Weddingbee Blog

I hear you, Joey. Even though my wedding was very, very small, I still felt overwhelmed and insane the week leading up to it. In fact, I still feel overwhelmed thinking about it now.

But I will never be one of those brides that considers her wedding day the Most Perfect And Wonderful Day Of Her Life. It was important, certainly, but every day after that overwhelming, stressful day has been a million times more lovely, because I’m not thinking about everything that “needs” to be done… I’m just living with the man I love.

Cheer up! Remember that the reason you’re undergoing all of this craziness is to end up with that one special guy… and hopefully the rest won’t matter as much if it doesn’t go as planned.

Yeah I hear you Miss Joey. How intense that so many brides, myself included, totally have the feeling that we wish we had just eloped. I don’t know why. Sometimes I think it must be because in so many other respects we are independent women but weddings have a lot more ‘tradition’ and ‘community’ related to them. That means lots of good things, but also a lot of *expectations*! We get lots of mixed messages now — you’re supposed to do/make this incredible ceremony and celebration yourself, as an expression of you and your mate, but then at the same time it is supposed to be for and with your community. It’s just not the same as it used to be though…family & friends live far away, and often aren’t involved in planning or helping. Finally, the idea that you only get one shot to make “the celebration of your dreams” adds this ridiculous pressure to it. I also wish I had gone for something more low key and relaxed, something I would know from start to finish how to handle myself. Just makes things easier in this day and age. I think we’ll see a change in how weddings are done, but maybe our generation just got caught in between it all. Wonder how our daughters will decide to get married!

Mine is in three weeks and I definitely want to finish everything in two, which looks like it’s not going to get done! I feel you!

Hi all - Yep!!! As everyone else has posted - I am also an August bride, trying not to stress under the short time frame, and to top it off, I was in a fairly severe car accident 2 weeks ago (6 weeks until our wedding) and now am struggling to get last-minute tasks done while wearing a neck brace and squeezing in visits to the chiropractor every day and figuring out how to buy a new car and deal with the insurance company! OMG! You’ve got to be kidding me!

Additionally, my seamstress delayed my wedding dress final fitting, one of my bridesmaids hasn’t even STARTED getting her dress hemmed, my MOH lives 4 states away and is arriving mere days before the wedding and the icing on the crap cake - I’m out of town the next two weekends and my darling soon-to-be-husband works until 2 am the next 5 nights straight. *grits teeth!*

Enough about me, though… here’s about you: here’s what someone else told me that made me feel better… anything that doesn’t get done by the wedding, NO ONE will know except you (or your bridesmaids that you’ve told all about your darling DIY project that just got the axe… LOL!) I too have chopped a TON of things off my list (I’m hoping to just get through the first dance at this point!) and when I’m tired, I nap!

Most importantly, I’m marrying the best man in the world - and he loves me whether or not we have wedding programs, bows on all the aisle chairs or wedding favors in tulle bags! However, I’ve started asking lots of people for help - and surprisingly most are willing to jump in! So take heart - I’m right there with you! We’ve only got a few more weeks (GULP!) and we’ll be MRS! Chin up - I feel your pain!