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Hive, I need your opinion. It’s been 6 weeks since our wedding and I have yet to send a single thank you note!!! And as each day passes (and the wedding becomes more and more of a distant memory*), the pressure to send them out is flying out the window.
I know I need to send them, but I feel like I am going through an internal struggle about what thank yous to send.
Here are the conversations that I have been having with myself (yes, I am part crazy lady, with multiple personalities):
Responsible, rational Peep: You need to start writing and sending thank you notes, STAT.
Crafty, lazy Peep: But wouldn’t they be so much better if they were crafty like Mrs. Corn’s?:
Or had an uber cute wedding photos on them like Mrs. Daffodil’s?:
Responsible, rational Peep: Yes, but you already own a bunch of thank yous that would do the job just fine. Remember those fabulous note cards that you bought from On a Limb Paper back in November?:
Crafty, lazy Peep: Okay, I’ll start to work on them.
Responsible, rational Peep: Good. Can’t wait to get home and tackle them tonight!!
Crafty, lazy Peep: Wait, we’re moving. Wouldn’t it be better if we waited to send out thank yous in a few weeks with our new address information??
Responsible, rational Peep: Hmm… maybe you are right??
Crafty, lazy Peep: And look at these super cute moving cards you could send, from Etsy:
Or these oh-so-hive-appropriate ones??
So hive, what’s a bee to do? Do we wait until we have a new address and send thank you/we’ve moved cards? Or do I getting crackin’ on these puppies before I forget about them entirely??
I can’t decide.
*Without all our photos, it still seems surreal!
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just send them! It only gets worse the longer you wait. Tell yourself you’ll do five every other night or something like that, and get them done in batches. This is coming from someone who got engaged, married, and had a baby in the span of a little two years. You can imagine how many thank you notes I had to write in a relatively compressed amount of time! People just want their gifts acknowledged. They don’t really care if the cards are cute or really, really cute. Simple cute is fine.
I would use your notecards that you have, since printing ones would take a while, and then do a nice note thanking them and add that you are moving and have inserted your address. Then I’d print “we’ve moved!” cards, about the size of a business card, and cut them out and put one in each tahnk you, so that they can put that on the fridge or tack board until they record it, but still have a nice thank you note separately. I am a little lax about etiquette (I’m definitely no Dear Abby or anything) so this might not be the 100% proper way to do it- but it’s what I’d do! 
I am LOVING all the cards you have picked out by the way… the moving ones would be SO FUN! YOu could probably design print a mini version yourself!
Oh, tough one! The crafty ideas are fantastic! I got mine out immediately, like the hours between the getting back from the wedding and leaving on the honeymoon. But I’m a nut. I think it’s reasonable to wait a while. I kind of wish I could do something crafty, but now it’s too late. I almost thought of sending out announcements with a fun picture. Then I thought, no one wants to see more of our grinning googly-eyed mugs. Sigh. I’d be torn if I hadn’t gotten them out so quickly!
SEND THEM!!! I would always prefer to receive a thank you note on a plain note card sooner rather than waiting for you to get cute ones. I am sure you have guests that are wondering if you even got their gifts since it has been well after the honeymoon and they have yet to receive anything.
Do you know your new address so you could send ‘em just before you move? - that’s Logical LauraJane.
I agree w @franny…the “we’ve moved” card sounds great but the thank you card is so important. and I would just tackle them two at a time when you have a spare 10 mins. Keep your cards, pen, address book, and stamps in a handy spot and just get a couple done at a time and out the door
They are a chore for sure, but I try to turn it around and think of the thank you card as a small way I can remember the nice things people who love me have done for me. Good luck!
Maybe you could get a stamp w/ your new address, and make a cute little insert, then use the stamp again and again as your return address. But insert those into your thank you cards, for sure, and quick! I went to a wedding in September 08 where my fiance was in the wedding party and they still haven’t written a thank you. It bugs me! I feel like once you procrastinate, it’s hard to get out of the slump (personal experience talking) so just tackle it head on!
Thanks Ladies, I need to just do it.
But, and this didn’t come off in the post- we don’t have the address to our new place yet- we’re currently looking. I guess we’ll just have to send out an email blast with our address once we have it!
Just send them….NOW. Don’t think about it. Just do it and get done. People can figure out your new address later!
I had the same problem! I felt so horrible about not be super prompt, but I really wanted to include a photo on the front of our cards. What I couldn’t deal with was waiting for the photos and then waiting additionally for them to be printed and shipped to me! So, as soon as we got our photos I had copies printed, and I did scrapbook style individual thank you cards on my own…but I only had about 50 to do, so it was a fairly simple, fun craft for me to do. Either way, get them out however you can soon. As soon as I popped mine in the mail on Monday I felt so much better!
Send them! I hate not getting thank you cards, and I don’t care if they are crafty or if they were bought from Target. You can get crafty on your moving announcements!
Mrs Peep - ooh, no! once you get that address, it’s another excuse to craft 
Save the emails for your bills etc!
I’d do it sooner rather than later! It’s weighing on me and we’ve only been back from the honeymoon for 4 days!
First off - GREAT POST! Peeps you crack me up!
Next, I say wait for the new address Anyone who would be upset about not receiving a Thank you already will understand after they saw that you were also moving.
You could always write them now (so the pressure of remembering is alleviated, and you get the longest part done), stuff them in the envelopes, write out who they are going to do…and then mail them as soon as you have a new address. That way your logical, reasonable self isn’t stressed about not getting anything done! I agree with Miss Frenchie…anyone could understand the craziness of life with moving! Good luck.
I had the same struggle! I had photo thank you cards made at Kodak.com and they didn’t turn out well and I had to decide whether to send out plain jane ones or wait for moo postcards. I say start writing them ASAP and then send them after you moved!
For sure do the send thank you/we’ve moved cards…but I would start writing them now little by little and actually send them after you’ve moved.
I say just get them out of the way now! You already have the cards, so there won’t be a new expense if you went all crafty on them (although I do like them!). Then, email blast your new address
I’m right there with you Peep!
How about writing out a few cards at a time and then sending them with a return address that says-Here’s our new Newlywed Nest?
Send the thank yous now, on the cards you already have. THEN .. order the moving cards. People love getting mail!
Just send as many as you can now. I found that I was in Target about every other day buying more, so you will have an opportunity to craft/Etsy some if it comes down to it.
Get started and get it over with!
I would say send them now! Some of your guests are probably getting antsy, and it really only gets worse the longer you wait.
If you were planning on doing “we’re moving!” cards separately anyways, just send them out afterwards. =) Or just include the information in your thank-yous!
The yellow notecards and hive ones are soooo cute!
do them now! I always get mad at brides when they don’t send their thank you cards out until months after the wedding. It makes you feel like all the time and effort that you put into attending their wedding and purchasing them a gift wasn’t worth it to them. Send them out ASAP so that your guests know you appreciate them. It will also be easier for you to write them sooner rather than later!
Send them already. The paper will end up in the trash, but your guests’ memories of how long it took to receive them will last a long time.
I vote to send them now. I went to a wedding where I ordered the gift online and mailed it to them before the wedding…it was months after the wedding that the cute thank you cards with their picture came. The cards were cute, but I worried during that time that they never got their gift.
Would it be rediculous to do both? If only just so you could use the bee cards!!
Thank you hive. Heard you loud and clear- this is the kick in the pants I needed. Going to write thank yous right this second!!
Absolutely, SEND THEM NOW! You’re not sending thank you notes for yourself; you’re sending them to thank your guests for supporting your marriage, sending you gifts, loving you, and celebrating with you. To wait would be discourteous.
Alright, I have 12 thank you notes ready to go!!! Whoo hoo!
Plan to send them out later, but at least start writing them now and when you have your new place, you can refer to the new address in them… oh dear, what’s a peep to do?!
Hmm…can you start writing them all out now and get that out of the way? Then you can mail them (with your new address info) just before you make the move. Best of both worlds maybe?
GET CRACKIN! When I graduated from high school - I justified waiting to send out a thank you card from an in-the-mail gift once I wrote all of the ones from the open house. BAD MOVE! The offended aunt actually wrote a note to my mother about how rude and ungrateful I was because my thank you was late and too short to be appropriate. While it was a large gift, and I was wrong to wait, I was young and honestly, inexperienced. But good gravy, that woman has given me a thank-you-card-complex. When I get a gift - I get a note ready to go out DAY OF or ASAP. Literally. Do not wait. While my aunt is a real B#$%@, this could be you!
I say start writing them now. Mail them when you have the moving cards.
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