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I never thought I’d buy my dress so early in the game! Don’t get me wrong, though - I was so happy I got everything I wanted in a wedding dress for well within my budget. The “problem”, though, is that I never got closure with my first dress love.
Isn’t that so silly?! How can someone want closure with a dress? I swear I’m not crazy - I just really like nice fabric.
The timing for my second-guessing couldn’t have been better. My dress arrived in the mail at the end of June (no 6-month wait period! hurrah!), and Mr. Cubbie and I were headed up to Boulder for a 4th of July wedding soon thereafter.
You see, in Denver there existed not only a Monique Lhuillier salon (so I could see what the original Miranda and Scarlet gowns felt like), there was also a Priscilla of Boston salon. I could finally try on the POB 2902!
Even better was that the girlfriend of Mr. Cubbie’s best man was coming to the wedding, too. Even though we’d only spent a little time together, she was excited to go wedding dress shopping with me!
Mr. Cubbie was a groomsman in our friends’ wedding, so our time in Boulder was, for the most part, not very abundant. I ended up having to cancel my appointment at Monique Lhuillier, but that didn’t really matter - I already owned one of her gowns!
Priscilla of Boston was definitely happening, though.
Mr. Bear Cub doesn’t want to see me in any wedding dress before the wedding, so if you’re reading, Mr. Cubbie, stop right now!
My new girlfriend and I drove down to Denver from Boulder in our CarShare wheels (actually cheaper than renting!), and when we pulled up to the salon, I couldn’t believe I was finally getting the chance to try on my dress!
I’m so glad I did. I’m also so glad I had a girlfriend there with me! I put some other gowns by Melissa Sweet in the dressing room, but obviously the POB 2902 was the first dress I tried on.
My reaction?
Well, let’s put it this way: I didn’t even take a picture. I was that unimpressed. There are just some dresses that look way better on the model. It’s such a weight off my shoulders to know (for sure) that this dress wasn’t me.
One other dress did pique my interest, though - the Melissa Sweet Tilda:
You can even see POB 2902 in the background.
I really wanted to love it, but just couldn’t.
Turns out I loved the Tilda. The pictures don’t really do it justice. The lace on the bottom is cut so that when you walk, it swishes and sways so beautifully! The price tag, at $7000, wasn’t so beautiful, though. The Tilda is a new design, so there aren’t any used dresses for sale (that I’d found) yet. That’s fine by me, though - I already owned a gorgeous designer lace dress!
With this little trip to POB, I left feeling well-assured that my eBay steal was my dream wedding dress. No more second-guessing! I love my dress, and I haven’t had dress envy since.
Did you get to try on all the dress styles you wanted? If not, did you ever second-guess your decision? Did you still try on dresses after you bought your wedding dress? How many stores did you have to go to until you found your gown?
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Oooo, Tilda’s gorgeous! See, I didn’t even let myself try on dresses that were more than $3,000-4,000, because I didn’t want to luuuurve one and be stuck.
What a beautiful dress! I really think that your “dream” dtress is stunning though and it looks so great on you. Good choice! Thanks for showing us this one too though!
I honestly prefer your own dress to the POB Tilda. You look so stunning in the ML from Ebay! You made a really great choice!
LOL, I did the same thing. Second guessed my dress, went to one more bridal salon, and then came back realizing that my dress is THE one. It’s a nice reassuring feeling 
I was so afraid you were going to give up your Miranda dress!!
I haven’t bought my dress yet, but when I do, I know I won’t try on anything else. Too painful a process!
My first love was a Jasmine dress, which I couldn’t find in this country to try on. Recently I found a dress that looked almost EXACTLY like it, so I tried it on for the heck of it. I’m pleased to say it wasn’t all that! My actual dress looked far better on me. So I also got that closure - after my wedding, but still!
I absolutely loved my Jim Hjelm (that I’m getting “inspired by”) dress. I haven’t tried on another since then. I like looking at posts like this, but I’m not tempting myself by going into any more bridal salons, no matter how much I love my dress!
I totally understand your need for “closure” and it’s good that you got to try on your “dream” dress. For some reason with wedding planning, we get fixated or focused on what we want to the point that we will always wonder “what if” if we decide to deviate from the plan. Now you can rest easy because you know without a doubt that you made the right dress decision.
the tilda is so elegant but your ML is definitely a BEAUTY.
you’re gonna be stellar!!
@Mojito: haha, nope! she’s my girl til late september! Then we’ll see how easy this whole “selling the wedding dress” thing is. That’s such a sweet comment
@Miss Marine: Have you seen the fall 2009 preview for jcrew’s wedding dresses??
http://www.jcrew.com/AST/MiniSites/WeddingPartiesFall2009.jsp
omg they’re beautiful. Especially the first dress. The hem looks pretty similar to the Tilda gown, too 
As gorgeous as the Tilda is I would’ve been sad to see you give up your beautiful ML
You made the right choice. The eBay steal looks stunning on you.
I have not had the chance to try on some of the gowns on my list. It seems that several of the ones that I really liked, none of the boutiques in town carried them. Sad day 
@Miss Bear Cub: omg. I have a newfound love of J Crew wedding attire… I couldn’t really understand what all the hype was about before! Still though, your ML is soooo pretty and I don’t think you should cheat on it anymore with these other dresses lol.
Hooray for POB in Denver! I got my dress there and they soon discontinued it afterwards, so in my opinion, it was a steal.
PS- if you’re ever back in Boulder, PM me and we can do more fun wedding stuff together!
I actually purchased a dress, put a 50% nonrefundable deposit down, and immediately started second guessing myself. The entire process, I had been looking at soft, delicate dresses, so why did I just purchase a dress with a stiffer material and architectural lines in the back? Today I went to try on the first dress I ever fell in love with, which I first laid eyes on (and loved) 2 weeks after getting engaged, and it was PERFECT. I had to have it, so I put down a deposit. Fortunately, the first dress is from POB so I can use the store credit towards bridesmaid dresses and accessories!
I much prefer your e-bay dress to the Tilda, as far as how it accentuates your features - you just look beautiful in it, and the dress itself is beautiful. Please don’t look back!
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Mrs. Cub, Chile/Portland
Age and Occupation: 26, Astronomer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Astronomer
Engagement Date: May 10, 2008
Wedding Date: September 2009
Venue: Westwind YWCA camp
About Me: I'm a small-town girl who's making a living in Chile, with her heart in the Pacific Northwest. I grew up in Southern California, went to high school in Texas, grad school in New Mexico, and now I can't wait to settle down in Oregon! I love pears, hazelnuts,
knitting, traveling, running, baking, and long talks on the phone with
good friends. I'm planning my Oregon coast summer camp wedding while
abroad with my best friend - I'm always at home when I'm with him!
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