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Mr. Bruschetta and I attended our church’s Pre-Cana marriage preparation weekend six months ago. At the time, our wedding still seemed so far off. Most of the projects and tasks that are currently in the forefront of my mind (and even posted up on our wall) were merely half-formed ideas. At the time, I was blissfully ignorant (thinking only that everything will fall into place somehow) and completely content.
While I don’t want to downplay the importance of the various talks — on subjects ranging from money to sexuality to religion — married couples shared with us that weekend, I will admit that, for us, one of the most valuable exercises was the icebreaker that kicked off the weekend.
Each person was asked to select his/her future spouse’s most endearing quality. What is that one attribute of your husband- or wife-to-be that, at this exact moment, sums up what you love about him or her? We were informed that this characteristic can and will change frequently — at any given time, there are a number of aspects jockeying for the top spot — and encouraged to continue engaging in this activity after the weekend concluded.
We went around the room; first came the introduction (”This is my fiancee, NAME.”) and then that person’s most endearing quality. Soon, it was Mr. Bruschetta’s turn. He started to speak, and I could feel my cheeks turning red.
Mr. Bruschetta shared how he loves when I find something — often a really small detail or passing comment — so funny that I can’t stop laughing at it. Inevitably, he said, my delight will become contagious, and he’ll soon find humor in whatever amused me initially.
At first, I was pretty embarrassed by his explanation, worrying about how it made me sound. But then I realized that he had selected something that’s genuinely me, and captured a piece of a happy, carefree Miss Bruschetta. While others in the room looked at and spoke about the much bigger picture — how loving, supportive and faithful their future spouse is, for example — my mister chose instead to focus on such a small facet of my personality, showing he not only recognizes when this type of situation arises, but enjoys it himself.
Since that weekend, I’ve had a list running through my mind of Mr. Bruschetta’s most endearing qualities. Taking a cue from his detail-oriented observation, I focus on little things that might otherwise go unnoticed. Do I feel silly for admitting I keep this “other” list going? Yeah, a little. But doing so helps remain me calm, and reminds me that I could stop all the planning right now, and as long as Mr. Bruschetta is waiting at the end of the aisle with an “I do” on his lips, that’s all that matters.
Your turn, hive. At this precise moment, what is your fiance’s most endearing quality?
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He truly expects the best of people and of himself.
He literally lights up when he sees his nieces (he calls them his “little ladies”).
P.S. - thanks for posting! I needed it at the exact moment I read it.
That’s cute! I’d say Mr. P’s fastidiousness is at once endearing and…exhausting!!! It makes him who he is and I love it (and him).
So what did you say about Mr. Bruschetta?
My fi’s most endearing quality is his laid back attitude. It used to frustrate me how laid back he is about life, but as we grew closer, I realized this quality is what makes us work. I worry far too much and he always has the ability to calm me down and put things into perspective.
He’s not like that with me, he has a calming effect on most people and I love the way he makes me and others feel.
He refuses to let me speak ill of myself.
My Fiance did the same thing! He said he loved that when I was bored, I would get up and start dancing on the couch, making jazz hands. He said I could make any situation fun.
I felt bad because everyone was saying “my fiance got me through this really hard year” total big picture stuff. But then I realized I bet not everyone in the room does what I do! And not everyone does dishes like my fiance, which is what I said. It’s the little stuff, you know?
His follow through; he keeps every single promise, whether it’s bog or small.
He is so supportive of me - I’ve been working on writing my master’s thesis while working full time, and he has completely taken over the household chores, cooking, packing lunch, and still has enough energy to give me a backrub at the end of the night.
My FI’s best quality is a double edged sword for him. He expects everyone at his job to pull their weight and be open to other suggestions but they’re don’t and they’re not and it drives him NUTS! At his last review everything his boss said was positive EXCEPT that he has to work on his “anger issues”. He NEVER yells or is rude or mean but it does make his blood pressure rise and his boss doesn’t want him to die of a heart attack/anurysm at 25!
he will honestly do anything for me, usually before i even ask. we can be cuddling on the couch and i say ‘man i’m thirsty’ and he’s up getting me a glass of sprite. (exactly how i like it too, in a can with a glass with like 3 or 4 cubes of ice on the side)
He always puts me first, but I try to put him first …so in the end we always compromise. Everything always works out. I love this about our relationship, we hardly ever argue. I hope we can continue this into our marriage.
He backs me up. There was a disagreement with my MIL about reception plans this week and he gave me his full support and really understood my point of view.
Bruschetta–this is an awesome idea! 
Realizing (for the millionth time) what an awesome guy my FI is makes all my wedding stress so much better.
@Newport Nuptials: I spoke briefly about how I admire Mr. Bruschetta for financing his entire schooling himself, working so many part-time jobs and managing all this — which is quite stressful most of the time — with a smile. He’s seriously learned so much on his own out of necessity, and has taught me a great deal in the process.
The way he compliments me, and the fact that he takes all my weird habits in stride and doesn’t think of me as weird. He just gets me, I can’t imagine not being with him the rest of my life. Oh and the best thing - he knows how to fight with me. We used to battle a lot but after talking through it he now knows how to handle pretty much anything I throw at him, so that within 5 minutes or less I’m back to my old silly cheery self
He gets me hot & sour soup when I am sick!
I know this may sound silly, but my FI wants to be around me when I’m sweaty and gross. Not only does he want to be around me, but he wants to hug me (which I think is disgusting because even I don’t want to be in my own skin)! He’s extremely selfless.
I’d say his devotion and dedication to me. I know at all times that he’s mine and is no one else’s and that he whole heartedly loves me and thinks I’m the most beautiful woman.
Couldn’t pick just one. Haha.
My husband has a great outlook on life. He is truly the most optimistic person I know. It keeps me looking for a silver lining when things get rough.
He’s always happy! Happy Ted is his nickname 
That’s what I find most endearing about him
@Mrs. Quiche: sorry - “Angry Ted” is a nick name - an obvious reference to what he is NOT. oops
FI has an amazing ability to make me laugh when all I want to do is cry. I’ll be the first to admit I’m a little over sensitive at times, but he is very supportive.
My FH’s most endearing quality is his kindness and generosity. He always, always, always thinks about what he can do to help the people in his life or to make them happy. His willingness to do whatever it takes to make me happy is really humbling for me.
Aww, that’s really cute. Right now the Dude’s most endearing quality is that he gets me glasses of water when I’m too lazy to get up.
My guy always brings a pen & notepad into a restaurant with us, and jots down business ideas or thoughts while we wait for our food. Some people would consider this rude, but I find it cute (We discuss things as he writes, and sometimes he draws me little explanatory diagrams - LOL). It’s also endearing that HE finds it endearing that I… run into stuff. Frequently. (Um, with my body, not a car!)
He always drives at night on long road trips (or short ones for that matter). He never even asks. He knows that night-time driving scares the jeepers out of me and he’ll always let me ride shot-gun! It’s simple, but he just knows.
He is completely, utterly, beautifully sincere.
This is such a cute post! Whenever I am driving and need to put gas, he always pumps the gas for me and lets me relax in the car. I’ll never forget the first time he did (which was many years ago) and he hasn’t stopped since. It’s those little stints of generosity that I love!
I knew I loved him the day one Thanksgiving when he told his friend who was a little down on his luck that he was most thankful for his friend. I love him for his compassion towards others.
he always remembers how much i loove cute animal pictures, so whenever he stumbles upon one online or in the newspaper he saves them for me. even though he chuckles at my love for them, he knows it makes my day better.
Right now his most endearing quality is the way that he just seems to brighten when he sees me, ’cause we’re only able to see each other about once a week or so right now.
Apparently mine is “impossible to describe”.
Thanks for sharing this! I think lately with all the work stress, this could be important for us.
FI is the most optimistic person I know, and it creeps out in small ways. His optimism really is what brought us together in the first place. He has a “Just try it, you never know what great things will happen” attitude. I’m generally pessimistic, so he keeps me “up”.
Awww… what a great post. My now husband’s most endearing quality (today) is his patience. We’re in the process of buying our first house, and I know nothing about any of it - he’s so wonderful at explaining things to me and answering a million questions and dealing with my frustration and worries. Reminds me everyday that I’m so happy to be spending my life with him
I love this post! I love it when we’re at a party or friends house and he’s always looking over and giving me cute smiles. Or when we’re at home in 2 seperates rooms he always yells and asks how I’m doing and if I need anything
thanks so much for featuring my card in this great post. (it has brought me more sales than any other blog feature that i know of, so REALLY thanks!)
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Mrs. Bruschetta, Philadelphia
Age and Occupation: 25, Communication Professional
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Physical Therapy Graduate Student
Engagement Date: November 30, 2007
Wedding Date: August 2009
Venue: St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
About Me: I’m a self-proclaimed grammar geek who loves singing (like, really belting it) in the car. My mister and I are planning a vibrant summer soiree celebrating our passions – including food and Philly – and when we make it official, we’ll have been together for eight years! Being super competitive is in my nature, and talking excessively is in my genes. I’ve got a terrible sense of direction, but can always easily find my way into Mr. Bruschetta’s arms.
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