Worry, Worry, Go Away!

Worry, Worry, Go Away!

June 16th, 2009 @ 1:09 pm by Mrs. Swan

I would say that I have been pretty stress free for most of the planning thus far. I’m not stressing about the wedding actually coming together or whether things will be perfect. Mr. Swan and I will be married so the perfection will happen for sure. BUT I can’t help shake some worries from my mind as we stare down the wedding two months away. So, what am I worrying about now?

A lot of my friends and family won’t make it. - A large chunk of my family and quite a few of my friends live very far away: Hawaii, Paris, London, the Caribbean. Right now, it’s looking like most of our guest list will be primarily Mr. Swan’s guests. That’s not a bad thing, but I do want to be surrounded by the people that are particularly special to me, as well. Plus, we’re experiencing a baby boom amongst our friends, so there are even less people to expect. We’ve still got a lot of RSVPs outstanding, so I’m not going to worry too much. Speaking of RSVPs…
We won’t make our minimum. - (See above) WHAT?!! Usually people are worried that they’ll have more guests than they can handle! We’ve sent out our invitations, but I’m worried that a combination of newborn babies, extensive travel, etc., will keep people away. It’s not like I am starting with a ton of people on our ever-changing guest list, anyway. I have a very small group of people that I would call friends. Many of them are not married or have significant others, so that adds some weird dynamics to the guest list (the whole plus one/”and guest” thing has been kind of confusing for me). Mr. Swan is the opposite; he has lots of friends all who are married or in long-term dating relationships. I’m not very close to my father’s side of my family, many of whom live outside of the country. Most people have the exact opposite issue… yikes! I think we’ll be fine, but it’s a worry.

The wedding will be boring. I don’t know where I’m getting this from, but I have this weird fear that people will sit around, not dance and stare at each other. Mr. Swan’s friends are loud; mine will dance, so where this is coming from I don’t know. Everyone coming will be so different from each other that I guess I fear that they won’t mix. I’ve always been the world’s most nervous host. Since this is probably the biggest party I’ll ever throw, I guess I should not be surprised that I’ve got major nerves.
Money, money, money. - Need I say more? We’re fine, but still… I feel like we’ve been pretty economical so far, and this is still not turning out to be very cheap. Sigh…

Do (Did) you have any fears/worries about the wedding?

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16 Responses to “Worry, Worry, Go Away!”

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Melissa

One of my biggest wedding worries was that people would be bored too. I worried about that right up until the morning of my wedding. It was silly and caused me a lot of grief. No one was bored (or at least they hide it well!), so hopefully that will rest your fears (I suspect not though!).

6/16/09 @ 1:16 pm (reply)

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Miss Mouse (message) 3,332 posts, Sugar bee

Miss swan, I totally feel you on this. No matter how much I plan, I worry alternatively that no one will come or everyone will come! Also, I worry no one will dance and that everyone will be offended by our non religious ceremony!

6/16/09 @ 1:17 pm (reply)

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bluedec (message) 109 posts, Blushing bee

Money. While I know we can afford our wedding, I still need reassurance every once in a while that we really can. Today we got the catering proposal. Once I plug these numbers into our wedding expense spreadsheet, I’m probably going to be totally worried about money again.

6/16/09 @ 1:20 pm (reply)

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SweetSalz21 (message) 43 posts, Newbee

omg, I so worry about the same things!

I so hope no one is bored. Although, I’m sure everyone will get along.

I am constantly worried about inviting too many people. A lot of people we thought wouldn’t come are thrilled to be invited and are RSVPing yes! arggggg. I just have to take a deep breath and realize that it will all work out and it will all be ok.

6/16/09 @ 1:25 pm (reply)

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Miss Politico

Miss Swan, I feel like I can relate to you more than any of the other bees (maybe it is because you and your fiance have the exact same jobs and similar personalities to me and my fiance!)! I too am so worried about my relatives not coming as I am getting married in my current town and not hometown. I am worried that my grandparents will not make it and my favorite aunts will think it is too expensive (even though I’ve come to all my cousins, aunts and uncles’ weddings back home and it is expensive). I am also worried about people not dancing as dancing is my favorite thing. I am worried about guests judging my wedding because it isn’t your typical affair. I have to keep reminding myself that these small worries have no place in my mind as our marriage, not the party is the most important thing.

6/16/09 @ 1:41 pm (reply)

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MyPurpleWedding (message) 217 posts, Helper bee

I hear you on number 4!!! I just posted about budget woes on my blog. And I’m also a tad worried about the wedding being boring.

6/16/09 @ 1:47 pm (reply)

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Golden139 (message) 340 posts, Helper bee

I’m definitely worried about how to plan a wedding on a smaller budget while in school, long distance from my FI and family.

No worries! I’m sure your wedding will be affordable, fun, filled with loved ones

6/16/09 @ 1:53 pm (reply)

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RoddyBride09 (message) 1,543 posts, Bumble bee

Miss Swan, I definitely can relate. I am worried about having too many guests that will rack up the bill which in turn makes me nervous about the money. We have been working so hard to save the money but I am nervous at how close we are. I haven’t even bought centerpieces yet. It really is just me. My FI is completely calm about it all. I wish I was more like him =)

6/16/09 @ 2:07 pm (reply)

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Sarah

I was afraid it was going to be all his family and friends, and barely any of mine, and…that’s what happened, and it was a great wedding, and we’re still married. *shrug*

6/16/09 @ 2:34 pm (reply)

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Jenniphyr (message) 1,397 posts, Bumble bee

I’m scared about the guest list, but in a more traditional sense — both my dad and my fiance’s mom have four siblings each, plus their spouses, plus kids (who on my side are grown and on his aren’t)…. We were really hoping for a small, intimate (under 50 at the veyr most) wedding, but our guest list is hovering around 80 people. True, some of those peopel might not come, and my mom’s suggested setting an age limit fo rthe cousins…but I know that then a couple of my fiance’s aunts are going to be PISSED. We’ll figure it out. =)

If you don’t think you’re going to make your rminimum, are there some extra people you could invite? Co-workers, friends that you’d decided against in an ffort to trim the list? On the other hand, you may be surprised by who shows up. =)

Don’t worry — everything will go swimmingly!

6/16/09 @ 3:10 pm (reply)

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Miss French Bulldog (message) 6,067 posts, Bee Keeper

I thought I was the only one worried that their wedding would be boring, PHEW! I’m not alone My biggest fear is that ppl wont be having fun and will leave early :-/

6/16/09 @ 4:05 pm (reply)

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kate

I totally hear you on all of these worries–you’re not alone. (If that helps at all!) But you sound super-fun, and that will definitely translate into a wonderful wedding!

6/16/09 @ 5:21 pm (reply)

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mrspaetz (message) 1,707 posts, Bumble bee

i’m currently very worried about the swine flu because we have guests flying in from affected areas and so many transmission cases happen on planes

6/16/09 @ 8:24 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Taffy (message) 2,603 posts, Sugar bee

I worried about a lot of the same things, especially the dancing part! Your wedding is going to be super fun- the joy that you and Mr. Swan will feel is going to radiate throughout your venue!

6/16/09 @ 10:45 pm (reply)

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infamia (message) 150 posts, Blushing bee

We’re totally in the same boat here! Since I am from Germany a lot of my family and friends won’t make it to our Pennsylvania wedding - and I have to admit it bothers me more then I thought it would

6/17/09 @ 9:35 am (reply)

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ggsb (message) 842 posts, Busy bee

I know this is a late comment…but I worried about the “boring” part. The majority of our guests we knew wouldn’t be “dancers”….but it all turned out just fine. The dancers danced…and the others mingled and caught up. I’ve had several people gush at how comfortable everyone felt…so I wouldn’t worry so much about the dancing or boring part. Mrs. Taffy is right your joy will radiate throughout your celebration and you’ll be surprised how “non-boring” it turns out to be

6/21/09 @ 7:42 pm (reply)