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There is a strong disconnect with the reality of time in the Gloss household.
We are coming up on the two month mark…..THE TWO MONTH MARK!! I get all nervous and flustered when I hear it, while an ever expanding to-do list races through my head.
I casually mentioned to Mr. Gloss the other night that the two-month mark is rapidly approaching and that we should really get a lot of major things done, like talk with the caterer about food options, figure out music for the reception and cocktail hour, find a location for the rehearsal dinner (and figure out who’s coming), and figure out what readings we are doing (and other program relevant information). And his response was, “Well, we have TWO WHOLE MONTHS!” (Like that is a lot of time or something?!)
Maybe he doesn’t grasp the vastness of the “to-do” list, or maybe he thinks magic wedding fairies just come and put everything together?
All I can say is that it is becoming very frustrating to be the only one who wants to check things off the list NOW and not wait until the last minute.
Do you all have super helpful grooms? (Or magic wedding fairies?) Do you find yourself panicking a little more than your fiance when it comes to the timeline, or is he more worried than you about getting things done?
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No magic fairies but once I listed everything on the to do list, Mr. Joey got it together. Next week when he’s done with school I plan on unloading a whole bunch of tasks on him. 
Making a list also helped Mr Frenchie grasp how much we had to do. He was like we have everything and I said Um no we don’t look @ this here SUPER long list 
We’re just really to-do list oriented at this point. I think we’re both a little panicked right now — just about different stuff that still needs to get done!
We’re still the beginning of the planning, but so far my FI has been super helpful. I have to initiate stuff and usually do a lot of the research, but he’s come to lots of appointments with me and done tasks I’ve given him. He does think we’re pretty much done though when we’re far from it… our wedding is still a year away! lol
We have so much time, but I have a feeling my fi is going to believe in these fairies too.
we’re at 22 days and my FH goes, “Hey that’s three weeks! LOTS of time!”
I leave him a couple of tasks every few days and he’s been good in keeping up with them, and actually being more enthusiastic as we draw closer.
Maybe Mr Gloss will have a sudden OMG IT’S HAPPENING epiphany soon 
Good luck!
im on the other end of this. mr.petitlapin is the sweetest thing, but he is useless at party planning! i find i spend more time going over what he has to do and how to do it so he gets it, id be better off to give up and go it alone!
I have 3 month to go and feel weirdly calm. I guess that measn I’ll feel overwhelmingly stressed at the 2 month mark. I find that I have to give my fiance artifical deadlines or he never gets to any of the items on his list.
FH is being very good about helping however, we have reached the one week mark and I am freaking out about my to do list!!! hair, pedicure, honeymoon shopping and so on.
This story is practically plucked out of our Thursday night last week… except we have less than two months. I had a bit of a breakdown!! J definitely believes in wedding fairies!
OMG we’re at the 6 WEEK mark and my fiance doesn’t seem to understand that NOT having a caterer at this point is a big deal… ‘but we still have 6 weeks…’ HELLO?!?!?! that’s like 2 hours in wedding time… needless to say he’s FINALLY got his rear end in gear and we’re settling on one this week but goodness we still have a lot of things to do… GOOD LUCK!
Oh, now I am dreaming of wedding fairies… they don’t exist? What a tease, Miss Gloss!
Our 100 day mark is fast approaching, so I imagine my panic mode will engage then. Somehow the distance (we are getting married 2000 miles away from our present location of Chicago) has made us more productive, we know what we need to accomplish before and on our short trips home. Both FH and I will be making at least one more trip at separate times before our wedding, so whatever I can’t accomplish, he’ll pick up. So far, we’ve had great teamwork with our checklist. I think it also has to do with me assigning him tasks that I think he’ll like doing… ?
We have had many conversations about this which has led into further frustrations! I would recommend just taking things in your own hands and plan away! That is what I did! I got a lot more checks on my list, felt better and at ease about what to expect, just get his go ahead! Makes this even more convenient to know the person who is getting married at the same venue the week before!
My FH has been great at helping me with the planning so far…at times, I feel he is too helpful! I’m also a control freak so i have a hard time giving him tasks without feeling like a micro manager!!! I think i’d rather the fairies! lol
mine’s past now…i had planned to have everything done a week before…my now hubby is the ultimate procrastinator!!! so 2 weeks left he decides he wants a slideshow…out of nowhere, i left it up to him cuz i didn’t care for one nor had the time…so he ended up no finishing it till the night before!!
its always like that- it seems like you’ve got the time- and them U realize its time
I had the same problem. People would ask about the wedding plans and he would say, “it’s mostly done. About 90% done.” And I would swoop in and say, “Actually, there’s a LOT left to do, he just doesn’t get it.”
Finally I showed him the three-page long To Do list, and told him there were even more things not even on the list, and that helped him realize that there was more to it than he thought. And voila! Suddenly things are getting accomplished!
Keep in mind, just because WE read all the wedding magazines and blogs, that doesn’t mean THEY do. If you have a typed, printed, or handwritten to do list, show him. If not, make one up and then show up.
And I agree with people saying to give him specific tasks. That really helps too. Which reminds me, my guy has to figure out when we can go get the marriage license…
I’ve given him specific tasks:
IE: call the caterer PLEASE, find a song for you and your mother(s) to dance to
But he just thinks he’s got all the time in the world to do it.
A giant list might do the trick, but I think I’m avoiding making one because I don’t want to see how much we actually have left to do either
I just know my fiance is going to be that way and I’m dreading it.
We’re still the beginning of the planning, but so far my FI has been super helpful
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Mrs. Gloss, Boston/Maine
Age and Occupation: 24, Designer/soon-to-be Architect
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Systems Engineer
Engagement Date: May 23, 2008
Wedding Date: August 2009
Venue: SS Katahdin/Lakeside Tent
About Me: I don't like nickels or the skin that forms on pudding when it's in the fridge for too long. I couldn't live without Pantone markers, fountain soda (3/4 diet, ¼ regular Coke), run-on sentences, or ridiculously oversized sunglasses. I will try to DIY almost anything and am just OCD enough to make most of it work. I am truly excited about having all my family and friends together, becoming Mrs. Gloss, and having amazing photos to prove it!
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