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I love my engagement ring and I’m really excited about adding a wedding ring to my finger to join it. Since the engagement, I’ve gotten pretty used to wearing my e-ring everyday. In fact, it even feels a little odd when I don’t have it on. I don’t think wearing a wedding ring with it is going to make of a difference (except when I start frequently stealing glances at my finger… as I did when I first got engaged). 
Mr. Beagle, on the other hand, has never been one to wear jewelry. We are getting him a wedding ring, maybe more for symbolism than anything else. He will probably put it on when we have “date night” or go out as a couple. However, I’m not sure he’ll end up wearing daily, as I will be wearing mine. Honestly, this really doesn’t bother me. Although I can always remember my parents wearing their wedding bands, Mr. Beagle has always remembered his parents not wearing bands. Perhaps this is why he may go sans wedding band a majority of the time. Does it make his parents less married then mine? No. The rings are merely a symbol of something much greater.
Will you be a dedicated ring wearer after you get married? Would you be disappointed if your partner was not?
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My parents actually never really wear their wedding rings. My Mom sometimes wears her’s on special occasions. I think its ok, although I think I will always wear at least my wedding band. I like the symbolism of it.
While I know lenty of guys who are married but just don’t wear a wedding band, I know I’d be a little disapointed if my husband didn’t want to wear one. I love looking over at his hand and seeing his band. Its especially significant because he’s also not much into jewelry and doesn’t wear anything other than the band; not even a watch.
Wow, I have to admit, I would be super disappointed if my guy didn’t want to wear his ring all the time. I know that some guys can’t wear a ring because of their job (a mechanic for example), and I recognize Mr. Beagle’s experience with his parents not wearing their wedding bands. But if I were you, I would still be disappointed. Kudos to you for being so understanding and flexible!
My fiance would like to wear his all the time but he’s an electrician and they’re told to not wear jewlery during work…especially metal ones since they could get zapped. So I totally understand if he’s not wearing it at work. But I do think he will and I expect him to wear it all the other times like after work after he showers and on weekends. But ya…at the end of the day it shouldn’t really matter but I’d like him to at least WANT to wear it if I’m going to be wearing mine all the time.
Also, my fiance isn’t someone who wears any jewlery at all normally either so it’d be nice if that was the only thing we wore. It would make it all the more significant.
I always wear mine, and I bought my fiance a ring when we got engaged that was meant to be worn on his right hand, but since he told me the wrong size it was too big. He wears it on his left hand since his knuckle is bigger and he loves it. He doesn’t take it off. I’m glad that he likes wearing his ring.
I understand if a guy can’t wear his ring all the time due to work. My FFIL works in landscaping so he wears his ring very infrequently. But to be honest, I don’t buy the whole “I’m just not a jewelry person” line. To me a wedding ring means so much, both personally and socially. I love seeing other men wearing wedding rings. It shows the rest of the world that yes, you’re a taken man. My mom and dad were never married, so I don’t have much to base my feelings from.
If my FI told me he only planned on wearing his ring for special occasions it would be a big issue with me. More so than strippers/porn/bachelor party antics/etc. I feel it’s a respect issue, as well. Is it that big of a hassle to wear a piece of metal on your finger to show that you’re married? I just get so mad when I hear men say that they wont wear their wedding ring.
Over the weekend we stopped at the grocery store for some red bull and I saw this man our age who was attractive (hey I notice attractive people!) and he had a cart full of groceries and he had a wedding band on and it just melted my heart…maybe I’m emotion right now but I thought it was sweet to see that. I just love it when men wear their wedding rings…it’s like saying they’re proud to be married and to let everyone know it.
Side story…we dropped into Tiffany’s to look at mens bands and as my man was trying a ring on he said “It just feels weird, I’ve never worn jewelery” and the man that was helping us said “Give it 5 minutes, you’ll get used to it and not want to take it off”…sort of like wearing a thong for the first time!
My dad never wore his ring, and my parents have a very happy marriage of 35 years. My husband doesn’t wear his, and we have a very happy marriage of about 6 months. I don’t have a problem with it because my husband is so wonderful and I have no reason not to trust him. For some it’s an issue, for some it’s not. Live and let live.
My husband was originally going to be a “for special occasion” ring wearer since as a Helicopter pilot he can’t wear it when flying. It kinda hurt my feelings a little, but I understood. Well, after putting it on for the wedding and our few day mini-moon, he went back to work, and took it off. He said he missed it and couldnt wait to put it back on! Now he wears it unless hes flying - yeah!!
I would be sad if my fiance didn’t want to wear his ring! My parents always wore theirs, and I purposely chose a band that I could wear any time anywhere without having to worry if I’ve lost a diamond in the garden or something. Rings certainly aren’t a requirement for a good relationship, but I love the symbolism of an ever-present wedding band!
My dad doesn’t wear a ring, my mom has a simple band - no diamond (she hates them!) and they’ve been married for 30 years. The ring isn’t going to add anything to the relationship thats not already there!
My dad doesn’t wear a wedding ring, and about half of my male coworkers don’t. Not because they’re being creepy, but because they work with their hands a lot and are machinists.
The ring is just an obvious symbol of “i’m taken”. It doesn’t mean he loves you any more or any less, and if you aren’t comfortable wearing one, by all means you shouldn’t.
I will say that you get used to them after a week or so though! So maybe he should give it a try =] My dad only wears a really large diamond ring (think Mafia style haha) at fancy places as his wedding ring.
My fiance had a hard time with the jewelry idea at first as well. We stopped in a jewelry store in the mall to have my ring cleaned and I asked that while we were there we might as well take advantage of a free opportunity for him to be sized if he warms up to the idea of a ring. Right off the bat I mentioned his issue with jewelry…not to put him on the spot but I wanted to see what their ‘pitch’ would be. We both had no knowledge of men’s wedding bands or the metals. The woman shook her head as if she hears this every day. She handed him a titanium ring and we both couldn’t believe how light it was. He was pretty much sold…so we looked around online for an independent jeweler/artist to support and eventually found one that fit our budget.
I am devoted to wearing my rings (I sport wedding band on the left and e-ring on the right). My husband was never a jewelry wearing other than his watch (which I gave him), but he was all about making his band a daily wearable. It looks so so so handsome on him!! I actualy had asked him if he wanted some simple ring to wear during the engagement like a man e-ring, but instead we went with an X-Box 360
I agree I don’t think a ring makes you any less married (or any less engaged for that matter). I think it is great that you are so understanding about Mr Beagle not wearing his ring all the time, I have to admit even though I don’t think it makes me any less married I really want Mr Frenchie to wear a ring. Lucky for us, he really wants to wear one to
Haha….Mr. Dumpling doesn’t wear a ring. In fact, and I really should blog about this, I bought his ring 3 days before the wedding at a discount super-store chain and he hated it. We used it for the ceremony, but then I returned it a few days later. On date night he currently sports and $8 sterling silver (probably fake sterling silver?) band. He hates wearing it. I really dont care- as long as he isnt trying to pick up chicks cause he looks “single”…….lo. Its no big deal. My dad doesnt wear a ring either.
Unless I’m gardening or painting or doing something else that could damage my rings, I plan on wearing both at all times. If my FI didn’t want to wear a ring, I think I’d be a little sad. My parents always wore their rings and, even though I can’t explain why, it makes me happy thinking back about it.
My FH really isn’t into jewellry, so he’s decided he is going to get a tattoo of a “ring” on his left hand. I have no problem with that.
My FH was so excited to get a ring, that I bought him an engagement ring to wear. It’s a bit too big for his left hand (he’s going to wear it on his right after the wedding), but he almost never takes it off, and if he does and leaves the house without it he freaks out a bit. To me, it really says a lot about his commitment to me and to our future marriage that he couldn’t wait to have that piece of jewelry that signals he’s taken.
I will for sure be a dedicated ring wearer…and I would be a bit sad if he didn’t want to wear one. Although I don’t think it loves me anymore or less either way, I just always grew up with male family members wearing one.
I’ll be wearing mine all the time. I love rings, as they’re about the only type of jewelry that I never break or lose! My FI would probably wear one daily, but I wouldn’t be hurt if he didn’t. That’s if he finds one he likes enough…he’s always whining how women get so much more selection for jewelry and clothing and he can never find something he loves.
I don’t think the ring is all that important, but I still think it’s incredible to see my partner wearing one! I was excited about that from the beginning.
As long as you’re okay with it, it’s okay. Me? I’d go ape shit crazy if Mr. Lab didn’t want to wear one. Yes, I think it’s a symbol of love AND a way to tell if someone’s off the market! 
I will wear mine. I have yet to figure out if the FI will. My parents have always worn rings. His mom wears hers, but his dad does not (not by choice, it doesn’t fit him anymore). He says he is not sure, but I think if we find him something he will be comfortable with (like a tungsten ring), he’d be more apt to wear it. We’ll see!
At the risk of sounding like Bridezilla; yes, I expect my mister to wear his ring forever and a day. I plan to keep mine on (well I already have a wedding band… my promise ring, just dont have my engagement ring yet because I can’t decide on just one Mwahaha he can buy me 2) I know that he’ll have a ball with the wedding band too though. He doesnt like jewelry at all and doesnt even like to wear watches unless they’re lightweight, but he’s just so incredibly sentimental and I know he’ll keep that ring on just as I want him too hehe.
My FH doesn’t want to wear one and I don’t really care. Actually, I think it’s pretty great because we don’t have to spend a lot of money on a ring for him I hate wearing rings, so I feel his pain. If my wasn’t so pretty, I wouldn’t want to wear it either. My dad never wore his.
My parents don’t wear their wedding rings either. It was something I never understood and asked my mom about it many times. Apparently, hers got lost of fell down the drain and I don’t know what happened to my dad’s. I will be a dedicated ring wearer. I feel naked and panic if I don’t feel my engagement ring (like when it is at the jeweler’s). I only take it off it I am cooking something messy or that will get in it like tortillas or hamburgers (have to get your hands in there!), but I keep it close so I can put it right back on.
FI will not be wearing his all the time. He will spend the majority not wearing it. He is a machinist and a ring, watch or even sleeves is a big hazard for him. Not to mention hopefully by next year business will pick up again and he will probably be back to working overtime. So, that is a good 65 hours a week he WILL NOT be wearing his ring and by the time he gets home what would be the point unless we go out to dinner? Although, I did tell him that when we do go out to dinner or anywhere, he should definitely get in to the habit of wearing it. It is something we will work on.
When this subject came up on Weddingbee I asked my Fi - “hey, after we get married are you going to wear your ring?” and he looked at me like i had 2 heads and said, “Duh, of course, we’ll be married. why WOULDN’T I wear it?” And since I knew that all guys don’t respond like that it warmed my heart!
I wear my engagement ring all the time except when doing home improvements or sleeping. I used to wear it to bed but it hurts my hand.
I wear mine all the time (unless gardening or something) but we’re not even going to bother getting him one. My dad never wore one, his dad has his in a drawer somewhere. FI has never worn any jewelry, watches, or anything else. I’m not going to ask him to wear something I know he really isn’t in to. It won’t make us any less married.
I’m not a huge jewelry person and hardly wore rings before, but now my e-ring is such a habit that I too kinda freak out if I’m not wearing it. ^_^
My dad never wore a ring since he worked on electronics on airplanes and Mr. Spin’s dad also works with his hands, so he never wears a ring either. And Mr. Spin will be a PA, so odds are he won’t want to wear a ring to work (esp. if he picks a gross specialty ^_^). So, while I hope Mr. Spin will like to wear his wedding ring, I’m not getting my hopes too high.
My dad accidentally threw his ring away about a year after my parents were married and never got another one until about 2 years ago and they’ll be celebrating their 30th anniversary in Dec. I plan on wearing mine everyday, but since FI is a mechanic he won’t at work but says he will other than that. He’s also debating on a getting a ring tattoo so he’ll always be wearing one. Of course its up to him and as long as he wears it some of the time I’ll be ok with it
My fiance says he wants to wear one. For our engagement, I got him a custom pendant made and he wears that all the time. Whenever people asked to see “THE RING,” he always also pulled out his pendant (from under his shirt–it’s usually tucked in) and showed it off too:) Very endearing.
My fiance is in construction, so like go2bee, my guy will not be wearing his band on a daily basis. He also does not like jewelry because he doesn’t feel comfortable with it on. So, most likely the band will only be worn during the ceremony and on very rare occasions, but I am fine with it.
My dad has never had a wedding ring — both he and my mom knew he’d never wear it, so they didn’t bother spending money on it. (In fact, for years I thought only women wore rings. I didn’t realize it was a personal decision.)
I’m glad my husband chose to wear one, but if he hadn’t, I wouldn’t have been upset. He’s still my husband, ring or not.
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Mrs. Beagle, Austin
Age and Occupation: 26, Electrical Engineer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Finance
Engagement Date: July 12, 2008
Wedding Date: October 2009
Venue: Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
About Me: I am a true, but rare, Austinite---I was born, raised, and continue to live in this great city! Although
I am an engineer by day, I feed my inner creative side through crafting, sewing, and obsessing over Martha Stewart. I love coffee, my mister, NPR, and exploring all the nooks and crannies of Austin.
I can't wait to share my adventures in DIY and wedding planning with all of you!
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