Weddingbee Blog

Until I created my Weddingbee application, I hadn’t really ever blogged before. I had only dipped a toe into the “blogosphere” at a previous job and couldn’t fathom that anyone would be interested in what I had to say. I’m certainly not an expert in anything (unless we’re talking PB frosting) and what useful insight could I offer to the faceless internet?

Then, Mr. D and I started going through the K1 visa process. It was rough; we didn’t really know what to expect, and didn’t know a soul who had gone through the entire process. What makes the application worse is that unlike in the movie The Proposal (heck yes we saw it!) you never actually speak to an actual immigration official till the very end. Even then it’s only the immigrant (him) and not the sponsor (me). All you can hope for is a letter followed by other letters.

I had been Googling to find personal stories of the process, for someone other than a forum of conspiracy theorists saying, ”He had a speeding ticket 7 years ago?!?! He’ll be denied!!!” to tell me their story, what happened in their process. But I kept striking out.

Of course, I was also looking (I think for centerpieces) and stumbled across one of Mrs. Avocado’s posts.

I didn’t really “get” Weddingbee at first.

I distinctly remember thinking, ‘Oh… this updates too much for me, I’ll never keep up!’ Riiiight. Then I was hooked, because of all the things Weddingbee is, it certainly isn’t “faceless”. I began to think that maybe there were other brides who felt just as alone as I did in this whole K1 visa blahbity blah. So I began to write. I wrote without knowing if I’d be accepted. I wrote without knowing an ounce of what I know now about the Visa process. In doing so, I’ve found so many other brides who have felt just as lost, confused, and overwhelmed at the giant bureaucracy standing in between them and their marriage.

It’s so nice now, on the other side of one visa hurdle (yet, about to mount another) to be able to say, “It’s okay, it’s long and sucky and you spend a lot of time writing checks and waiting for letters, but eventually it’ll happen.”

Your comments (especially on the visa posts) have helped me to feel so much less alone (both in visas and in wedding planning!) in a confusing and mind boggling process. Thanks for being there for me, and I hope that I’ve been able to be there for you, too.

Do you blog? Why’d you start?