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Here we are a little over three months out and it has finally happened. After planning for months and months I have finally hit a full blown wedding roadblock. I have heard of it happening to brides before—when you get to the point where the planning has taken on a life of its own, and the to do list is so long it’s flat out overwhelming.
And that’s exactly where I am.
There are calls to be made, paper to be cut, items to be designed and I just have no clue where to start. I was on a roll for a bit, I’ve shared some of the projects I have completed, but for every one of those there is another only half done, and two others yet to be started.
It all began with those crazy menus. I felt so accomplished when they were all done. I worked to achieve a perfect design I love, cut and assembled all 200+ of them and then proudly showed them off to my MOH. And what did she notice that five others before her had not? My beautiful menus listed wedding cake as our “DESERT” instead of DESSERT!!! I almost cried. All the hours I had put in were wasted. Mama Cloud and many other bees were supportive telling me not to worry, people might not even notice. But I can’t do that. I’m way too much of a perfectionist to knowingly put out menus with that kind of error on them.
And that’s where I came to a screeching halt. I’m dwelling on these crazy menus (even though replacement paper has already been ordered) and I can’t figure out what to do next for fear of messing up again. I know in my mind that I’m being a little crazy, but I just can’t move on to the next thing!
Did anyone else hit a roadblock in planning? How did you get past it?
If it makes you feel better, I forgot to put when people should rsvp by and while two other people looked at it before I did them all no one noticed. They didn’t even notice when we were assembling the invites to mail out. I realized what I had done about 2 weeks later, after they had already been mailed. Oops!
Just keep moving forward. Mistakes happen!
i’m sorry! Sometimes, your mind plays tricks on you. since i was working on my invites months before my Jan. 2, 2009 wedding, NO ONE noticed a mistake I had made until my hubby called me telling me that one of his coworkers told him our date said Jan. 2, 2008!!!!!! most people didn’t notice, but I had to make new ones for our keepsakes.
I was SO mad at myself and the fact that I’m a journalist didn’t help either. I just had to laugh it off, because at that point, if I didn’t I probably would have gone CRAZY. You will get through it!!! mistakes happen! 
I hope this story makes you feel a little better:
My soccer club ordered around 1000 t-shirts one year and we got a sponsor to pay for them if we let them say “Official XYZ Sports Medicine Club”. T-shirt day arrived and all of the shirts were passed out to the kids. Little kids start poking their coaches in the side. “Hey they misspelled something”. The t-shirts all said “Offical”. We sent all the t-shirts back and they just slapped a screenprint over the Offical line with a new “Official” print.
Perhaps you can find clear filing labels and print some stickers to change that one “s” into “ss”.
I just stopped planning anything for a while - we went on dates insrtead! and caught up with friends we had been missing Then the next project I decided to tackle was something I could get excited about (the honeymoon of course!) I am so amped up now that we booked it, I’m actually excited to move on to those other projects again. Now instead of freaking out that we’re 2 months out, I just remind my self that in only 2 short months I get to take an awesome vacation with my new hubbie!! just keep breathing - this too shall pass
Our wedding is not until February, but our venue is closed for the next two months because the sewers lines in and around it collapsed. I feel like I shouldn’t put forth any more effort until I find out if we have to change venues, even change our date. The above comment about stopping to take a break is really good though, and going on dates.
breathe! you will get all of it done- just concentrate on one thing at a time
Aw! I forgot the put “invitation to follow” on my save-the-dates and as feared people keep telling me they got our “invite”! Of course, I embarrassingly tell them the formal invitation will come in a few months.
You will be ok my dear. Take a breather, do something for yourself and get back on it. 
Start and finish one thing at a time so you don’t feel like nothing is done. Instead you will feel accomplished.
I sometimes run into this problem at work and I try to pick an easy project that I know how to do - insta confidence rebuilder!
I ditto Mrs. Champagne’s sentiments, and I think that fanatic888 has a good idea.
Sometimes it helps to know how others have messed up so that you know that you’re not the only one, so I hope this helps. I am the groom, and I too, tend to be a perfectionist. I had the invitations all printed and cut, ready to be assembled when I noticed at 10:30 at night, I had spelled my own mother’s name as Mr.s FirstName LastName. I sat around for a good 30-40 minutes trying to figure out a solution and being mad at myself. Needless to say, I had to start all over.
Hang in there. Eventually, you’ll be able to look back and laugh, but take a moment and breathe. I was so afraid to do anything else for a while in fear I would screw up again. But remember your support of your fiance and family.
Best wishes to you!
Yes, I hit it too! My advice-give yourself 2-3 weeks off. Set a date to get back into it. So you get your break and you also don’t feel guilty for not doing stuff these next couple weeks Everything will come together the way it was meant to be.
Write daily to-do lists that are completely realistic, and tackle things one step at a time…too many goals, when left unaccomplished, adds to the overwhelmed feeling!
Maybe you can add a small 2 to the top right corner of the S in your “DESERT”?
So like in math, S^2 = SS…
sometimes when i feel overwhelmed but taking a break is just not an option (like if there is a clear deadline…i’m lookin at you, invitations…) i will tell myself, tonight at 6, i’m going to put stamps on all the envelopes. and thats it.
but once i’ve taken that first step, its much easier to keep going. just doing that ONE thing makes me feel like i am in control!
this has happened to me several times in the last few months of planning. i just had to take a deep breath, write a huge list of projects, and just focus on doing one at a time. being able to see a large list (i made it poster size on my office door), and being able to cross items off one by one really helped me visualize what needs to get done!
ah man I hate when typos happen - I did that on invitations to a different party because I was so rushed to get them printed.
the best way I have coped with wedding planning burn out is to simply take a break. even with three weeks left I have been forced to take a weekend off. and now I’m starting to outsource and I already feel better knowing that it’s somebody else’s job now! haha
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Mrs. Cloud, Richmond Age and Occupation: 25, Sales Rep Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Customer Service Manager/DJ Engagement Date: February 14, 2008 Wedding Date: November 2009 Venue: Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel About Me: Mr. Cloud and I are Yankees planning a Southern wedding to show our families from Boston and New York our fabulous city. We are complete opposites, resulting in a wedding to include bridesmaids in pearls and groomsmen in Adidas shell toes. I’m a sorority girl at heart with strong addictions to my blackberry, cherry Chapstick, Coach purses, the Boston Red Sox and our fur baby, Bella. I can’t wait to the throw the party of our lives and of course, marry my best friend!
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