Thank You - To Wait or Not?

Thank You - To Wait or Not?

July 9th, 2009 @ 5:54 pm by Mrs. Peep Toe
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Hive, I need your opinion. It’s been 6 weeks since our wedding and I have yet to send a single thank you note!!! And as each day passes (and the wedding becomes more and more of a distant memory*), the pressure to send them out is flying out the window.

I know I need to send them, but I feel like I am going through an internal struggle about what thank yous to send.

Here are the conversations that I have been having with myself (yes, I am part crazy lady, with multiple personalities):

Responsible, rational Peep: You need to start writing and sending thank you notes, STAT.

Crafty, lazy Peep: But wouldn’t they be so much better if they were crafty like Mrs. Corn’s?:

Or had an uber cute wedding photos on them like Mrs. Daffodil’s?:

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Responsible, rational Peep: Yes, but you already own a bunch of thank yous that would do the job just fine. Remember those fabulous note cards that you bought from On a Limb Paper back in November?:

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Crafty, lazy Peep: Okay, I’ll start to work on them.

Responsible, rational Peep: Good. Can’t wait to get home and tackle them tonight!!

Crafty, lazy Peep: Wait, we’re moving. Wouldn’t it be better if we waited to send out thank yous in a few weeks with our new address information??

Responsible, rational Peep: Hmm… maybe you are right??

Crafty, lazy Peep: And look at these super cute moving cards you could send, from Etsy:

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Or these oh-so-hive-appropriate ones??

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So hive, what’s a bee to do? Do we wait until we have a new address and send thank you/we’ve moved cards? Or do I getting crackin’ on these puppies before I forget about them entirely??

I can’t decide.

*Without all our photos, it still seems surreal!

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36 Responses to “Thank You - To Wait or Not?”

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franny

just send them! It only gets worse the longer you wait. Tell yourself you’ll do five every other night or something like that, and get them done in batches. This is coming from someone who got engaged, married, and had a baby in the span of a little two years. You can imagine how many thank you notes I had to write in a relatively compressed amount of time! People just want their gifts acknowledged. They don’t really care if the cards are cute or really, really cute. Simple cute is fine.

7/9/09 @ 5:59 pm (reply)

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kjpugs (message) 1,751 posts, Buzzing bee

I would use your notecards that you have, since printing ones would take a while, and then do a nice note thanking them and add that you are moving and have inserted your address. Then I’d print “we’ve moved!” cards, about the size of a business card, and cut them out and put one in each tahnk you, so that they can put that on the fridge or tack board until they record it, but still have a nice thank you note separately. I am a little lax about etiquette (I’m definitely no Dear Abby or anything) so this might not be the 100% proper way to do it- but it’s what I’d do! I am LOVING all the cards you have picked out by the way… the moving ones would be SO FUN! YOu could probably design print a mini version yourself!

7/9/09 @ 6:00 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Perfume (message) 2,253 posts, Buzzing bee

Oh, tough one! The crafty ideas are fantastic! I got mine out immediately, like the hours between the getting back from the wedding and leaving on the honeymoon. But I’m a nut. I think it’s reasonable to wait a while. I kind of wish I could do something crafty, but now it’s too late. I almost thought of sending out announcements with a fun picture. Then I thought, no one wants to see more of our grinning googly-eyed mugs. Sigh. I’d be torn if I hadn’t gotten them out so quickly!

7/9/09 @ 6:03 pm (reply)

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laural (message) 529 posts, Busy bee

SEND THEM!!! I would always prefer to receive a thank you note on a plain note card sooner rather than waiting for you to get cute ones. I am sure you have guests that are wondering if you even got their gifts since it has been well after the honeymoon and they have yet to receive anything.

7/9/09 @ 6:04 pm (reply)

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laurajane (message) 317 posts, Helper bee

Do you know your new address so you could send ‘em just before you move? - that’s Logical LauraJane.

7/9/09 @ 6:05 pm (reply)

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MeredithN (message) 110 posts, Blushing bee

I agree w @franny…the “we’ve moved” card sounds great but the thank you card is so important. and I would just tackle them two at a time when you have a spare 10 mins. Keep your cards, pen, address book, and stamps in a handy spot and just get a couple done at a time and out the door

They are a chore for sure, but I try to turn it around and think of the thank you card as a small way I can remember the nice things people who love me have done for me. Good luck!

7/9/09 @ 6:06 pm (reply)

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Melissabegins (message) 3,340 posts, Sugar bee

Maybe you could get a stamp w/ your new address, and make a cute little insert, then use the stamp again and again as your return address. But insert those into your thank you cards, for sure, and quick! I went to a wedding in September 08 where my fiance was in the wedding party and they still haven’t written a thank you. It bugs me! I feel like once you procrastinate, it’s hard to get out of the slump (personal experience talking) so just tackle it head on!

7/9/09 @ 6:15 pm (reply)

Bee

Mrs. Peep Toe (message) 1,804 posts, Buzzing bee

Thanks Ladies, I need to just do it.
But, and this didn’t come off in the post- we don’t have the address to our new place yet- we’re currently looking. I guess we’ll just have to send out an email blast with our address once we have it!

7/9/09 @ 6:17 pm (reply)

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fabulouslyengaged (message) 503 posts, Busy bee

Just send them….NOW. Don’t think about it. Just do it and get done. People can figure out your new address later!

7/9/09 @ 6:17 pm (reply)

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kjpugs (message) 1,751 posts, Buzzing bee

LOVE the stamp idea!!!!!!

7/9/09 @ 6:18 pm (reply)

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West Coast Bride (message) 708 posts, Busy bee

I had the same problem! I felt so horrible about not be super prompt, but I really wanted to include a photo on the front of our cards. What I couldn’t deal with was waiting for the photos and then waiting additionally for them to be printed and shipped to me! So, as soon as we got our photos I had copies printed, and I did scrapbook style individual thank you cards on my own…but I only had about 50 to do, so it was a fairly simple, fun craft for me to do. Either way, get them out however you can soon. As soon as I popped mine in the mail on Monday I felt so much better!

7/9/09 @ 6:21 pm (reply)

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Miss Spaniel (message) 6,792 posts, Bee Keeper

Send them! I hate not getting thank you cards, and I don’t care if they are crafty or if they were bought from Target. You can get crafty on your moving announcements!

7/9/09 @ 6:28 pm (reply)

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Melissabegins (message) 3,340 posts, Sugar bee

Mrs Peep - ooh, no! once you get that address, it’s another excuse to craft Save the emails for your bills etc!

7/9/09 @ 6:30 pm (reply)

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LatteLove (message) 5,587 posts, Bee Keeper

I’d do it sooner rather than later! It’s weighing on me and we’ve only been back from the honeymoon for 4 days!

7/9/09 @ 6:32 pm (reply)

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Bee

Miss French Bulldog (message) 7,730 posts, Bee Keeper

First off - GREAT POST! Peeps you crack me up!
Next, I say wait for the new address Anyone who would be upset about not receiving a Thank you already will understand after they saw that you were also moving.

7/9/09 @ 6:41 pm (reply)

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itsageiger

You could always write them now (so the pressure of remembering is alleviated, and you get the longest part done), stuff them in the envelopes, write out who they are going to do…and then mail them as soon as you have a new address. That way your logical, reasonable self isn’t stressed about not getting anything done! I agree with Miss Frenchie…anyone could understand the craziness of life with moving! Good luck.

7/9/09 @ 6:51 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Kitten (message) 868 posts, Busy bee

I had the same struggle! I had photo thank you cards made at Kodak.com and they didn’t turn out well and I had to decide whether to send out plain jane ones or wait for moo postcards. I say start writing them ASAP and then send them after you moved!

7/9/09 @ 6:52 pm (reply)

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Lillindy (message) 7,974 posts, Bee Keeper

For sure do the send thank you/we’ve moved cards…but I would start writing them now little by little and actually send them after you’ve moved.

7/9/09 @ 7:21 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Quiche (message) 3,157 posts, Sugar bee

I say just get them out of the way now! You already have the cards, so there won’t be a new expense if you went all crafty on them (although I do like them!). Then, email blast your new address

7/9/09 @ 7:33 pm (reply)

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