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If I could find Marty McFly, I’d hop in the DeLorean DMC-12 and go back in time. Not far back… back to June 20th. The day before our first anniversary. Sigh.
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I had great plans… really! I wanted to rent our honeymoon suite and re-live the magic of our wedding night… and enjoy the time together.
Unfortunately, that plan got bumped with Sunday breakfast for Father’s Day. I should have turned the invitation down, but I was worried my dad would be disappointed… and now it’s too late.
My dad has had a Father’s Day celebration for the past 34 years, and many more will come, but our 1 year anniversary is gone…. and never coming back. I’m seriously bummed. Mr. Flamingo didn’t get me a gift, but I got him one. I didn’t need anything big, or over the top, but just love, and recognition that it was an important date, to me, at least. And… a flower wouldn’t have hurt either, but it wasn’t necessary.
I haven’t given Mr. Flamingo his anniversary present, because it has not yet arrived… but because I told him that I got him something, now he wants to make up for the not getting me anything. It was a nice gesture, but it’s not gonna make up for how I felt at that moment on our anniversary. I want to go back to my anniversary date SO BADLY and do it just how I had mapped it out in my head… 
Have you been bummed about something and wish you could turn back time? If so, please share…
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Awww, I know how you feel. I wish generally speaking that I could relive the whole wedding over again. I think that’s what we all want. Right? Don’t be bummed, you can still celebrate when your gift comes and you do your exchange.
p.s. one of the reasons I started reading WB was because of you (and Mrs. Shortcake). I love your vintage-y style…and LOVE your hair!
@Mrs. Perfume: Ah thanks Mrs.Perfume… I do miss my wedding soooo much. I wish we can do it every year (haha, ya right) but my anniversary was suppose to be special… and it wont be the same.
Nothing worked out… and Im sad. Sure I’ll get over it. Just sucks at the moment.
Aww, I’m sorry your anniversary didn’t turn out the way you envisioned it. You can definitely make up for iy next year (though I know it won’t be the same).
That is horrible. So true that your Anniversary is gone by now… too late for that day BUT - you know what you can do? you can start anticipating your 10 year anniversary.
You probably are thinking WHAT? I bearly just got married and I missed my 1st anniversary… what about all the others 2 - 9 ? well those will be wonderful days (hopefully)
But what you can do is make your 10 year anniversary something to remember - something that you will never forget. You can do what my hubby and I do… we decided many years ago that on our 10 year and then ever decade there after - we would celebrate our anniversary by re-newing our vows.
It was and is such a wonderful thing to do. It helps to keep the love alive and helps us to remember that each day is a day to plan for the rest of our lives… This August it will be 16 Years since our first wedding day. We had our second wedding day on the beach in the Bahamas back in 2003! it was AWESWOME. I wore my wedding dress and he wore a tux. We had a gazeebo right on the beach. in 4 years (at our 20 yr anniversary we will do VEGAS baby!) not sure if we will take the adventurous route and do it over the Grand Canyon - or the silly route and do it in an Elvis Chapel - but one thing I know is that is will be a time I won’t forget!!
Chin up darlin! Don’t look back on what you missed - Look forward to what you can do for your next wedding day 
when you marry you husband all over again.
Victoria
@Victoria Joanne: Victoria… that is so awesome. And you are right, when I first read your comment, I was like “What 10 year anniversay?!?” But it makes sense… especially if you do something big.
We haven’t gone on a real “Honeymoon” so maybe that also adds on to the frown. But we are thinking of going to Tunisia maybe sometime next year… so maybe it can be a combo an ANNIMOON…. lol
Sorry to hear it, Flamingo. That stinks! I hear ya both about reliving the wedding again. I feel like so much of it was a blur & I don’t remember a lot of it! It kinda bums me out…but thankfully we have lots of pictures to help jog my memory.
Aww, sorry you missed out… we didn’t do presents either… a Happy Anniversary and a nice pat on the ass was all I needed ;). But, we were able to take a little weekend trip… can you go another weekend?
@Mrs. Penguin: Haha, love the pat on the ass part.
As for doing it another weekend… Yes we probably can…. and I’m sure its going to be as great… maybe once I get Mr.Fs gift we can figure things out. I just had a crappy June 21st and thats why I’m so bummed…
Awe Miss Flamingo I’m sorry for the disappointment. Victoria Joanne has a wonderful point and makes me so excited for Mr Frenchie and my anniversarries to come
When Mr Frenchie and I were dating, he was the first guy I’d been with that celebrated anniversaries and on our 6 month-aversary he got me a card and took me to dinner… I felt like the biggest heel b/c I didn’t get him a card or anything and he was so sad. I felt terrible and I’m sure Mr Flamingo does too.
Yes - it’s got to be something BIG! that’s the whole point of it. for ann. 30 we may go to paris!!
So each decade will be something GREAT to plan and remember.
and you know - back when got married we didn’t have the ability to do any honeymoon either. We took our “honey moon ” about 5 years after our wedding day. LOL So try not to feel too bad.
LOVE - this is the important thing… keep that flame alive and burning… don’t let the bummer things in life stamp that flame out.
Aww, I’m sad for you, but I think the first anniversary pops up so quickly that a lot of people don’t really get round to planning anything ’special’.
Maybe you could use this as an opportunity to create a new tradition - Flamingo Day! Just pick a random date, and use that day to always do something fun together, just the two of you. It could be trying something new together each year, or doing the same thing that you both love to do (such as going to your favourite town, or restaurant etc).
If you pick the date carefully, it might be a fun bridge between birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas etc!
You spured me on! I just blogged about what we were discussing. if you want to see the blog - feel free to visit it here.
I really hope you will do some special planning in the decades to come. I helps to keep the love alive.
Bummer…….I can imagine how you feel. A gift is not neccessary but it would have meant something to you. Maybe the thought of him thinking about your Anniversary = thoughfulness + effort. But, you know….men are just different :o) Hopefully you told him how it made you feel so he can remember for future anniversaries. And, sometimes, one needs to take initiative to hint how special an anniversary will be. Although you can’t go back in time, it’s never too late to celebrate! Going away for a few days can make it all better! Good luck and Happy 1 yr. anniversary!
I wanted to do something special for our first anniversary too. But I was 7 mo pregnant working 60 hours a week and it was the only evening we’d had off in a month so we went grocery shopping. Totally sucked. Years 2 and 3 we didn’t do too much. This year we went to dinner and a movie and that’s ok. But the Mr did send me a bouquet to work that had my wedding bouquet flowers in it! Pink roses and green hydrangeas, not too common so I was proud he remembered.
Mrs. F, I’m sorry to hear your hopes for the day were not meant to be! Try and remember that you and Mr. F can celebrate your relationship (and should), whenever you can though. I can imagine that the lack of honeymoon might be a strong contributing factor to your disappointment!
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Mrs. Flamingo, Montreal, Canada
Age and Occupation: 25, Graphic Designer
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Nursing Student
Engagement Date: December 2004
Wedding Date: June 21, 2008
Venue: Imperia Hotel (modern chic hotel)
About Me: I am a passionate designer who loves anything pretty. I heart all paper products (eco-friendly of course). My passion revolves around anything considered glamour; vintage and modern. In my free time, I love reading Martha mags, designing jewelry and making a pit-stop at Starbucks for a chai latte. I'm also a chocoholic at heart and my family drools over my homemade truffles.
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