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I’ve been a little quiet lately. I’m too overwhelmed with life to come up with clever things to blog about. Either that, or everything I want to blog about is semi-secretive and I can’t share it. Blah.
On Friday, we finally managed to pull off my bridal portraits. I have to be honest, this was the most fun I’ve had in a while. It was so easy to be whatever. To be uninhibited and free to laugh and feel pretty. My hair looked great, totally vintage, and the flower I bought to put in it looked ah.maze.ing!!! My ensemble came together perfectly.
A friend asked if I felt like a bride yet. The answer? No, not really. Should I? Running around town in my gown and veil for several hours was fun, but I didn’t get this overwhelming feeling that I was suddenly transformed into a bride.
I felt beautiful, and pampered, and the center of attention. I got some honks and cat calls, and one lady screamed, “Don’t do it!” from a car window at me. It was strange having people (my mom, mostly) fuss over me for a while. I felt a bit like an invalid. Hemmed in by that huge, heavy dress. Oh, and it was raining, so I had to be really careful about the ground, and the puddles.
Maybe it’s that I’m still completely overwhelmed by the amount of work I have left to do.
I’m going to have to break it up into daily chores to make it manageable. Tomorrow is my off day. I will finish my thank you cards from the shower and the few gifts we’ve received. And I will get our rehearsal dinner invitations out. Oh, and I’m going to try and find a dress for my bachelorette party (round 2) this weekend. I have lots to blog about, and perhaps I’ll work on that, too.
So, I’m just finishing up three 12 hour shifts in a row, and I’m exhausted and totally useless. I’ll leave you with a sneak peek of my bridals.
And this: Is it okay that I don’t “feel” like a bride? Is it ok that Mom didn’t burst into tears at the sight of me in my gown?
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I didn’t feel like a bride until right before I walked down the aisle. The atmosphere is SO DIFFERENT the day of your actual wedding - it’ll hit you, don’t worry. 
That pic is beautiful!
When I was trying on dresses the saleswoman kept bringing up if something made me “feel like a bride.” I don’t even know what that MEANS. As long as you’re having a fabulous, that’s all that matters, I say!
That pic is beautiful!
When I was trying on dresses the saleswoman kept bringing up if something made me “feel like a bride.” I don’t even know what that MEANS. As long as you’re having a fabulous time, that’s all that matters, I say!
there’s so many emotions involved in this whole thing that i think our reactions to everything change all the time
some days i’m balls of tears even thinking about putting my veil on, other days i’ll imagine the entire wedding day and not a single tear wells up.
i’m sure by the time that day comes the emotions are even crazier! i wouldn’t be surprised if i cried through the entire day or went through it all without a tear.
I did bridals before the big day as well (2 months before, actually) and Mr. P was in the shoot too to boot! His first look at the dress was zipping me into it, haha! But, to me, that didn’t change how I felt on my actual wedding day one bit. That day, I was mostly overwhelmed by the love I was surrounded by, not only from my new husband, but from friends and family all celebrating together in support of us. That’s really how I would define “feeling like a bride.”
When my mom and I went to buy my dress, people kept asking whether she cried when she saw me. We were both like, “What? No! We were having fun!”
I think that mom-crying thing is sort of a cliche, and not everyone reacts to touching moments with tears. Sometimes they’re just super psyched! I would have told my mom to get a grip, for pete’s sake. (Now, on the other hand, I just got a new job and I do expect a few tears over the fact that I will FINALLY have health insurance!)
i loved your makeup.
I haven’t felt like a bride yet, not even at my showers. Maybe my bachelorette party?
you’re not alone!
You look stunning in your picture!
I think it is absolutely ok that Mom did not start cying at the sight of you in your dress. Everyone is wired differently. I am sure she still thought you were the most beautiful bride she’s ever seen. When Mom and I went dress shopping when I first got engaged, I got more reaction out of my son than her. I felt a little bad at first, but that’s just the way she is. She may end up crying the day of, who knows.
About feeling bridal…I think that is ok too. Like I said we’re all wired differently. What makes us feel like a bride? I’ll bet the ones that have felt it , it would all be something different. The first time I had my “Omg, we’re getting married” moment we were driving in the car talking about the marriage license. “Marriage license” just sounded so official to me. Here’s the thing: I’ve been married before and have gone through the whole getting the marriage license before. Haha But, that is what made it real to me. I’m sure your moment was much different. Whether you ever actual feel like a bride or not is not important…just have the best day you can because you ARE the bride and that is YOUR day!
You aren’t alone….I feel more like an event planner than a bride. I”m curious when the “bride” feelings will kick in. I think it might happen when I actually walk down the aisle.
As long as you’re happy and in love, you don’t have to have a specific feeling, especially since something like “feeling like a bride” is so abstract. For some people it’s princess, or bridezilla, or blushing bride… But that’s not me! For me it’s about having that “wow, I’m marrying the love of my life” feeling, with a dash of “southern bride” thrown in for good measure.
Yeah, I have a lot of feelings don’t fit the mold (or don’t feel things that I should?). I think that’s normal. You look beautiful. Is your veil pale pink? I love it!
Aww Miss CC, thats perfectly normal! If you dont feel bridal yet, thats probably because its not your wedding day, you know that your mind won’t allow you to feel the “bridal” feelings… Whatever you DO feel on your actual wedding day will be just what you NEED to feel. Don’t worry about that, you have enough on you plate already (along with those horribly long shifts). You look BEE-utiful in your bridal pix - babe-licious, in fact! No wonder you were getting cat-calls! 
Yes. It’s totally ok. You are not alone. When I took my bridals, the only thing that made me feel like a “bride” was, weirdly enough, holding my bouquet. For me, my dress is just that, a pretty dress. : )
Lovely! Can’t wait to see more. Don’t worry about not feeling “bridal” yet. I bet you anything you’ll feel it on your wedding day!
You look stunning! and I think it is completely okay to not feel bridal yet… I think it will hit me as I’m walking down the aisle
First - that picture is gorgeous.
Second - I’m not sure what ‘feeling bridal’ even means. And is the ‘bridal’ feeling the same for everyone? Somehow I don’t think so. If you’re happy and excited to get married, then I think that’s pretty bridal. I’m sure as you get closer and rest up a bit, you’ll get that happy feeling!
You are great. Wonderful. I wish you were my friend. You look like a human being. That’s rare. Enjoy.
@LPC: Thank you.
Thanks everyone, I feel better, and not alone anymore…
My mom was stone cold when she saw me in my dress. But then again, it could have been because we were up since 5 am for the running of the brides and then drove another hour or so across Atlanta to find my dress after not finding one during the event…lol
So don’t worry! You look gorg and she’ll definitely cry on the big day! haha
I feel you! Am I excited for my September wedding - YES! but feeling bridal - not really… You shouldn’t worry about it… you will have a fabulous day and look gorgeous!
When you get a chance…check out the book Altared! Its about how brides feel about contemporary weddings and being contemporary brides…my fiance’s dad and step-mum bought it for me for my birthday adn I started reading it last night…and its fabulous! All different stories about how real modern women deal with being a “bride”…good, bad and all of the in between…
PS. your picture is way beautiful
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Mrs. Crab Cake, Columbus, GA
Age and Occupation: 25, Registered Nurse
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 31, Director of Education and Living History for a museum
Engagement Date: April 6, 2008
Wedding Date: June, 2009
Blogging Since: November 26, 2008
Venue: Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum
About Me: I'm a perfectionist trying to balance two jobs, motherhood, my craft obsession, and wedding planning. I am obsessed with all things wedding, especially creative ideas for saving money and DIY projects. A Southern Belle at heart, I love anything southern, especially sweet tea, grits, afternoon thunder storms, crab cakes, and good old Southern hospitality. Mr. Crab Cake and I are planning a vintage inspired wedding with tons of Southern flare (can y'all say that with a thick Southern drawl?).
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