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Mrs. Cub, Chile/Portland Age and Occupation: 26, Astronomer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Astronomer Engagement Date: May 10, 2008 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: Westwind YWCA camp About Me: I'm a small-town girl who's making a living in Chile, with her heart in the Pacific Northwest. I grew up in Southern California, went to high school in Texas, grad school in New Mexico, and now I can't wait to settle down in Oregon! I love pears, hazelnuts, knitting, traveling, running, baking, and long talks on the phone with good friends. I'm planning my Oregon coast summer camp wedding while abroad with my best friend - I'm always at home when I'm with him!
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A Dress From My Dreams, Part 1

June 1st, 2009 @ 9:29 am by Mrs. Bear Cub

The only thing having to do with weddings that I ever thought about growing up besides the venue was my dress. My dream dress. Realistically, I think I just got so hung up on the perfect dress that I never got the chance to imaginary-plan my future wedding. Kind of like an endless loop, with no end in sight!

When I was about 5, my mom came home at night after work shocked to see her daughter (me) playing with her Barbies in bed. I didn’t see a problem at the time - I was just playing dress-up, and tonight it was dress-up, weddings edition. I had a little white dress - that worked good enough for my imagination. I just didn’t have a veil for my little Barbie. So I cut up a white blanket that I found in my room to make the veil. The white blanket my mom brought me home from the hospital in. She was a little ticked I had cut up this blanket - for her it was imbued with such strong memories of the day I was born! Needless to say, the next day she brought home a box called “Barbie Bridal Dress” - veil included.

In middle school, every opportunity I got I sketched dresses. Long dresses, short dresses, velvet dresses, pique dresses, applique dresses - all wedding dresses. I was convinced (for some insane reason) I could sketch my dream wedding dress. Most of these dresses looked a lot like Monique Lhuillier’s Scarlet.

Monique Lhuillier Scarlet


Ms. Lhuillier and I hadn’t met yet (in the bridal magazine sense), so I never knew something like what I sketched might exist one day! I also realized at some point that you’d have to be insanely lucky to make it as a wedding dress designer, so my sketches fell by the way-side.

I didn’t really think very seriously about my wedding dress again until I thought I needed to. This was a few relationships back, so obviously I was wrong (about the needing to find a dress, and the guy), but skimming bridal magazines in your early 20s isn’t so unheard of. ;)

About this time, my matron of honor got engaged (she’s getting married about a month before me this year). I helped her look through the bridal magazines, and this dress kept fetching my eye -

Priscilla of Boston 2902

I obviously didn’t have any reason to try it on at the time, so I kept the dress folded away for later.

Well, later came last May! I was engaged! All engines full blast! What was the first thing I did? I looked up that dress.

Honestly, though, since Mr. Cubbie and I knew before the “engagement” that we were getting married, I was on full-throttle hunt for my dream dress for the entire months of March and April! Grad classes? What grad classes? There’s a dream dress to be found!

About a week after we had “the talk”, I filled up on bridal magazines to do research. I researched, and I researched. All I cared about researching was dresses. After probably 4 different magazines (tomes, really), I was convinced the Priscilla of Boston style 2902 was the only dress for me.

I think the reason I felt so strongly about my dress decision was this - why should I wear an ivory/white/champagne/pickacolor dress unless I absolutely love it? Why should I spend so much money on a one-night-stand dress unless I wanted to give it breakfast the next morning? Why should I wear a wedding dress unless I feel wonderful and like a bride in it?

I thought at the time that the POB 2902 was the only dress in the world that could possibly fulfill these requirements. There were a few problems, though. This dress retails for something like $5K, and I hadn’t yet even tried it on.

Did you fall madly in love with one dress when you were looking?

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21 Responses to “A Dress From My Dreams, Part 1”

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marylizbeth
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marylizbeth (message)  132 posts, Blushing bee

I did! It was another POB dress too. I thought it was the one and only, even though it was out of my price range. Then I actually tried it on and it wasn’t that fabulous. I still the dress is beautiful but just not for my shape. I went with a dress that didn’t meet any of my “requirements”, but I loved it!

 
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mrspaetz
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mrspaetz (message)  1,707 posts, Bumble bee

i did. it was an Alfred Angelo 1516 in black that i saw in magazines/online. I tried it on and liked it, but a drastic change in venue meant I couldn’t have a ginormous ballgown anymore.

i’m happy with my new dress but sometimes do think about this dramatic AA piece.

 
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august15bride
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august15bride (message)  1,378 posts, Bumble bee

Yes, I fell in love with an Alvina Valenta. I never tried it on, but in a way I’m glad beause I knew it was WAY out of my price range!

 
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Mrs. Quiche (message)  2,185 posts, Buzzing bee

Actually, I lusted after dream dresses POST purchasing my dress. & even now. sigh :)

 
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Lexatron
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Lexatron (message)  330 posts, Helper bee

I looooovvve the JCrew Lucinda dress. Unfortunately, it only comes in white, and I already have an ivory heirloom veil from my FMIL.

 
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Miss Snappy Turtle
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Miss Snappy Turtle (message)  85 posts, Worker bee

I fell in love with the POB 2902 just like you! However, I was able to find a knock-off of the dress in a local shop. It is, of course, not as “silky” as the POB, but it is still beautiful and I cannot wait to wear it!

 
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Trixie Jean
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Trixie Jean (message)  22 posts, Newbee

I’m not even engaged. Or close, for that matter.
Needless to say, I’ve been physically having to restrain myself from dress shopping since I joined WB…
Thanks for making it that much harder! :-)

 
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Miss Snapdragon (message)  438 posts, Helper bee

I do love that Scarlett - it’s so beautiful!

 
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Shay
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Shay (message)  438 posts, Helper bee

I love your dress..but from the moment that the ring was on my finger I was looking for the perfect dress. I am a very curvacious Latina so I wanted a dress that would complement me in every way. I made an appointment at a location bridal salon I went with my mom and tried on about 15 dress and fell in love with a strapless lace Marisa dress and a Mantilla veil that made me tear up.

 
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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,553 posts, Bee Keeper

I love almost all the designs by Priscilla, Melissa Sweet and Vineyard!

 
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Miss Hot Sauce (message)  932 posts, Busy bee

I have browsed David’s Bridal and alfred Angelo websites a hundred times. I’ve also browsed tons of other designers. Then I came across the Maggie Sottero Symphony and Symphony Royale. I cannot stop thinking about it!! It is taking all of me not to run right out to the bridal shop and try it one right now!

 
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Christy

Found my dress, loved it, tried it on, then looked at the price tag……

Found someone to make it for me instead!

 
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tea
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tea (message)  2,647 posts, Sugar bee

yep, several times in fact. good thing i’m not planning for real yet or i’d be a multi-dress bride!

 
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Miss French Bulldog
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Miss French Bulldog (message)  6,067 posts, Bee Keeper

@Miss Bruschetta: Ditto!

 
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NixLapi
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NixLapi (message)  406 posts, Helper bee

I found my dress in a mag as well, and knew it would be the one… I tried on others thanks to much cajoling from my mom, but I persisted and after calling 20+ shops in the area finally found one that would bring it in for me to try. I still loved it and can’t wait to wear it! (and thankfully, it was well within budget!)

 
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Sarah

Oh, there was this great Alfred Angelo dress, right in my price range, with sleeves (why so rare?), not too lacy, not too spangly, exactly what I wanted, blah blah blah. I threw out all the other pages torn out of bridal guides, because why bother? I’d found The One!

I tried it on, and although it looked okay on me–not great, by any means–it was ridiculously, cartoonishly heavy. I could barely drag the train around the carpeting in the salon, and here I thought I was going to schlep it through grass?!

And then I did that thing that you hear about, where the salesperson forces you into a dress you never would have picked out for yourself, and…it’s perfect.

And then I did that thing where you buy it online for half the price. Yay!

 
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Miss Bear Cub
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Miss Bear Cub (message)  1,354 posts, Bumble bee

@Lexatron: Have you seen the new fall bridal line?!?! OMG OMGOMG it’s so tasty. http://www.jcrew.com/AST/MiniSites/WeddingPartiesFall2009.jsp

 
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Miss Bear Cub
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Miss Bear Cub (message)  1,354 posts, Bumble bee

@Sarah: yay for online bridal steals! :)

 
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mandalynn17
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mandalynn17 (message)  1,071 posts, Bumble bee

@Lexatron:
I fell in love with that dress, too! I decided to have someone make it for me for a much more reasonable price!

 
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AnamCara
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AnamCara (message)  326 posts, Helper bee

I loved ‘Tia’ by Augusta Jones as soon as I saw it online…then it was one of the first dresses I tried on (months later) once I got engaged… And it was still fabulous and looked great. Except for the pricetag!!! But if I win the lotto I would be tempted to go back to Tia…it’s just beautiful…

 
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xLailax (message)  234 posts, Helper bee

OH MY GOODIES! I love the first one by Monique! I think I felt my heart stop when I saw the pic! Yikes! It is possible to be in love with a dress?

 


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