- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee Blog
My name is Miss Cloud and I am a Facebook wedding stalker. It’s true, I admit it. And I’m fairly certain this is not a normal behavior. I just can’t help myself—if anyone has a big white dress in their profile picture, I will be checking out every single one of their pictures in hopes for another peek at the wedding. Even if I don’t know them and my only glimpse of said white dress is from a tiny picture next to a comment they left on a wall somewhere. It’s gotten out of control, really.
The other day, while doing my regular FB stalking, I noticed that a friend of a friend got married a few weekends ago. The wedding was gorgeous, the outdoor ceremony was right before sunset, with a reception that followed at a local hotel. The bride was glowing, and the groom shed a few tears, and no one in attendance even posted any ugly cry face pictures. But while I was looking at the pictures, I couldn’t help but remember the last time I had seen the bride. It was shortly after Mr. Cloud and I had gotten engaged, and she wasn’t even dating anyone at the time. The lovely bride and groom whose pictures I was lovingly stalking hadn’t even known each other as long as we have been planning our wedding! A very familiar pang of jealousy struck me pretty hard.
It all made sense when we started planning.
I was in school, Mama and Papa Cloud were moving, and a couple of the guys we wanted to be in the wedding party were serving oversees in the military; a long engagement just made sense. I did not think that 20 months would be a big deal. I thought it would fly by! I had a shiny ring to be excited about, right? Uh, no. I’m over it. I’m over the planning and I’m ready to be a Mrs. already! Don’t get me wrong, I am really happy for the friends who I have seen get married since then (or stalked on Facebook since then). I’m just not a patient enough person for all of this! And I just can’t keep the jealousy monster away. I’m just ready for it to be US. I am still really, really excited about our wedding, but I just do not know how I am going to get through the next three months!
Is anyone else feeling like this? Are you ready to be married after being engaged for (what feels like) forever? Or do you love the anticipation of waiting for your big day to arrive?
Oh, honey, I’m soooo over it! The things I still have on my to-do list are really detail-oriented, and I’m having a hard time staying focused on getting it all done!
I’m starting to feel this way too. We got engaged in March 2008 and would have had to start planning right away to have a Summer 2009 wedding. I had no interest in rushing to plan a wedding, and we had zero money to do it anyway.
I felt perfectly fine about my decision to have a 2+ year engagement and get married in June 2010. We had already been together 5 years when we got engaged and 7 years before marriage didn’t seem like that big of a difference.
However, now I am SO tired of hearing “why did you wait so long to get married?”, “your wedding is SO far away!” etc. I feel good that we took it slow and took plenty of time to save money so that we wouldn’t have to go into debt. But I feel that others have pushed me into thinking I have waited too long, and I’m afraid that some have lost enthusiasm for it since we’ve been planning for so long. We’ll see how the next couple months go…
We weren’t engaged too long, all things considered (11 months), but I definitely reached a point where I just wanted to get married already!
lol! I am so glad that I am not the only person who stalks weddings on facebook. Ms. Cloud, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!! I’m not sure if I should openly admit that either, but if it makes you feel any better. My fiance always makes fun of me when he sees me do it and says,”do you know those people?” and I say, “nope!”
I get married this Saturday and it has been a long time coming. I cannot wait and if it came any later, we would have eloped!!! We are so on the same page!!!
My hubby and I were engaged for 17 months and we were excited about the long engagement also. We are very busy people and needed a lot of time to plan. But it was around the 3 month mark that I was like, “OMG can it be here already??” But then when it was the 2-week mark, I panicked and wished for more time. Don’t worry - the panicky part was because I felt like I needed more time to coordinate things, not a second thought on my wedding 
Enjoy the time!
Although I am not engaged, I know exactly how you feel. My bf and I have become professional wedding-goers. Seriously. We’ve been dating for nearly three years now, and I’d say we’ve attended about 10 weddings within that time frame. And we “regrettfully declined” two invites! Of course I am thrilled to be a part of so many of our friends special days, but it does bring up feelings of jealousy…especially since we’ve been dating longer than some of the newly married couples. Like you said perfectly, I’m just ready for it to be US. Can’t wait to hear all about YOUR special day…the three months will FLY by.
Over. It. So over it. My list of lovely little details has already fallen by the waste side. They were a lovely little touches but when push comes to shove I just don’t care about them. Bring on the wedding! And even better, bring on the marriage!
On the one hand, I like the anticipation. I liked dating, and right now I like being engaged. But I, too, feel the jealousy strike sometimes. For the last four or five months of dating (before we got engaged), whenever I saw a fellow student at my university — especially if they were my own age — wearing an engagement or wedding band, I would turn a brilliant shade of emerald inside. I think the fact that I’d known an engagement was coming for over two years helped make me impatient, but still. Not the most admirable quality. Sigh.
It doesn’t happen as much with our wedding. Sure, I’m jealous of the IDEA of getting married now…and I want to be married…but it’s just completely not an option for us right now. We’re waiting until we graduate (so, three years, sigh) for financial and parental reasons. I know it’s best for us in the long run, but you’re right, Miss Cloud, it gets REALLY annoying sometimes! =)
I click on every wedding picture I see on facebook too!! I thought I was the only one! But there’s definitely been a lot of people to get engaged after us that are getting married before us. It can get frustrating after a while.
I totally understand! Our engagement will be over a year long and although I know it’s a longer than average engagement, it still gets under my skin a little when people get engaged after us and then plan to get married before us.
Oh, I know how you feel about being OVERIT. I was tired of planning and waiting. The day always seemed so far in the distant! But as the months turned into weeks, it seemed that we had no time to do anything! So, I guess, breathe, get what you need to do done, ahead of time. That’s dumb for me to say, because I know you are really organized. Just wanted to give you a shout out to say I totally understand, Miss C!
I have been engaged for five months, and already I have seen at least 3 couples get engaged and plan weddings for before when mine will be! But as I keep reminding myself, it’s not a race to the finish line… it was a race to the ring!! (KIDDING!… or am I?)
And as for the Facebook stalking, well, I’m with you. Though, as a hint, it’s much easier on MySpace where more profiles are public Hehehe!
We also have friends who met, dated, got engaged, and then married in the two year span that we have been engaged. I’m over it, too!
I was so there. We had an 18 month engagement and it seemed painful. I promise your day will be here soon. At one point I just had to embrace it- crap or not. It’s the only time you can jump into the wedding planning pool so enjoy it while you can. And I PROMISE it’s all worth it!
I’m so over it too. We’ve had a 20 month engagement too and I’m just ready to move on with the next phase. Good luck, the last three months go really fast.
Haha, YES ABSOLUTELY! Honey, we’ve been engaged for 23 months now! I have a similar situation. A good friend is in Iraq right now and won’t be back untilt he end of the year, so my hopes of getting married this October were not a possibility. I am so eager to be able to call Mr. HS my husband. I get twangs of jealousy like that too. Especially when I see a couple desecrate the whole rite of marriage! That really gets me. Anyways, you’re not alone!
I love looking at FB wedding pics! Something about taking a peek at someones special day makes me more excited for my own.
We are having a 20 month engagement, and so far I’m enjoying it a ton. I only get to be ‘the bride’ for this 20 months, I get to be a wife forever. We were only dating 8 1/2 months when we got engaged, so I guess that helps it not feel like it is dragging also.
I totally know what you mean…
We have friends who’ve gotten engaged after us and have set the date before ours (we’re having a 22 month engagement, 14 left to go!) and it definitely gets me a little green too… just knowing they’ll get married before us even though WE got engaged first *sigh* what can ya do? At the very least, I can take pleasure in knowing that I can listen in on the guest critisizm at their wedding and try to make ours that much better Lol.
OMG I SO feel your pain! Due to both of us being military our engagement lasted 3 (yes THREE) YEARS! That translates to 3 years of planning, 3 years of changing my mind, 3 years to be severely OVER IT by the time it finally got here (Finally married 2 weeks ago!). I don’t know how many times I begged my husband (hehe) to just elope! To his credit he forbid it… knowing I wanted my actual princess wedding. In the end it was everything I envisioned and I wouldn’t have changed anything, but boy did it take forEVER to actually get here
I am also a wedding facebook stalker. In fact, if it makes you feel better, I have cried over pictures that were so beautiful…..from a wedding of people I don’t even know! My then fiance thought I was nuts! But, of course, I’ve been married for over a month and I’m still dong it
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Mrs. Cloud, Richmond Age and Occupation: 25, Sales Rep Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Customer Service Manager/DJ Engagement Date: February 14, 2008 Wedding Date: November 2009 Venue: Cathedral of the Sacred Heart & The Jefferson Hotel About Me: Mr. Cloud and I are Yankees planning a Southern wedding to show our families from Boston and New York our fabulous city. We are complete opposites, resulting in a wedding to include bridesmaids in pearls and groomsmen in Adidas shell toes. I’m a sorority girl at heart with strong addictions to my blackberry, cherry Chapstick, Coach purses, the Boston Red Sox and our fur baby, Bella. I can’t wait to the throw the party of our lives and of course, marry my best friend!
| Sun | Mon | Tue | Wed | Thu | Fri | Sat |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 29 | 30 | 31 | 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 |
| 5 | 6 | 7 | 8 | 9 | 10 | 11 |
| 12 | 13 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 17 | 18 |
| 19 | 20 | 21 | 22 | 23 | 24 | 25 |
| 26 | 27 | 28 | 29 |
Latest Gallery Pics