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I am stressed. There is no hiding it, no pretending that I am not… this wedding is stressing me out. I am getting things accomplished (soon I will have oru invitations to share) but wow, are weddings stressful.
I am suffering from severe blog guilt (anyone else know what that is like)? My wedding/life/job/recent move is stressing me out and it is affecting my blogging. I am overwhelmed, nervous that things won’t be perfect, scared that people will think that things are halfway done… and the worries go on and on and on.
(I need this! Ha ha - love the old ad.)
Some days I want to just run away from the wedding and elope. I won’t, because I have put so much work into things and I know that everything is going to be wonderful… not perfect, but wonderful.
I am still 2 whole months away from the wedding and I think that is part of the problem. I have been writing for a long time about this wedding and it isn’t like I am running out of things to say… it is that there is SOOOO much to say. I think I just need to get my act together.
Mr. AC and I moved in together on Friday. It is the first time we have lived together in our 6 year relationship. I hate moving, but I am so excited to be in the same place as Mr. AC. There are a lot of emotions associated with moving for me, though. I am leaving my amazing New York City apartment to move to a borough (Queens… for those of you not familiar with NYC - this is a HUGE change). I am leaving my roommate and best friend Patrick, who has been NYC to me. Living with Mr. AC will be less stressful. He calms me down, he cooks, and he is incredibly helpful with DIY projects. I know that things will get better, but it is a bit tough right now.
I had to vent and I had to apologize. You are all stepping up to the plate, creating great blogs, adding great comments and sharing wonderful projects. I have a lot to share in the coming weeks but just had to get the feelings out there… I never thought I would be one of those people to say weddings are stressful… BUT, THEY ARE!
Has anyone else felt this way? Any advice? Thanks for listening! And more to come from me soon!
Awww, thanks for sharing, AC! Hope you’re having an amazing time getting used to living with your mister — we had a blast learning each other’s bizarre daily habits and preferences back in March.
AC you basically expressed where I am at perfectly. I am so behind on my blogs and have a to-do list out the window of a 10 story building. Get done what you need to get done and you can always share a little bit later if it relieves some stress. It happens to the best of us. Pretty much weddings are crazy!!
heck yes! I am two months out too and things are getting terrible. I just want it to be over with. I want the day to be great, but at this point I am caring less and less because it’s all just too much. whatever happens happens, and i’m sure it will all come together somehow.
HUGS!! your wedding will be wonderful!! Congrats on moving in with Mr. AC!!
I totally feel your pain!! Shouldnt there be a warning label with the ring, something along the lines of “WARNING: you might love wearing this ring, but it will not cure the stress caused from the actual wedding planning!”
Don’t feel bad! I still have stuff on my to do list from May that is not done! We just bought a condo and are moving with 2 months to go. Whose bright idea was that, anyways!!?
Wedding planning is stressful, but sometimes I think it becomes a bigger deal in our heads than it actually is. Deep breaths. No one expects your day to be perfect. They just want to be there with you on your day and to have a good time. Whenever I get stressed I think about that. But it doesn’t stop the bad wedding hair dreams from happening! : )
Yes, because 5 months later, 3000+ driving miles later and not for lack of trying (!) we are still w/o a venue. Next time we’ll be back there is Thanksgiving, nine months before the date we want. Which really stress me out for a big city like NYC. Sometimes I wish I had it in me to just go down to City Hall, but that’s not the kind of wedding I/we! want. Or I wish I can be one of those brides that says “screw it” and just make everyone else travel to come to US. But that’s not me or us either. =(
Tips? Keep on keeping on? And ask hubby to be for help! A kiss and a movie night always helps me out. =)
@Miss Cloud: Haha, Miss Cloud.
Yes, I often feel overwhelmed at the two-month mark. I actually find that blogging about it gets some of my thoughts out and organized and I come back to my to-do list rejuvenated and inspired. But some days I really just want to crawl under my blankets and hide!
Hope Queens and your mister are treating you well 
Thank you so much for this post! I am also getting married in October and I have hit my breaking point. I can’t seem to get my future husband to understand exactly how this feels and that’s making things worse. It’s a comfort to know that I’m not alone and/or crazy and that this is normal. Hang in there and I will try to do the same!
Oh, Apple Cider, I hope you are able to de-stress soon! A zen-like calm came over me the week of the wedding (OK, 1 melt-down at the rehearsal), but you just have to do 2 things-a)let go–you cannot do everything, but everything will still be great & b)delegate, delegate, delegate. The people who love you WANT to help. Get your bridesmaids, groom’s parent (I owe them big!), your FI to pitch it!
Just take a deep breath and relax! It’s okay to take some time away from thinking about the wedding…just make sure to come back! You’ll be rejuvinated and ready to tackle anything.
My fiance and I moved in together last summer, and it IS a big change. It takes some getting used to, but it’s so wonderful too! Good luck!
I feel the same way! LOL. I’ve wanted to quit planning so many times. We’re only 34 days away and the stress hasn’t decreased. But everyone says to breathe, it’ll all come together in the end. I believe it will too. =)
Hey, AC!
As someone who grew up in Queens, you’re still living in NYC Just not in Manhattan. One thing I’ve learned is that life happens. Take deep breaths. Blog when the spirit moves you. The universe is unfolding as it should (by the way, I’ve been feeling kinda zen lately..can you tell?). We all love you here and welcome your posts when you have time.
I had several breakdowns, lapses in bloggin and feeling overwhelmed stressed and strained. I took it out on my family and fiance, and it was rough!
Sometimes taking a break is what you need. What i found was a weekend away from DIY projects, prioritizing my time, and just doing a little bit at a time (of anything) helped and allowed me to check things off my lists. I lived on lists and google docs for a lot of the wedding planning and it helped!
take it easy.
I feel you 10,000%. I moved out of Manhattan to Hoboken and it is not the same, especially on the weekends. But… you get accustomed and discover new things you never knew were out there.
Thank you for letting me know I am not alone! Thanks for sharing
Awe AC we love you and totally understand You’re SO not alone - Saturday marked the beginning of the month I will get married! OMG! We moved Mr Frenchie into the apt we’ll be living in and I have to many projects. I did one the other day and forgot to take a single picture :-/
aww I totally feel you. I’m a year away and I already feel stressed. There’s no hope for me LOL. I kid. Sometimes I just take a step back - have a day or two that’s wedding free to help me center myself and get back on track. If you can do that once or twice, it might help. Good luck!
I live in Astoria, Queens! It’s not bad out here Miss AC… we have amaaaazing food, a fun mix of cultures and families and “young professionals”/mostly actors. (and more space for less rent!) And seriously, it’s 20 min to midtown, 10 to 59th and Lex. Welcome! and take the extra train time to read something un-wedding-related to clear your mind- Come back to us when your ready
2 months out is I think when you most stressed- I am getting married next weekend and now that things are set set, I am calmer than I have been in months!
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Mrs. Apple Cider, New York/Charlotte Age and Occupation: 27, Corporate Communications Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Grad Student – Clinical Mental Health Engagement Date: September 13, 2008 Wedding Date: October 2009 Venue: Banner Elk Winery & Blueberry Villa About Me: I am a North Carolina girl with a New York City spirit. I love crafting, blogging, laughing and dreaming. I know every word to the Anne of Green Gables and Little Women movies. I own every single Martha Stewart Wedding Magazine and have been dreaming of weddings since I was little. I believe life is about doing what makes you happy. If you aren't happy re-evaluate what you are doing. You should never look back on your life and not be proud of what you are doing. If you want to travel - travel. If you want to sing - sing. If you want to start a company - start a company. If you want to blog – blog!
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