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Mrs. Gummi Bear, San Francisco Age and Occupation: 25, Japanese Importer/Illustrator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Game Developer/Programmer Engagement Date: April 15, 2006 Wedding Date: October 13, 2007 Blogging Since: June 19, 2007 Venue: Organic farm an hour from San Francisco About Me: I live for anthropologie, design blogs, sweets, japanese zakka, and vintage goods. We just bought our first home together and live with our two puppies and cat - it's a strange mixture of vintage, high-tech (we have 7 computers and 21 video game systems in all), and a whole lot of fur. Our wedding tries to embody the Japanese idea of "slow life", which is truly taking the time to enjoy food, company, and your environment!
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Going Unnoticed

July 23rd, 2009 @ 8:25 am by Mrs. Gummi Bear

The one thing we always kept in mind while planning our wedding was the feel. That was the most important thing for us - not how I looked, nor the details of the ceremony. We didn’t even have a rehearsal or plan a ceremony until about 10 minutes before we went out. We didn’t want everything to look meticulously planned; we wanted it to feel like we threw it all together and it was just totally casual and relaxed. That means… all those details we put together, really didn’t stand out. But that’s what I wanted. I didn’t want anyone to feel like our wedding was a museum of amazing little details, I wanted people to sit back and relax as if this was just a normal get together.

So these are how our details came together to create our mellow, laid back atmosphere. No one will ever know how I agonized over every single freakin’ detail and searched high and low for the perfect _____ that seemed so easy when on the table.

Remember those pillows that I had my friend/slave sew for me? They went on the benches next to the parasols and the palmier cookies we had put together. They don’t know that it took hours the night before  to prepare these cookies.

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Here are our simple un-stemmed wine and water glasses, simple plates and twiggy utensils. I’ve said before, me and stems = spillage, but I also feel it’s mildly comforting to anyone who spills. It’s a little more secure, and a little more casual to not have stemware. Tiny bowls for salt and pepper with equally tiny spoons… and mind you, that’s pink salt. I’m just that crazy. I’m sure no one noticed, but it made a difference in my whacked out brain.

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Those simple bird’s nests on the napkins? Those took people a long time, and a million bags of eggs because this nutty person refused to have ANY yellow eggs, and wanted 90% white eggs only. Yes, I had bags and bags of yellow and colored eggs stashed just because I only wanted the white ones from the bags. Still think I’m reasonable? I need to be institutionalized. Thank god someone married me; I’m absolutely ridiculous.

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my sister, cousin, and my friend who performed the ceremony all slaving away with the eggs early in the morning.

And who could forget the Ann Wood Birds that I gave my left kidney for? And the wire frame pedestals from the back of a magazine that I had Mr. GB call the manufacturer and beg them to sell to us. These were/are things I make him do regularly. We’re remodeling our bathroom right now and I made him take back tiles and have new ones overnighted to us because the ones we originally received were matte glazed rather than unglazed. I swear no one else will know, in fact, he won’t even be able to tell the difference. But to me, in my mad world, I’d stare at them knowing they weren’t the right tiles for however long we lived there. Writing it out I am beginning to realize why my mother was relieved I found someone willing to put up with my crap.

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wire pedestals of doom and a bird

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More birds, but this time, with cake!

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Our menu with calligraphy by Bluebird Studios, I can’t recommend her enough! So sweet!

And last, but not least, my collection of cake stands, the macarons we hand wrapped the night before, the cake boxes for take-home cake and the kraft bags for taking all those home with you.

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Did I get all my ridiculous details that no one but me noticed? I think so. Do you want your guests to see and feel the hard work and effort you put into your wedding, or are you content just knowing they’re there?

At the very least, I know sticky fingered Korean woman noticed my details! Noticed them straight into her gigantor purse!

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56 Responses to “Going Unnoticed”

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darilinda
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darilinda (message)  138 posts, Blushing bee

Your wedding looked so beautiful and well-thought out. I notice the details, more than likely because i am a bride. I think you can’t help but do the wedding insanity things. I just want people to have a good time and look back on my wedding to say, “It was awesome. I married my best friend and had fun doing it.” I really don’t care what the guests think!

 
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Miss Bruschetta (message)  5,553 posts, Bee Keeper

Such cute little details! This is the kind of stuff I’m obsessing over right now. :-(

 
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LisaM (message)  28 posts, Newbee

You really have a nice feel here. Great looking cakes and the site for your ceremony looks classy.

 
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Miss Gloss
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Miss Gloss (message)  1,053 posts, Bumble bee

I love your ceremony set-up and those are some FABULOUS details.

 
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Miss Stiletto (message)  758 posts, Busy bee

I can’t get over the details, GB! AND you are so making me want a bunch of different cakes instead of one big cake…darn you!! :)

 
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Miss D'orsay (message)  1,293 posts, Bumble bee

Gummi Bear, I’m so happy you’re doing your recaps - I loved your wedding! This post absolutely hilarious!

ps. I would have sent back the bathroom tiles too…

 
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thisismystop (message)  39 posts, Newbee

It looks like it was gorgeous! I love the simplicity of your ceremony layout and how it looks so relaxed. Very nice details! I LOVE all the different cakes :)

 
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kosstobe
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kosstobe (message)  231 posts, Helper bee

Your details were perfect! I especially love the little birds nests and eggs. The great thing about all these details we brides plan is if something doesn’t work out on the big day, 95% of the guests won’t know the difference. At least thats what I’m going to tell myself when the time comes! ;)

My mom is happy/relieved I found someone to put up with my crap, too! :)

 
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Jessie516
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Jessie516 (message)  3,976 posts, Honey bee

Your little “cake birds” are the cutest thing ever!

 
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kjpugs
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kjpugs (message)  854 posts, Busy bee

I would do that with the eggs too… so don’t worry, there are more of us!

 
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krissybee
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krissybee (message)  1,000 posts, Bumble bee

every detail is so effortless yet in its perfect place!!! sooo inspiring!

 
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llc2011
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llc2011 (message)  458 posts, Helper bee

I’m loving the different cakes idea!

 
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Mrs. Tiramisu
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Mrs. Tiramisu (message)  877 posts, Busy bee

I have always LOVED your wedding details. Seriously so gorgeous and lovely!

 
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mkat88
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mkat88 (message)  154 posts, Blushing bee

You may think that no one noticed but that can’t be true! Your details were wonderful! Your cakes were amazing!

 
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Elizabeth

Oh no, what did she take?!

 
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KatieBug3017
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KatieBug3017 (message)  1,418 posts, Bumble bee

Wow…your details are just beautiful! And seriously, you aren’t alone in your neuroticism…I am just as bad! Every little detail…must…be…just…as…I…want! But of course, you don’t want anyone to know that!!! ;)

 
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Miss Bear Cub
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Miss Bear Cub (message)  1,347 posts, Bumble bee

srsly, your wedding is bursting with beautiful!

 
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LovestheBear
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LovestheBear (message)  875 posts, Busy bee

I am a details person, and I think the details make things look effortless. Yours were beautiful!

 
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thefuturemrsjewell
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thefuturemrsjewell (message)  1,529 posts, Bumble bee

oh my goodness, i absolutely love all the details of your wedding. it looks like unbelievably amazing. i love the twig cutlery and the flowers lining the aisle look superb!

 
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Kalibali (message)  241 posts, Helper bee

omg, i totally just saved a lot of these pictures for inspiration! amazing and i absolutely love the details, and you are a hilarious writer!!

 
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Miss Mouse (message)  3,277 posts, Sugar bee

Beautifil details! I bet more people noticed than you think.

 
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Mrs. Canary (message)  636 posts, Busy bee

I heart everything about your wedding and if I were there, I’d be like a snap-happy Asian tourist taking close up shots of all your beautiful details! I can also commiserate on the tile thing. It would eat away at me too!

 
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Kristen

OMG are you interested in reselling the wire frame pedestals? If not, which manufacturer did you get them from?!?!?! I really really would like to know. Please let me know!

 
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Jenniphyr
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Jenniphyr (message)  1,397 posts, Bumble bee

Your wedding. Is beautiful!

We want people to notice the details in our wedding, but we’re not doing them to awe people…they’re all there to help enourage the laid-back feel we want our wedding to have!

 
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tater (message)  122 posts, Blushing bee

Your wedding was gorgeous & trust me you’re not the only detail-oriented maniac out there :)

 
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Miss Swan (message)  386 posts, Helper bee

Love your details! You shoud want people to notice :)

 
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Mrs. Sushi (message)  967 posts, Busy bee

I *love* the details! Your custom made pillows, your cute cookie packaging, pink salt!, your beautiful cakes, even the dark benches for your ceremony. ::swoon::

 
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Mrs. Peony (message)  318 posts, Helper bee

How could anyone NOT notice all that gorgeousness and attention to detail?

 
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Ghenet
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Ghenet (message)  125 posts, Blushing bee

Your details were beautiful and you are hilarious!

 
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Miss Star (message)  1,275 posts, Bumble bee

I love your details and I’m sure they were noticed. I definitely want people to noticed ours!!

 
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laurenadela
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laurenadela (message)  119 posts, Blushing bee

I’m in love :) and can you PLEASE tell me where you got your twiggy silverware? i’m drooling all over it.

 
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sarsk624 (message)  346 posts, Helper bee

What an attention to detail! They are beautiful. I have a severe fear of birds (think ducking when they come near me) and it made me want bird nest favors! Can’t wait to see more

 
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Mrs. Peep Toe (message)  1,636 posts, Bumble bee

Seriously. In. Love.

Have always been a bit jealous of your ‘casual’ wedding!!

 
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AnnieAAA
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AnnieAAA (message)  1,044 posts, Bumble bee

OMG seriously your wedding, esp the ceremony, is one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve ever seen! So pretty!

 
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Mrs. Quiche (message)  2,175 posts, Buzzing bee

Simply stunning. I love all of it, Gummi!

 
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susmraz

I would love to know where you got your wire pedestals! I saw them from a MSW photoshoot last year and have been hunting for them ever since.

Thank you in advance!

 
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Mrs. Gummi Bear (message)  175 posts, Blushing bee

Thanks everyone! Effortless was the word I was looking for. :)

nests were williams sonoma, they are on sale occasionally. I still have about 50.. somewhere…

the wire pedestals were already sold, people were going mad to have them after I was married. It was from America Retold, I believe? You may be able to find them online some places, but you can call them directly and weep like I made Mr. GB do.

we rented the twig utensils, I know you used to be able to buy them at anthropologie… actually, that was Mr. GB who DEMANDED we have those! Non-negotiable twigginess.

 
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PrettyKitty
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PrettyKitty (message)  505 posts, Busy bee

Gorgeous details! I too agonized over our wedding details and I just get giddy looking at the detail photographs. I’m sure not a single other person noticed but I did.

Love your humor and your recaps!

 
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Mrs. Hot Cocoa (message)  1,715 posts, Bumble bee

If I were there, I would have been sticky-fingered too! I would have noticed and loved every details.

 
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ejs4y8
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ejs4y8 (message)  6,922 posts, Bee Keeper

LOL. My half-korean mom has very very sticky korean lady fingers, too! SHe can’t resist and we always try to deter her.
Gorgeous, by the way. I Love the details.

 
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ladybuglove
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ladybuglove (message)  707 posts, Busy bee

love all of your details…….right down to the pink salt! i so would’ve noticed that.

 
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LatteLove
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LatteLove (message)  4,094 posts, Honey bee

are you sure no one noticed? Those details were SO cute. I would have noticed for sure!

 
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peanutlovespumpkin (message)  245 posts, Helper bee

I love reading your posts :) I think you are my favorite bee.

 
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rzblna
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rzblna (message)  265 posts, Helper bee

Your wedding looked amazing and truly unique. If I had been there, I would have emptied the entire wedding into my purse.

 
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tea
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tea (message)  2,610 posts, Sugar bee

i love your details. and i think i love you even more because i have finally found someone who’s just as crazy about details as i am!

 
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jmc
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jmc (message)  467 posts, Helper bee

I love your philosophy. I don’t want to look like a museum of amazing little details either.

 
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Laura

I think my wedding obsession begun when I met you planning your wedding details…

 
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The Cheesy, Cheesy Details… with a little bit of sentimentality thrown in « Repeat Bride

[...] here we go: remember Mrs. Gummibear, she of the pink salt?  Well, in addition to an unmatched attention to detail, the woman can [...]

 
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The Cheesy, Cheesy Details… With a Little Bit of Sentimentality Thrown In » Weddingbee » The Wedding Blog

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Mrs. French Bulldog
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Mrs. French Bulldog (message)  6,063 posts, Bee Keeper

OMG how did I miss this incredibly cute post Mrs GB :)
I love your details!

 
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Mrs. Gummi Bear (message)  175 posts, Blushing bee

You know me, I’m shy! I post on the sly. ;)

 
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weddings (message)  12 posts, Newbee

I don’t know who wouldn’t have appreciated your detail, down to the pink salt it was gorgeous!

 
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anabanana

hi mrs gummi bear, ur wedding was absolutely gorgeous! i was just wondering what those wire pedestals were actually called…i can’t seem to find them anywhere!! and are those nests still available? :)

 
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Mrs. Gummi Bear (message)  175 posts, Blushing bee

@anabanana: Hi, I’m not sure what they were called other than just wire pedestals. They were from America Retold. The nests were from Williams Sonoma - I still have maybe 40-50 in my closet. :P I’m not sure if they sell those exact ones, but they were selling them during easter.

 
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anabanana

I guess i need to physically go into one of their stores then. :) i am still contemplating whether i should use nests to hold the seating cards or what. if i decide to have them are you willing to sell me the 40-50 you’ve got in ur closet? i’m just a BART away from u yknow. :) :) thank you for sharing ur awe-some wedding. i am extremely jealous of ur excellent taste and ur eye for detail. :)

 
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Mrs. Gummi Bear (message)  175 posts, Blushing bee

@anabanana: oops, sorry I missed this comment earlier. I would be willing to sell them, I just have to go and count them so I know exactly how many I have. :)

 


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Mrs. Gummi Bear Mrs. Gummi Bear, San Francisco Age and Occupation: 25, Japanese Importer/Illustrator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Game Developer/Programmer Engagement Date: April 15, 2006 Wedding Date: October 13, 2007 Blogging Since: June 19, 2007 Venue: Organic farm an hour from San Francisco About Me: I live for anthropologie, design blogs, sweets, japanese zakka, and vintage goods. We just bought our first home together and live with our two puppies and cat - it's a strange mixture of vintage, high-tech (we have 7 computers and 21 video game systems in all), and a whole lot of fur. Our wedding tries to embody the Japanese idea of "slow life", which is truly taking the time to enjoy food, company, and your environment!
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