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Mrs. Mascara, Chicago/Upper Michigan Age and Occupation: 25, Biomedical Engineer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Process Engineer Engagement Date: July 27, 2008 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory About Me: A lover of Mr. Mascara, crafting, baking, Gossip Girl, diet soda, and all things wedding. A Yooper girl somehow displaced in the Chicago suburbs, planning a wedding from a distance, and counting down the days until I marry my best friend.
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As I sit here writing to avoid the thing I actually should be doing (packing for my next work trip), I find myself questioning how to balance the two. Work has been a little stressful lately, as we have a very very very important deadline coming up. Wedding planning has been no less stressful, as we are now under the 2 month mark with no shortage of tasks left to complete.

I find myself a little torn between the two at the moment. On one hand, I usually enjoy traveling for work because it means we are out visiting customers; one of the parts of my job that I enjoy most. But it means sitting in an airport and working long hours and being away from my sewing machine. Have I mentioned I haven’t finished the table runners yet? I can’t help but wish that I didn’t have to go, but then I’d be coming home after a boring day of work in the office, and sitting down with my Kenmore and knocking out a runner or two. I’d feel much more accomplished on the wedding front, but not so satisfied with my other job… you know, the one I actually get paid for.

I feel like I’ve been working two full time jobs for the past eleven months.

Even while I’m traveling, I find myself thinking of ways to work both of them. Just last week I started laying out our programs in Illustrator on my flight to Sacramento. While in my hotel room in Cincinnati this week, I fully intend on wrapping up the final playlist for our ceremony.

So where is the balance? At the moment, there isn’t one. I go to work (whether it be in the office or out of town), then I come home (or sit in my hotel room) and it’s time to tackle the wedding to-do list. At some point I sleep, but in the morning it doesn’t feel like I ever closed my eyes. Luckily for me, it can only last two more months. I’m glad I didn’t have a longer engagement, or I might be a little nuts (and a little more than exhausted) by the end of this thing!

How do you balance work and wedding planning? Do you feel like you’re working two full time jobs?

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27 Responses to “Work and Wedding Planning… The Balancing Act”

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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,565 posts, Bee Keeper

Yes! And it’s been wearing me out big-time.

My job has optional summer hours — extended days on Monday through Thursday in exchange for Fridays off. So I get to work earlier and leave later, which makes my nights shorter :-( and puts increased pressure to use my Fridays productively!

 
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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,565 posts, Bee Keeper

I should add that I’m worried right now about crashing after the wedding. I really don’t want to get sick on the honeymoon — or as soon as we return to the country! :-(

 
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Gilneas (message)  1,393 posts, Bumble bee

I’m still far enough out that the real stress hasn’t hit me yet - but I am very worried about what will happen as it draws closer ;(

 
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Luvbug6315
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Luvbug6315 (message)  425 posts, Helper bee

I totally feel like I’m working two jobs. I don’t get home untill 6:00pm, then I work on wedding stuff until 10:00pm, and I feel like I’m living the same day over and over. Good to know I’m not alone!

 
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Miss Duckling (message)  1,415 posts, Bumble bee

I definitely agree. I feel like I don’t have enough time in general.

 
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naangel55 (message)  3,054 posts, Sugar bee

I did alot of planning at work! I just got married and my friend who sits next to me is getting married next month and we did so much wedding stuff at work (including non-stop stalking of weddingbee). Thankfully our boss is very cool about it :)

 
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LatteLove (message)  5,587 posts, Bee Keeper

@Miss Bruschetta: I crashed before the wedding, because I took off the week before.

Make sure you take some time before the festivities start and get a couple really good nights of sleep and days of relaxation. I cashed in on a massage I got for a birthday present and did little projects at my leisure. WIthout that time before the craziness of family in, and last minute projects, I would have been a MESS!!

 
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Amber1279 (message)  319 posts, Helper bee

I totally agree, add 2 kids to the mix and I definitely don’t have any extra time. Luckily I do work for a family business so I have some leeway - but not much.

 
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Jessie516 (message)  5,480 posts, Bee Keeper

I was so stressed out leading up to the wedding! In addition to wedding planning, I was taking a full load of classes, had two practicum placements AND worked 15 hours a week! I felt like I had absolutely NO time to get anything done.

Honestly, I managed by asking for A LOT of help from my mom and sister. And, frankly, I did a lot of wedding business while I was at work–emails, research, etc.

 
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cjh

I travel for work, too. This week? Brought along the crafting…

 
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Mrs. Bunny (message)  349 posts, Helper bee

Cincinnati! Arg! It’s frustrating to me that you’ll be so close and yet so far away (2 hours). I still haven’t met any fellow Bees in real life!

 
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teamzeewagen (message)  127 posts, Blushing bee

Boy do I hear that! I actually feel like I’m working 3 or more full time jobs: wedding planning, my regular job and marathon training. I’m logging 35 to 40 miles a week (15-20 miles on Saturday alone), so Friday nights mean bed by 9 and Saturdays I’m either running or exhausted from running. My job often requires me to work 6 days a week (I will actually be working 50 hours til this Saturday, running 20 miles, then working Sunday through to Friday, July 31 without a day off). It is illegal, of course, but I don’t dare be the one to say no! Then we all know how much time the wedding planning takes! Forget about cleaning the house or catching up on any other projects!

My FI and I actually got in a big fight on Sunday because I lingered too long at my bridal shower- it was our one evening to catch up on housework! AAAGGHHH! I definitely just want this marathon to be over (literally AND figuratively).

 
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fabulouslyengaged (message)  503 posts, Busy bee

Oh my gosh. I totally feel for you. My wedding is Aug 1st, and I honestly feel like I have been managing multiple jobs at once. It is so hard to not sit in front of my computer and look up wedding stuff all day… though, I’ll sadly admit that I have spent a handful of days at work doing nothing but wedding related stuff.

Its so fun though. I keep trying to remind myself of that. This is a WEDDING, after all, so none of us should be stressed. There are plenty of miserable things in life to happen for us to be stressed over, but I wedding shouldn’t be one of them!

 
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KellyV (message)  2,526 posts, Sugar bee

Eeps I totally feel ya. Luckily for me, we had a slow winter so I got a lot of wedidng planning done while at work. Now though, being 2 months out, I feel like it is 2 full time jobs. I made a to-do list and tackle what I can handle each day. I also called my dad and asked for help with things like the signs, etc. I also travel a lot for work, so I do what I can from the road as well. Its frustrating, Im with ya sister!

 
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kim

I totally feel you. Work, wedding planning and I’m a part time grad student. Life is BUSY! Just as an example, I will be on travel for the next two weeks for work and next Thursday I have a final in one of my classes. Riiight, lol. It’s one reason we are having a longer engagement, to give me some time to try to keep my stuff together. I was just saying the other day that if I had gotten married this year instead of next year, we would have had to scrounge up the money for a wedding planner.

 
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kjpugs
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kjpugs (message)  1,751 posts, Buzzing bee

I work two jobs and this on top means major headaches! But I hope it will all be worth it in the end… it is right?!?!

 
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linzella
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linzella (message)  407 posts, Helper bee

I was in a similar situation b/c I also travel for work. One on hand, I was able to get a lot of wedding logistics figured out while I was on the road, but on the other hand, my travel schedule meant I spent nearly every weekend DIYing towards the end of our engagement. Now that the wedding’s over, it’s great to have my weekends back!

 
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rachh

I am in the EXACT same boat. I am tying to strike a balance without being one of “those girls” at work. Preparing for the next few weeks of travel, putting together presentations, and meeting high professional expectations is exhausting enough - not to mention the wedding. After received 32 wedding related emails in one day from family, friends and vendors, we are hiring a planner. As much as I want to be involved, I just don’t have the time and have to put my job first. I hope that decision isn’t one I regret come wedding day. :/

 
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joyce (message)  210 posts, Helper bee

@ Miss Mascara - Wedding planning can very easily take over your life and working a full time job or two won’t help either. What I did was schedule nights that were dedicated to wedding tasks (i.e. I come home, eat and do nothing but wedding stuff until midnight). That ended up to be like 3 or 4 nights out of the week during the last month, but alas I stray. Then I also scheduled nights to relax - pop in a dvd and watch a movie with the FI or go out for girls’ night. Whatever it is, scheduling time to relax will help keep you together.

@ Miss Bruschetta - Oy, I did fine up to the end of the wedding and then just crashed the day after. Needless to say, I was sick throughout our entire week at Maui. Don’t forget to eat well, drink lots of fluids and get plenty of sleep the last couple of weeks leading up to the wedding!

 
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Mrs. Taffy (message)  3,104 posts, Sugar bee

I just have to say, I also have a Kenmore machine and I LOVE it. I love it so much, when it came time to buy a serger I went straight to Sears. :)

 
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Mrs. Mascara, Chicago/Upper Michigan Age and Occupation: 25, Biomedical Engineer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Process Engineer Engagement Date: July 27, 2008 Wedding Date: September 2009 Venue: Catholic ceremony, reception at local armory About Me: A lover of Mr. Mascara, crafting, baking, Gossip Girl, diet soda, and all things wedding. A Yooper girl somehow displaced in the Chicago suburbs, planning a wedding from a distance, and counting down the days until I marry my best friend.

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