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The honeymoon isn’t something I intended to write about until after our wedding, but I’m in kind of a wedding-planning lull so I figured: why not? I don’t want y’all to forget about little old me.
I know I’ve mentioned before that Mr. MJ and I don’t plan to go on a honeymoon until the summer of 2010. We have several reasons for this, and in this post I intend to outline the major ones.
The timing sucks.
Mr. Mary Jane and I each have an 8-to-5, 40-hour-per-week job. Lots of couples do, of course, but that ain’t the half of it for this over-scheduled duo. In addition to these jobs, we are both also full-time students. Mr. MJ will have classes five days a week during fall semester, and I have them three days. Since our university is on a semester schedule, our wedding date will fall a few weeks after the fall term starts. We’re pushing it by even taking the time off for our wedding itself. But we’ll make it work. Another week of absence, however, could not be tolerated. We’d fall behind and our grades would suffer. Because of this, we’re not even going to have a mini-moon.
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So why would we even have our wedding during the semester?
We both preferred a fall or winter anniversary, and September was the latest we dared to push it due to concerns about midterms and projects. We’re also both registered for summer (I’m taking 6 credits, and Mr. MJ is taking 12 right now), so summer wouldn’t have been any less busy unless we’d waited until next summer (which neither of us wanted to do!).
Our engagement is short.
Our wedding is in about 2 months, but we Mary Janes have only been engaged for 4. Of course, we could plan a fabulous honeymoon in 6 months time, but saving for it would have been another issue. Especially since we recently bought a house and are facing a situation that might result in big budget cutbacks for us in just weeks.
Money is tight, but we want to do something amazing.
We don’t want to settle for a budget honeymoon to a nearby city on an off-season; we want to do something awesome we’ll both remember forever. A decidedly “honeymoon” thing that we wouldn’t randomly decide to do as a normal vacation. Preferably a vacation that involves leaving this continent: something neither of us has done before. By postponing our honeymoon ’til next year, we’ll have time to save for the perfect trip.
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Next year, we’ll have something else to celebrate.
Mr. Mary Jane has been pushing himself extra hard and will finish up the degree he’s currently working on in the spring. Before he moves on to his next adventure in higher ed (yup, we MJ’s are gluttons for punishment — we just can’t stop going to school!), he’ll be glad to have a much-deserved break from it all! What better way to celebrate a new marriage and a new “piece of paper” to frame than by taking a stellar vacay from work, school, and normal life here in NoDak.
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The real purpose of a honeymoon doesn’t apply to us, anyway.
In the traditional sense (I think - I did not look this up), couples would go on honeymoon to get to know each other better. They play their first Twister, share a bed together, and learn how to deal with each other on a day to day basis. This vacation helps them ease in to their new married life together.
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They might even return with a new family member in the works! So not the case for the soon to be Mr. and Mrs. Mary Jane. We are definitely used to each other, we don’t need Twister lessons, and we’re not planning to start a family for quite a while. We just want to enjoy a nice vacation together.
So in summary: our academic lifestyles, our short engagement, and our monetary concerns have all led to us postpone our “honeymoon” vacation until next year. We haven’t figured out where or when exactly we will be traveling (but it’ll probably be in June, which is about 9 months after we tie the knot).
We’d like to figure out where we’re going and how much it’s going to cost us by the end of October. I plan to blog a lot more about honeymoon planning once I am officially a Mrs.!
Are you postponing your honeymoon? Why?
I too am postponing my honeymoon, for many of the same reasons. The Mr. is in school as well, and also, my job is really busy from about September-December. We live together, have a son together, so there isn’t a whole lot that we don’t know about each other. I would much rather wait until January or February, when everything has slowed down, and it’s cold here, and go someplace warm, and tropical. It gives that little something to look forward to later.
We are going to do a long weekend thing and for our 1 year (the paper year) we are going to buy our tickets (paper) and get away!
Paying for a wedding and buying a house at the same time is enough without adding a luxury vacation to it!
Friends of ours postponed their honeymoon for a year and were able to take a much nicer honeymoon because of waiting. Also, she said it was something else to look forward to, save for, plan for etc….sounds like a good idea to me.
Mr. Lab and I are getting married nearly at the midpoint of our semesters in school. We’re taking a couple week-delayed mini-moon during our Thanksgiving holiday. We decided to get married at this time for several reasons. The biggest (besides loving each other and wanting to get married, duh) being that I’m graduating and will have a full-time job with benefits and want Mr. Lab to be entitled to some of those benefits and tax breaks. The next reason is because I will have a job that may require a big move/uncertainty on location and planning a wedding under that stress is not something I wanted to deal with. The timing just fits for us but the honeymoon did not. We’re planning to take a “real” honeymoon on our 5 year anniversary and pay for it ourselves!
Our honeymoon will be over our 1 year anniversary. We decided to do this because we are already taking a week and a half off for our wedding! Our family and close friends will be staying with us for the week leading up to the wedding (at a private home we rented on a beach - destination wedding) and we are getting married at the house. then everyone leaves and the mr and i will spend the last few days by ourselves. we are getting 2 trips out of it! 
We postponed our honeymoon. We were going to go this summer, but wanted to buy a house. Unfortunately, my husband got laid off and the house hunt and the honeymoon are being postponed. We will go on one hopefully for our 1 year anniversary.
We’re postponing ours, as well. That wasn’t initially the plan, as I was supposed to graduate after taking 18 credits this spring. However, I quickly realized that I couldn’t take that many classes and expect to pass them all. So I still have six credits to take this fall, and we’ll be able to get away from nasty Montana weather in February or March.
We’re postponing indefinitely. We’re in search of our “forever home” and busy with work - a honeymoon just isn’t in the cards for us for the foreseeable future. But I’m more than OK with that. A new house or a vacation? I’ll go with the new house and cash in my vacation days to get some painting done with my hun!
Nice job Miss MJ - I know I can always expect practicality and responsibility out of you and those are qualities I aspire to maintain.
We’re in the same boat. Mr. Pinecone just started a new job after being laid off and we just dont want to push it to much by him asking for more time off than a day or so for the wedding. Plus our wedding is in January and we really want to go to Alaska for our honeymoon, but in January, it will be way to cold. We’re planning on doing an Alaskan cruise for our honeymoon in May or June of 2010. Mr. Pinecone will be with the company for 1 year and should be able to justify 1 week off!
We also do not need a honeymoon for the traditional reasons behind it, we’ve done it all, have lived together for 3 years and do not want a family right away. We have plenty of time for that!
many people these days postpone the honeymoon… we talked about doing it from the start. then at some point we decided not to, so i got my head set on going away. unfortunately my fiance recently came home and tried to postpone it one day to which i said no. only because i’m so looking forward to it being right after the wedding because we’ve been planning it that way for months… otherwise we’d be doing a delayed honeymoon as well.
and from what i’ve read the honeymoon isn’t as much about twister beds as it is about getting drunk…
It was the accepted practice in Babylon 4,000 years ago that for a month after the wedding, the bride’s father would supply his son-in-law with all the mead he could drink. Mead is a honey beer and because their calendar was lunar based, this period was called the honey month, which we know today as the “honeymoon”.
We are postponing our honeymoon-mainly due to financial concerns. I’ve been laid off since February and right now his job situation is a little uncertain. We hope to go somewhere by summer of 2010 to give us time to save and it will hopefully be a baby-making-moon or at least a baby-making-practice-moon!
We’re probably also going to postpone our honeymoon, but for slightly different reasons. (1) We are having our wedding in the summer of 2010. Many of my friends are also getting married in the summer of 2010. We will be broke from all of the traveling to weddings. Also, there’s a good chance that if we take our honeymoon right after our wedding we will miss the wedding of one of my other friends the following weekend. We don’t want that. (2) We want to honeymoon in a warm tropical beachy location. In the summer most of those locations are in the middle of hurricane or monsoon season, so we will take our honeymoon the following winter.
We are postponing our honeymoon as well. I am in law school & our wedding will be in the midst of the semester as well ( October) I got my schedule for the semester for Monday & Wednesday to just miss one day of classes ( Wed) since Monday was a holiday last year. Of course, this year my school decides to not make it a holiday - so I would have to miss two days of classes ( which is alot in law school terms) It’s my last year so I can deal with breaking in the middle of the semester; however,Mr. Gamer wants to take a big honeymoon (10 days or more). I said then it has to be in December during break b/c next summer Ill be studying for the Bar exam - so it’s a no go.
Well - he came up with the fabulous idea since the winter break gives him much flexibility to plan that he’ll plan it all - and I will find out the night of the wedding where we are going.
Im extra excited & think it more than worth the postponement so I can truly enjoy it & not worry about school during our honeymoon.
LOL - Some people have asked me if we are postponing it so we can make babies in December & me give birth after the Bar exam - BIG BIG NOOOOO! LOL.
here’s to hoping you come up with the perfect honeymoon in a year’s time!
My FI and I are postponing as well. I am a teacher, so everything must be planned around school breaks - so we’re getting married during Christmas break and going on the honeymoon during Spring break. He has a “normal” job and he can’t take more than a week at a time, so this way, everything works out perfectly!
We are definitely postponing as well. When I started a new job late last year, we have already planned a trip and os I took it and messed up my vacation situation for a bit. Like you and Mr. MJ we do want this trip to be somewhere we really want to go. Also with Mr. Swan being out of work we are trying to decide if we want wait until he has a job. We’re doing a small mini-moon after the wedding.
We post-poned by four months, and did a honeymoon registry so that we could make our honeymoon something memorable from our list of top ten must-do-in-a-lifetime trips. I am very happy that I don’t have to start grad school until about three weeks after we get back:)
@notsojenny: thanks for the info! But uh… what do two hopelessly in love people DO when supplied with each other + an endless supply of alcohol. T-t-t-twister! 
My fiance and I are getting married during my spring break 
I’m still a student (one more year left!); but we can’t postpone it after I graduate b/c I will have to study for the California Bar and, well, we’re already having a long engagement- i really don’t want it any longer. So, we’re postponing our honeymoon until we can afford one Until then, we’ll have a mini-moon too!
Hi Mary, I know this problem. We married three years ago and had the same thoughts. Finally, we stayed three weeks in Canada, drove around and had a great time.
If you’d like to have a very special honymoon, you should come to Europe and visite us We live in Bonn, Germany. It’s a nice city in the Rhine Valley.
We don’t know each other, but I like the idea of doing something crazy! I’m sure, it would be pure fun
Think about it!
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Mrs. Mary Jane, Grand Forks, ND Age and Occupation: 26, Instructional Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Lead Programmer Engagement Date: February 28, 2009 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: City Hall About Me: I'm a career woman on the surface and a homemaker at heart. I love fast cars and high heels, and my favorite food is cake. Mr. Mary Jane and I are both full-time employees and students, and we just bought our first house. We love to curl up on the couch with buttery popcorn, Sour Patch Kids, and the latest Netflix arrival -- whenever we can get a break from everyday life.
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