcony will be perfect for our photographer to shoot from during the ceremony! The only downside is that the sanctuary isn’t air conditioned, so I’m hoping to still be cool, calm, and collected on the big day.

Over the weekend we visited the church with Mama Stiletto (she hadn’t seen it yet) and Mr. S and I practiced walking up the aisle! We timed it and it only seemed to be around a 20 second walk… now if only we could finish our song choices…

Did you struggle to find a ceremony location that was the perfect fit?

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7 Responses to “On Our Search for the Church”

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Miss Gloss
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Miss Gloss (message)  1,057 posts, Bumble bee

So glad you found a place! Looks gorgeous!!

 
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Mrs. Quiche (message)  2,186 posts, Buzzing bee

Looks beautiful! We were lucky to have the ceremony & reception in the same place :)

 
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Miss Powder Puff (message)  834 posts, Busy bee

What a lovely church!

 
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Miss High Maintenance

i have had the same issue here in carmel, indiana. who would have thought a church is $500 - $1000 & their is a member “screening” done before they give you a decision. Our wedding is in 6 mo. so hopefully something will work out soon!!! i am definitely starting to panic!

 
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WorstTwinEver15 (message)  760 posts, Busy bee

We found ours right away! Glad you finally found yours!

 
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mrspaetz
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mrspaetz (message)  1,707 posts, Bumble bee

very pretty. the big butterfly is very striking!

 
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violarulz (message)  27 posts, Newbee

I used to play in orchestra concerts in that church when I was in college. The acoustics are great and the church is gorgeous.

 


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