This Is Hard to Get Over…

This Is Hard to Get Over…

June 14th, 2009 @ 3:20 pm by Mrs. Ballet Flat
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You know how we all have a list of things that went wrong on the big day? I know I focused on it a good bit during the honeymoon. But you think, OK, get over it. You are married now!

One of the things that went wrong is really hard to get over for me. My “something old” wasn’t there on our big day. It was my great-grandmother’s rosary and, like many Catholic brides, I had planned on having it weaved somehow in the bouquet. So, two weeks before, my maid of honor, Miss K, drove it over to my florist and dropped it off.

The wedding day came, and she dropped off our beautiful bouquets.

–interrupts story–

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Photo of flowers taken by Mizz K. Aren’t they lovely?

–back to the story –

I was still getting beautified by the miracle workers that were my hair & makeup artists, so I just thanked my florist so she could run to the church.

Ten minutes before, I was getting ready to climb in the limo, when we each took our bouquets. They were breathtaking, gorgeous… wait… where was my rosary?

It wasn’t there, so we looked through the box in a panic. Nope. So, Miss K called the florist. The florist immediately recognized her mistake — it was placed in another bride’s bouquet (who was currently on her honeymoon). So, I did not have my rosary on the wedding day.

It didn’t hit me as a big deal at first. I was so excited about getting married, but looking back on it, it is getting harder and harder to get over.

Thankfully, that bride didn’t throw it away or anything. I guess she thought it was something the florist threw in for her Catholic brides, so it needed to be returned. I’m also REALLY thankful that she didn’t throw away the original blue velvet box it came in. We just got the blue velvet box back yesterday, along with the rosary, which my mom received separately while we were honeymooning.

I’m sure this sounds pathetic to some, but I guess it’s just that the thought of losing it (not to mention, not having it on the wedding day) hurt SO many of my family members. I blame myself, because I trusted someone with a very important heirloom, when I could have just weaved it in myself on the wedding day. I guess that’s why it’s also so hard to get over.

Did you have something that happened on your wedding day that you are having trouble getting over?

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32 Responses to “This Is Hard to Get Over…”

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Gilneas (message) 1,393 posts, Bumble bee

Wow - I’m so glad that this precious heirloom made its way back to you.

6/14/09 @ 3:40 pm (reply)

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AnamCara (message) 1,135 posts, Bumble bee

I am so relieved for you. I’m not married yet but I am the same type of person at times when there’s a ‘near disaster’ I can potentially get a pit in my stomach just at the thought of it and that pit can hang around for a long time. I am so happy you got your rosary beads back - for you and your loved ones - so that you can treasure it for a long time. I wouldn’t be surprised if your great-grandmother made sure it stayed safe til it got back to you!

6/14/09 @ 3:53 pm (reply)

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Miss Hot Sauce (message) 1,026 posts, Bumble bee

Oh, I’m sorry the heirloom didn’t make an appearance at the wedding, but it isn’t your fault. I know it would have been special to have it on your wedding day and I hardly think anyone will think it is silly. At least you got it back which is the best news!

6/14/09 @ 3:55 pm (reply)

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Allison

When I got married, the photographer didn’t take a single picture of just me.
I’m also a wedding photographer, so I was furious that there were no pictures of me alone in my dress on my biggest day ever. I, too, blamed myself for not remembering to tell him to get some.

Oh well… nothing I can do about it now…

6/14/09 @ 4:01 pm (reply)

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MidwestElle

Oh my gosh I am SO glad you got that back!

I am petrified of things like that. Drop the cake on the floor? It’ll be expensive, but kind of funny. Misplace a family heirloom? GAA! I couldn’t imagine–especially since it ended up in someone else’s bouquet. Wow.

I am SO glad you got it back!

Best Wishes

MidwestElle @ iowabride.blogspot.com

6/14/09 @ 4:16 pm (reply)

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lwillia58 (message) 132 posts, Blushing bee

I am planning on doing the same with my rosary. After your story, I think I will have to do it myself!

6/14/09 @ 4:37 pm (reply)

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PrincessChristy (message) 17 posts, Newbee

Wow! This makes me VERY glad I had a family friend do a silk arrangement for me - she left a hole for us to drop my grandmother’s rosary into. Now, you can’t even tell that it’s there! I can’t believe the florist made a mistake that huge!

6/14/09 @ 4:41 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Hot Cocoa (message) 2,077 posts, Buzzing bee

I totally understand . . . sometimes, it’s the littlest big things that stick with us. For our wedding, it was that our guest book station never really got set up, so that only about 1/4 of guests signed/saw the guest book. Bummer.

6/14/09 @ 5:27 pm (reply)

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MissEdamame (message) 814 posts, Busy bee

So sorry to hear about the big mix-up :-(. It’s a good lesson for the rest of us brides to take a deep breath before the day-of and know that all of our carefully planned details are guaranteed to have at least a few problems, unfortunately.

I’m so glad to read the happy ending that it was returned to you without a problem though!

6/14/09 @ 5:28 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Kitten (message) 868 posts, Busy bee

Oh thank God that bride kept the rosary and box! I bought an Ann Wood bird caketopper that I gave to our catering manager with specific instructions to put it on the cake. When the rolled out the cake, it was COMPLETELY BARE! No topper, no flowers, nothing! I was really irritated for about 30 seconds, then moved on. But thinking about it now makes me mad again, because it was supposed to be a keepsake from our special day. Now it’s just an overpriced caketopper.

6/14/09 @ 5:51 pm (reply)

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keyeodontie

jeez i would be so mad at the florist. did they do anything to make it up to you? if I was the florist i would send you free flowers or something.

6/14/09 @ 5:52 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Ballet Flat (message) 770 posts, Busy bee

@keyeodontie: Nope…not a thing. She just kept saying how embarrassed she was…

6/14/09 @ 5:54 pm (reply)

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evelinej (message) 370 posts, Helper bee

I’m sorry to hear about your precious something old. I had a few things go wrong. My cake topper was missing, instead I saw some flowers. The lady mistakenly brought the wrong box so my topper was left at her place which was about 2 hours away. I noticed it later in the reception and wondered if it had broken. It was a gift from my mom and that was my fear, but luckily it was fine, she just had left it at home. I was bummed for a few minutes but then I moved on. I thought “what’s done is done”…nothing I can do. And, I continued to enjoy my wedding.

6/14/09 @ 6:04 pm (reply)

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Miss Bruschetta (message) 5,565 posts, Bee Keeper

Oh, Mrs. BF, I’m sorry to hear about this frustrating — and somewhat stressful — situation!

6/14/09 @ 6:26 pm (reply)

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MissBookworm (message) 294 posts, Helper bee

You’re completely validated in your feelings. In fact, my heart plummeted just reading that line. Thank goodness you got it back - in tact, and can still be your family heirloom, instead of the other brides. It’s the little things that make a wedding unique to each bride. It’s not your fault, it was an honest to goodness mistake, what matters is you thought of your great-grandmother on your wedding day, and of course she was there in spirit, rosary or not.

6/14/09 @ 6:41 pm (reply)

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Jenniphyr (message) 2,602 posts, Sugar bee

Wow. I don’t think that that sounds like you’re blowing it out of proportion. I would be FURIOUS with the florist. She nearly lost your grandmother’s rosary!

That said, I am glad it made its way back to you, and I agree that you should try to move on. Remember your wedding day as the day you agreed to spend the rest of your days with the man you love, not the day when your grandmother’s rosary went missing. Eventually, I believe, you’ll be able to laugh over this. =)

But right now? Right now you’re COMPLETELY justified to feel a bit let-down, put-off, and sad/mad.

6/14/09 @ 6:45 pm (reply)

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Vic004 (message) 804 posts, Busy bee

Thank goodness you got it back!! I just have to say that I to spent a lot of my honeymoon irritated about things that went wrong at the wedding too. I could list them out but I would just get irritated all over again, I feel relieved that other brides go through the same thing too!

6/14/09 @ 6:45 pm (reply)

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ejs4y8 (message) 14,581 posts, Bee Keeper

Oh no! At least you have it back. I’d like to say that all’s well that ends well, and maybe someday soon it will stop eating at you so much!

6/14/09 @ 6:46 pm (reply)

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laurajane (message) 317 posts, Helper bee

I’m not catholic (not even close) but I was tearing up reading this. I feel terrible that you’re so sad about the whole thing, but at the same time this is not something you should be blaming yourself for.

This florist is a professional, she shouldn’t have been embarrassed- what on EARTH would she have done had the other bride not held onto the rosary and velvet box? Yikes!I would think for the sake of continuing to receive referrals from you and your family/friends/etc. she would have made some further attempt to rectify the situation, you know?

For what it’s worth, the flowers were beautiful!

So glad they made it back to you!