To Ring or Not to Ring…

To Ring or Not to Ring…

June 1st, 2009 @ 5:35 pm by Mrs. Beagle
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I love my engagement ring and I’m really excited about adding a wedding ring to my finger to join it. Since the engagement, I’ve gotten pretty used to wearing my e-ring everyday. In fact, it even feels a little odd when I don’t have it on. I don’t think wearing a wedding ring with it is going to make of a difference (except when I start frequently stealing glances at my finger… as I did when I first got engaged).

Mr. Beagle, on the other hand, has never been one to wear jewelry. We are getting him a wedding ring, maybe more for symbolism than anything else. He will probably put it on when we have “date night” or go out as a couple. However, I’m not sure he’ll end up wearing daily, as I will be wearing mine. Honestly, this really doesn’t bother me. Although I can always remember my parents wearing their wedding bands, Mr. Beagle has always remembered his parents not wearing bands. Perhaps this is why he may go sans wedding band a majority of the time. Does it make his parents less married then mine? No. The rings are merely a symbol of something much greater.

Will you be a dedicated ring wearer after you get married? Would you be disappointed if your partner was not?

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35 Responses to “To Ring or Not to Ring…”

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ke3 (message) 255 posts, Helper bee

My parents actually never really wear their wedding rings. My Mom sometimes wears her’s on special occasions. I think its ok, although I think I will always wear at least my wedding band. I like the symbolism of it.

6/1/09 @ 5:42 pm (reply)

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ktdid23 (message) 622 posts, Busy bee

While I know lenty of guys who are married but just don’t wear a wedding band, I know I’d be a little disapointed if my husband didn’t want to wear one. I love looking over at his hand and seeing his band. Its especially significant because he’s also not much into jewelry and doesn’t wear anything other than the band; not even a watch.

6/1/09 @ 5:43 pm (reply)

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WhimsicalBride (message) 44 posts, Newbee

Wow, I have to admit, I would be super disappointed if my guy didn’t want to wear his ring all the time. I know that some guys can’t wear a ring because of their job (a mechanic for example), and I recognize Mr. Beagle’s experience with his parents not wearing their wedding bands. But if I were you, I would still be disappointed. Kudos to you for being so understanding and flexible!

6/1/09 @ 5:46 pm (reply)

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go2bee (message) 187 posts, Blushing bee

My fiance would like to wear his all the time but he’s an electrician and they’re told to not wear jewlery during work…especially metal ones since they could get zapped. So I totally understand if he’s not wearing it at work. But I do think he will and I expect him to wear it all the other times like after work after he showers and on weekends. But ya…at the end of the day it shouldn’t really matter but I’d like him to at least WANT to wear it if I’m going to be wearing mine all the time.

6/1/09 @ 5:52 pm (reply)

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go2bee (message) 187 posts, Blushing bee

Also, my fiance isn’t someone who wears any jewlery at all normally either so it’d be nice if that was the only thing we wore. It would make it all the more significant.

6/1/09 @ 5:53 pm (reply)

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msashleymarie (message) 616 posts, Busy bee

I always wear mine, and I bought my fiance a ring when we got engaged that was meant to be worn on his right hand, but since he told me the wrong size it was too big. He wears it on his left hand since his knuckle is bigger and he loves it. He doesn’t take it off. I’m glad that he likes wearing his ring.

6/1/09 @ 6:09 pm (reply)

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EAQ219 (message) 1,448 posts, Bumble bee

I understand if a guy can’t wear his ring all the time due to work. My FFIL works in landscaping so he wears his ring very infrequently. But to be honest, I don’t buy the whole “I’m just not a jewelry person” line. To me a wedding ring means so much, both personally and socially. I love seeing other men wearing wedding rings. It shows the rest of the world that yes, you’re a taken man. My mom and dad were never married, so I don’t have much to base my feelings from.

If my FI told me he only planned on wearing his ring for special occasions it would be a big issue with me. More so than strippers/porn/bachelor party antics/etc. I feel it’s a respect issue, as well. Is it that big of a hassle to wear a piece of metal on your finger to show that you’re married? I just get so mad when I hear men say that they wont wear their wedding ring.

6/1/09 @ 6:12 pm (reply)

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redbullfanatic (message) 489 posts, Helper bee

Over the weekend we stopped at the grocery store for some red bull and I saw this man our age who was attractive (hey I notice attractive people!) and he had a cart full of groceries and he had a wedding band on and it just melted my heart…maybe I’m emotion right now but I thought it was sweet to see that. I just love it when men wear their wedding rings…it’s like saying they’re proud to be married and to let everyone know it.

Side story…we dropped into Tiffany’s to look at mens bands and as my man was trying a ring on he said “It just feels weird, I’ve never worn jewelery” and the man that was helping us said “Give it 5 minutes, you’ll get used to it and not want to take it off”…sort of like wearing a thong for the first time!

6/1/09 @ 6:21 pm (reply)

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chicagowife (message) 844 posts, Busy bee

My dad never wore his ring, and my parents have a very happy marriage of 35 years. My husband doesn’t wear his, and we have a very happy marriage of about 6 months. I don’t have a problem with it because my husband is so wonderful and I have no reason not to trust him. For some it’s an issue, for some it’s not. Live and let live.

6/1/09 @ 6:22 pm (reply)

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mdarrah (message) 1,205 posts, Bumble bee

My husband was originally going to be a “for special occasion” ring wearer since as a Helicopter pilot he can’t wear it when flying. It kinda hurt my feelings a little, but I understood. Well, after putting it on for the wedding and our few day mini-moon, he went back to work, and took it off. He said he missed it and couldnt wait to put it back on! Now he wears it unless hes flying - yeah!!

6/1/09 @ 6:45 pm (reply)

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mvp_bride

I would be sad if my fiance didn’t want to wear his ring! My parents always wore theirs, and I purposely chose a band that I could wear any time anywhere without having to worry if I’ve lost a diamond in the garden or something. Rings certainly aren’t a requirement for a good relationship, but I love the symbolism of an ever-present wedding band!

6/1/09 @ 6:50 pm (reply)

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Miss Gloss (message) 1,222 posts, Bumble bee

My dad doesn’t wear a ring, my mom has a simple band - no diamond (she hates them!) and they’ve been married for 30 years. The ring isn’t going to add anything to the relationship thats not already there!

6/1/09 @ 7:06 pm (reply)

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ejs4y8 (message) 14,581 posts, Bee Keeper

My dad doesn’t wear a wedding ring, and about half of my male coworkers don’t. Not because they’re being creepy, but because they work with their hands a lot and are machinists.

The ring is just an obvious symbol of “i’m taken”. It doesn’t mean he loves you any more or any less, and if you aren’t comfortable wearing one, by all means you shouldn’t.

I will say that you get used to them after a week or so though! So maybe he should give it a try =] My dad only wears a really large diamond ring (think Mafia style haha) at fancy places as his wedding ring.

6/1/09 @ 7:14 pm (reply)

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Becki

My fiance had a hard time with the jewelry idea at first as well. We stopped in a jewelry store in the mall to have my ring cleaned and I asked that while we were there we might as well take advantage of a free opportunity for him to be sized if he warms up to the idea of a ring. Right off the bat I mentioned his issue with jewelry…not to put him on the spot but I wanted to see what their ‘pitch’ would be. We both had no knowledge of men’s wedding bands or the metals. The woman shook her head as if she hears this every day. She handed him a titanium ring and we both couldn’t believe how light it was. He was pretty much sold…so we looked around online for an independent jeweler/artist to support and eventually found one that fit our budget.

6/1/09 @ 7:15 pm (reply)

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MaPo (message) 315 posts, Helper bee

I am devoted to wearing my rings (I sport wedding band on the left and e-ring on the right). My husband was never a jewelry wearing other than his watch (which I gave him), but he was all about making his band a daily wearable. It looks so so so handsome on him!! I actualy had asked him if he wanted some simple ring to wear during the engagement like a man e-ring, but instead we went with an X-Box 360

6/1/09 @ 7:21 pm (reply)

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Miss French Bulldog (message) 7,730 posts, Bee Keeper

I agree I don’t think a ring makes you any less married (or any less engaged for that matter). I think it is great that you are so understanding about Mr Beagle not wearing his ring all the time, I have to admit even though I don’t think it makes me any less married I really want Mr Frenchie to wear a ring. Lucky for us, he really wants to wear one to

6/1/09 @ 7:42 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Dumpling (message) 722 posts, Busy bee

Haha….Mr. Dumpling doesn’t wear a ring. In fact, and I really should blog about this, I bought his ring 3 days before the wedding at a discount super-store chain and he hated it. We used it for the ceremony, but then I returned it a few days later. On date night he currently sports and $8 sterling silver (probably fake sterling silver?) band. He hates wearing it. I really dont care- as long as he isnt trying to pick up chicks cause he looks “single”…….lo. Its no big deal. My dad doesnt wear a ring either.

6/1/09 @ 7:53 pm (reply)

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kosstobe (message) 232 posts, Helper bee

Unless I’m gardening or painting or doing something else that could damage my rings, I plan on wearing both at all times. If my FI didn’t want to wear a ring, I think I’d be a little sad. My parents always wore their rings and, even though I can’t explain why, it makes me happy thinking back about it.

6/1/09 @ 8:05 pm (reply)

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CanadianBride72 (message) 9 posts, Newbee

My FH really isn’t into jewellry, so he’s decided he is going to get a tattoo of a “ring” on his left hand. I have no problem with that.

6/1/09 @ 8:07 pm (reply)

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CalicoBride (message) 39 posts, Newbee

My FH was so excited to get a ring, that I bought him an engagement ring to wear. It’s a bit too big for his left hand (he’s going to wear it on his right after the wedding), but he almost never takes it off, and if he does and leaves the house without it he freaks out a bit. To me, it really says a lot about his commitment to me and to our future marriage that he couldn’t wait to have that piece of jewelry that signals he’s taken.

6/1/09 @ 8:13 pm (reply)

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