Bridal Blues

Bridal Blues

July 22nd, 2009 @ 2:00 pm by Mrs. Beagle
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I’ve talked about my fear of PWD and how I plan on handling that bump in the road when I get there. However, recently, I’ve been experiencing feelings I hadn’t expected. In a nutshell, I’ve been feeling really down about the wedding. I know some of it (okay, a lot of it) must come from my mom’s passing, but I think there are other factors, also.

Mr. Beagle and I will have been engaged for 16 months when we get married in October. When I first started planning, I wanted a longer engagement to prevent getting over-stressed and overwhelmed. In many ways, it’s been nice planning at leisure, but it’s starting to get old. Really old. The excitement I first felt about many of my projects is gone. The thought of having to entertain people in three months is daunting. I want it to be over. Now.

I’ve officially reached a point where I am burnt out (and could really use a nice, relaxing vacation *hint, hint, Mr. Beagle*). I’m starting to understand just how important that honeymoon or minimoon is after you get married. You need a break to recover, just breathe, and not think about anything wedding related. I think reflection is good, but there definitely needs to be some down time in between.

This brings me to my last thought:

I love being creative. The whole reason behind all the DIY projects was because I truly enjoyed it at one point. I want to get back to that point, desperately. And not just because I have a looming deadline. I have big plans for this weekend that involve good music, some NPR podcasts, maybe a little Harry Potter, and crafts, crafts, and more crafts. Stay tuned for more wedding projects to come your way!

Have you hit a wall in your planning? How did you deal with it?

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23 Responses to “Bridal Blues”

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budgetbeautiful (message) 1,191 posts, Bumble bee

At this point I’m more looking forward to the honeymoon than the wedding, so I feel you there. Wedding planning is exhausting, and if I didn’t take week long breaks here and there throughout my planning I think I would have gone cuckoo bananas long ago!

7/22/09 @ 2:18 pm (reply)

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Lovespearls (message) 863 posts, Busy bee

Miss. Beagle I am so sorry to hear about your mom’s passing, I must have missed that post a little while ago. When I hit the wall about planning usually try to take a little break from it. Could you afford a week off with no wedding stuff? If so you may feel rejuvinated!

7/22/09 @ 2:25 pm (reply)

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pvaulter718 (message) 2,116 posts, Buzzing bee

I started to get burntout. So, I designated Thursday as wedding day. It doesn’t always work, but it’s nice to sit down and bust things out one night and then have Monday, Tuesday, Wed, etc just for my fiance and I.

7/22/09 @ 2:29 pm (reply)

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Andrea

I’m right there with you! Got engaged last July and am getting married this October. I never wanted the long engagement but we had to have it because I wouldn’t settle for anything but a fall wedding (and there’s no way I would have been ready last fall!)

I loved doing crafts throughout the engagement but now I saved too much for the end. I’m busy with school and tired of all the last minute wedding details and I have no time for all the crafts that are left! I find myself saying “oh, I’ll just skip doing that part of the centerpiece”, when that part of the centerpiece was something that really reflected the mister and I’s personal style. Should we still do those things that reflect us or should I just scrap those ideas since I’m getting too stressed out and tired of it all?

I don’t know what to do anymore. But I’m in the same boat as you!

7/22/09 @ 2:39 pm (reply)

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AmberWaves (message) 326 posts, Helper bee

I have 9 months to go and have only been engaged since Dec. 08 and I’ve already hit a wall. I found I just had to to stop agonizing over the wedding and do other stuff. Eventually I got in the mood and got back on track.

7/22/09 @ 2:44 pm (reply)

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Rondell Jenkins

Girl you just go to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps sometimes. When I was engaged to Tron he didn’t do nothing but sit on the couch and smoke weed all day. Finally I just took myself on that honeymoon and left him with his brothers, you know what I’m sayin! LOL
And Rondell had just as good a time without no man there to mess with. Mmphmh.

7/22/09 @ 2:49 pm (reply)

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MrsSl82be (message) 7,970 posts, Bee Keeper

I TOTALLY feel you on this!!! I myself just got off the phone with one of maids after having a mini breakdown. I just want it to be over already!! With 3 months to go, I just want it to be honeymoon time already. I’m hoping I can get back in the swing of things this weekend, but after realizing that we’re going to be over budget and wondering how the hell we’re going to pay for it is really making me freak out…

7/22/09 @ 2:55 pm (reply)

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darilinda (message) 138 posts, Blushing bee

I definitely hit a wall and feel like I’m still peeling myself off of it. I’m so…underwhelmed??? I think that it’s my way of dealing with the actual feeling of being overwhelmed. I’ve just past the rest of the projects to my mother because I’ve got a lot going on (moving and starting a new job) before the actual wedding. I definitely do understand why people do honeymoons. I can’t imagine going right back to work afterward. I need a break!

7/22/09 @ 2:58 pm (reply)

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IA_Snowflake (message) 1,913 posts, Buzzing bee

I’m the same way right now. I’m SO over planning and waiting for the wedding to happen. We’ve had a 20 month engagement and planning during about 14 months of that.

7/22/09 @ 2:58 pm (reply)

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grumpybear722 (message) 553 posts, Busy bee

I also hit a wall a few weeks ago. I had to take a long break from planning and now I’m just planning/crafting at a more comfortable pace. Rushing was driving me NUTS and I don’t want to end up hating my wedding. It also helped for me to realize that my “deadlines” were a bit overzealous and that forcing myself to do stuff isn’t good for me or the end product.

7/22/09 @ 3:18 pm (reply)

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Miss Star (message) 2,057 posts, Buzzing bee

Oh, I hear you about long engagements. I’m right there with you with ours clocking in at 23 months!

7/22/09 @ 3:19 pm (reply)

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Emilydll (message) 428 posts, Helper bee

Here, here! It’s nice to know I’m not the only one feeling this way.

7/22/09 @ 3:24 pm (reply)

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Miss Poodle (message) 3,387 posts, Sugar bee

I’m so sorry Beagle, I’m sure this up coming weekend will be a fun one

I haven’t still, but i think it’s because I have plenty of time until the wedding

7/22/09 @ 4:13 pm (reply)

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MaPo (message) 315 posts, Helper bee

Austin girls should definitely treat themselves to a massage from the talented Brad at The Hills Fitness Center:
http://www.thehillsfitness.com/programs%5F%5Fclasses/massage/

7/22/09 @ 4:18 pm (reply)

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carablossom (message) 45 posts, Newbee

Aw, I feel you on the burnout! Er, not bc of wedding planning — but really, the whole pay-it-forward thing really brightens my day. I know, why would you want to add *yet another project* on your list, but I feel like either baking something (imperfect) + sharing it with my office, or making a card + dropping it in the mail to another friend (b/c let’s face it: other than wedding invites, what other lovelies go by snail mail?) makes ME feel better, cuz I’m spreading some cheer around

And hey-o, this isn’t in my budget, but looks fun (if you magically read this today!): Flavor Tripping!
Ooh, and this is free! Julie/Julia movie screening!

Else, we can play sorta-but-not-scavenger hunt + I can drop off a happy package somewhere random (but pre-determined) here in Austin for ya

7/22/09 @ 4:47 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Starfish (message) 286 posts, Helper bee

After I mailed the STD postcards I was anxiously awaiting some response. But then realized that everyone else has so much going on it isn’t really a blip on their radar yet. Now I am kinda in a planning slump. I don’t think there’s much more to do right now. That makes me sad. I am ready for all the exciting stuff. 8 months seems like a long time to wait!!!!

7/22/09 @ 4:59 pm (reply)

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