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Post Wedding Depression (PWD) is a real thing, people. It creeps up on you, and latches on quietly to your ambition. It hides around the corners of your wedded bliss and pounces in sneak-attack fashion, dragging you down into stagnation. It hides under your covers, a cold bedfellow, suckling the warmth in your heart until you shiver.
Well, that may be a bit dramatic. But still…
I’m sure the Post-Wedding Blues affect everyone differently, but mine has been coming in the form of laziness, stagnation, overindulgence and non-motivation. I’m sure it’s been made more powerful by the fact that for 3 weeks I’ve been on crutches, limping ungracefully through life, unable to exercise, unable to even walk without pain. That’s definitely a bummer. Mr.M has been battling it too (word up to sensitive groomsies), but his is mildly more assuaged by the relief that all the planning is over.
It seems so silly, after just living the happiest day of our lives, to be whiny, complaining babies. But it also makes sense, after all that anticipation, excitement, attention and payoff, real life doesn’t glitter quite the same way.
This is so not the way I want to begin my Wife-Life. So, this week, I’m hopping back on the horse, taking the reigns, and trying to reclaim my life. The issues:
Just facing my problem and coming up with solutions has made me feel much better. A wife needs some structure to keep it together, son! Married gals, how have you tackled your PWD? Brides-to-be, do you have a plan in place to combat your blues, after the big day?
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I hope your ankles heels fast Mrs. MB! The one thing I have done exactly as you have is been the bad food eater! I even took up my diet soda addiction again, so I also have to go back to my water. One thing that helped me is to de clutter and organize all the wedding stuff and gifts. I swear it instantly made me feel better about everything. Then I go back to looking at my wedding pictures! hahah
I hear ya sister. Got married at the end of May and I went from super productive and motivated to lazy and uncaring, even post-honeymoon. Those gifts aren’t going to put themselves away but I lack motivation.
I’m hoping to throw myself into projects I haven’t had time for, like maybe learning to sew (since I pretty much can only darn socks right now) and, of course, cooking a ton!
all my married friend will start having babie so shower planning here i come!
I expect this to be a real issue for me. I’m really dramatic, for one. And we’ve been planning our wedding for 3 years (not that it is that elaborate, we just had a long engagement and took advantage of it). We planned our honeymoon for 2 months after the wedding in hopes of combating some of the PWD…something new to look forward to. Of course after that I have no idea what I’ll do!
I’m with Bruschetta - I threw myself into bridesmaiding for a friend, next up is a house hunt, then moving…and then I don’t know what. You are right, PWD is painfully real. I miss my wedding!
Since you can’t walk right now, think you could try swimming or water aerobics? If you don’t have a cast on, obvs.
Good idea with organizing and taking on little projects!
The weekend after our wedding is my weekly trip to the NY Sheep and Wool Festival with my best friend (I know that doesn’t sound like the most exciting weekend ever - but it TOTALLY is), and then we’re going on our honeymoon a week later - so hopefully, after NYSW and our honeymoon, I’ll come back - and be able to throw my energy into maybe finding a house, or doing something else productive. I know that PWD is very, very dangerous.
Oh my God, I’ve been eating like a pig since the wedding! Swimsuit season should be motivating me, but it just isn’t. sigh…
It took about 2 months for the post wedding blues to hit. Having a new long term goal and something to look forward to and plan for was very helpful. For me that was doing a triathlon 
Yes, I was married at the end of May, and I just had my first bout of PWD today! I think it has something to do with the rainy weather and it being the middle of our first full week at work in quite awhile. We have been trying to keep busy by putting away wedding gifts and unpacking my things after moving to my hubby’s house. The excitement of living together for the first time has been sustaining me thus far, but here and there, I get a case of the blues when I see a new wedding magazine on the shelves or listen to co-workers talk about another bride’s upcoming wedding. I am glad we are starting out our newlywed life in the summer, though, because I think we are going to put a lot of focus into repainting and decorating my hubby’s former bachelor pad!
Oh my gosh. I’ve said so many times that I’m going to be sad when the wedding is over..the planning, though stressful at times, is so fun and inspiring. I’m planning to throw myself into the next thing…job searching and researching the possibly cities we’ll move to next!
I am so glad you wrote this! I was intentionally non-dramatic, non-overly-obsessed about our wedding in hopes that I would avoid the whole drop-off after the wedding. But since we were married at the end of May, I have been in a serious rut. I think the other part is that I already lived with my fiance and we’ve been together 5 years, so not a lot changed after the wedding. (Not that daily wedded bliss isn’t great - I love being married!) But I’ve realized I need to find a new goal or something else to focus my energy on so I can be motivated again!
Good for you for getting off your butt and getting some stuff done! Must be hard with the ankle injury. I don’t know what I’m going to do when PWD hits me! I’ll probably end up watching all seven seasons of Buffy for the 3rd time through.
I’m not getting married until September, and while I’m not the crazy-with-planning bride, I do feel like there is going to be a sense of a lack of things to do once the wedding is over. So my plan is to extend the wedding-bliss a bit longer. I’ve planned a massive scrapbooking project for after the wedding which will keep me occupied for a while. Then it’ll be Halloween and nothing could make me sad!
I have the same problems! I don’t really feel “let down”, but haven’t exercised, haven’t worked on the million projects that I need to do… and the house still looks like the wedding tornado hit it! I am inspired by your post!
I’m so glad this is being talked about!! I was at a wedding two weeks ago and someone asked me what I was going to do after the wedding and it got me thinking… and now I’m super worried about PWD. We’re in a long distance relationship and after the wedding I’m moving to Denver (where he’s from) and we’re moving into a new place together so I’m hoping the newness of living together plus moving to a new state and building a home (as in decorating and make it our own) will keep me busy and motivated….does anyone have any advice??
I was sad the first couple of days earlier this week. But we put away all the wedding stuff, and I’ve been busy with work. But being active and getting things done helps to put you back on track and regain control. Also, going through photos sparingly helps to not keep reliving and yearning and all that. I’m babbling. Bye.
PWD…hah,so it’s not just a myth!! Best of luck with the goals!
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Mrs. Meatball, Hollywood
Age and Occupation: 30, Actor/Writer/Office Maven
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Actor/Writer
Engagement Date: October 7, 2007
Wedding Date: May, 2009
Blogging Since: September 16, 2008
Venue: Private Garden/The Bungalow Club
About Me: I love melty cheese and diet coke almost as much as I love my man. I'm from Chicago, he's from NYC, and we both miss public transit and great pizza. We have an adorable muppet dog called Paco. I'm part hippie with a healthy dash of hip hop superstar, have excessive empathy for animals, and have not one, but two bionic eyes (long story). We're broke and it ain't no joke. It can't stop us from planning the bold and whimsical wedding of our dreams, but we've had to get pretty creative to make it work, yo!
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