Asking Them All Over Again

Back in February, after Mr. Poodle and I started our visa petition, we couldn’t wait to share the news of our engagement with everyone!

Because not all of my girls here in Chile can buy a ticket to go to our wedding in California, I decided that my side of the wedding party would consist of my little sister and best friend from Chile, along with my other 2 ‘maids from California. I wrote everyone an email and asked them to be my ‘maids, but just like Miss Bear Cub, I did that months ago—but I needed to let them know in a more “official” way that I REALLY wanted them there with me smile030.

SO, I jumped on the card bandwagon!

I knew I wasn’t a good card maker, so I needed something really simple—something that I could pop the question again in and also where I could have plenty of room to write about the dresses I wanted to make for them, let them know each others’ information (since two of them are from Chile), and send them a little piece of the dress fabric. This was my sketch idea:

This is the finished result. I had old, purple ribbon and white, thick paper to use. I also found a (not very cute) green paper. I first drew and then cut the little dresses, and I also used a tiny piece of tulle for my veil smile030.

As you can see, I lack the handwriting gene – but don’t worry, that’s the reason I’m not doing our envelopes… (hopefully my girls will not mind).

It took me around a half hour to get the 4 of those done (2 cards in Spanish and 2 in English). I was really happy to send them out!

How did you ask your ‘maids to be a part of your wedding party? Do you have long distance BMs? How are you handling the coordination with the distance between you?


Mrs. Poodle

Santiago, Chile/San Bernardino, CA
Wedding Date:
January 2010
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  1. star Member
    star 659 posts, Busy bee @ 3:03 pm

    Totally adorable!! What do you mean, you can’t make cards??

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    bruschetta 5565 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:03 pm

    So cute, Poodle! And whatcha talking about? I like your handwriting!

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    bearcub 1561 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:05 pm

    so cute! I love your phrasing, too – “there’s someone missing!” :)

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    september wedding 113 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:08 pm

    Love it! So perfect! And adorable!

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    ChiDIY 184 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:10 pm

    I think I may just join the “ask all over again” trend… I was too excited to keep it in and blurted it out over the phone or in person. I want something more special to let them know that it is REALLY important to me! I love the card idea!

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    nicrob007 119 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:10 pm

    WOW! such a sweet gesture (and doubley sweet looking cards!)

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    Mrs. Mouse 5761 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:15 pm

    These are so cute! I like that they look handmade. I just love the “someone’s missing” theme!

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    dewdrop 381 posts, Helper bee @ 3:15 pm

    So cute!

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    miss longhorn 236 posts, Helper bee @ 3:20 pm

    Those cards are super cute! I made a card in the shape of a dress and I made a hole punch on the side of the dress, where I tied a pink ribbon. Then, I wrote this poem that I found: The day, the dress
    The bride, the groom
    The joy, the tears
    Will all come so soon

    Professing true love
    To my husband-to-be
    With family and friends
    All watching me

    I hope the sun will
    Be shining down,
    Keep your fingers crossed
    That I’ll fit in my gown…

    But there’s just one more thing
    that there needs to be…
    and that’s to have you
    Standing with me!
    (Name), will you be my bridesmaid?

    But, I haven’t actually given them to the girls yet! I’m so excited!!

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    Newport Nuptials 1268 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:20 pm

    So cute, all of your projects are amazing. :)

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    iswimibikeirun 1012 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:21 pm

    Very well done . . . of course you were able to incorporate your sewing skills!

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    evelinej 370 posts, Helper bee @ 3:24 pm

    I like the purple ribbon around the front of the card.

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    Gator 607 posts, Busy bee @ 3:25 pm

    I wish I would have seen this before I sent out my bridesmaid’s letters! I had been looking everywhere for a cute card and I never thought of making one myself. I love these!

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    missvintage 571 posts, Busy bee @ 3:44 pm

    Those are lovely! I especially love the “missing” dress.
    I ordered my “will you be my bridesmaid?” cards through an etsy artist, they were super affordable (like ridiculously so) and very sweet!
    Here is the link to the seller and my cards, in case anyone is interested:

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    eileen marie 1644 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:50 pm

    Those are great! Simple, but well done. (You usually only hear “pop the question” in reference to becoming engaged–made me :).) The “veil” is precious! Are the purple dresses made from the fabric you are using, oh crafty one? Your handwriting is great. If these were for sale-I would buy them! (I did the
    Photoshopped ugly dress card as thank yous for my BMs–thanks Mrs. Kitten!)

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    MexicanGirl 724 posts, Busy bee @ 4:03 pm

    so cute! i love the little fabric stitches, that suits you very well!

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    lauralou852 516 posts, Busy bee @ 4:12 pm

    I love them!! I made each of my girls a scrapbook with all of the pictures throughout our friendship. There was a card at the back of the book telling them why I valued their friendship and love and officially asking them to be my bridesmaid!

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    perfume 82 posts, Worker bee @ 4:14 pm

    so sweet, Miss P!

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    frenchbulldog 1088 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:15 pm

    Seriously, what are you talking about w/ you can’t make cards and the handwriting gene? Sister, the card is adorable and your handwriting is very pretty :)

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    candycorn 628 posts, Busy bee @ 4:23 pm

    These are so freaking cute. Love the detail with the ribbon. You are such a thoughtful gal :)

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    LovestheBear 1250 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:29 pm

    So cute! You do not have the bad handwriting gene!

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    Miss Hot Sauce 1026 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:36 pm

    very cute!

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    LatteLove 5567 posts, Bee Keeper @ 5:00 pm

    the cards are adorable…and your handwriting is much better than mine!

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    notsojenny, Guest @ 5:51 pm

    those are some of the most creative cards i’ve seen anyone do! great job!

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    cloud 800 posts, Busy bee @ 6:16 pm

    You underestimated your card making skills, these are super cute!! :) I didn’t do anything fun to ask my girls, but a year and a half later I think its too late!

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    ladybuglove 740 posts, Busy bee @ 6:19 pm

    very cute concept, excellent execution and terrific handwriting!!

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    Charm bracelet 1952 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:28 pm

    I like these. Very thoughtful. I heart the purple ribbon.

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    Bluegrass Bride, Guest @ 7:47 pm

    OMG…too cute, I think I may have to steal this idea!

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    crabcake 834 posts, Busy bee @ 8:55 pm

    Your handwriting is fantastic! And the cards are super cute too!

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    MsPeanutButter 139 posts, Blushing bee @ 9:17 pm

    i did cards too, and then i put something in there that each maid is “responsible” for on the wedding day like the music during hair and make up or the breakfast/mimosas, in charge of making sure i am ok…etc.
    they loved it! and i loved that all that day of stuff was taken care of.

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    Meridiachan 5 posts, Newbee @ 10:26 pm

    It always meant more to me when people hand write their letters anyways. The cards are so personal and cute! I love the little tulle veil! <3

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    mrspaetz 3812 posts, Honey bee @ 10:42 pm

    so adorable! love how you threaded the ribbon through the card. simple but very nice!

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    Serendipity 10356 posts, Sugar Beekeeper @ 10:43 pm

    These are adorable!

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    mszebra 365 posts, Helper bee @ 11:27 pm

    The little dresses are the cutest idea ever!

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    Mrs. DG 8491 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 11:56 pm

    Once again Miss Poodle raises the stakes! I hope you plan on putting all your crafty goodness to good use after the wedding. I think I have a DIY crush on you!

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    poodle 3386 posts, Sugar bee @ 4:09 am

    Thank you once again for cheering me up on my crafty attempts!! you have no idea how much all your sweet words mean to me :)

    @miss longhorn: That’s such a cute poem! :)

    @missvintage: Those are really nice cards

    @Mrs. DG: I think after all the crazy crafty wedding madness I’ll need something to focus on, I’m a sewing addict right now – and I don’t want to go rehab lol

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    slicey19 3500 posts, Sugar bee @ 4:10 am

    My bridesmaids are also spread out over two countries (NYC, MA, ME and Germany to be exact) and I am stressing over a dress solution. I wish I could make their dresses but my sewing skills are not good enough and I don’t have a sewing machine so that is out of the question. Now I need to find a dress and hope I can translate the size appropriately for the German BM since she’s not sure of her US size and while I would buy her a 6, she thinks she is an 8 or a 10. Anyone know of a company that sells the same dresses in the US and Europe and is not ridiculously expensive, H&M is all I can come up with and they do not have anything appropriate.
    Haha you also remind me that I promised them an official card to ask them to be my BMs post asking via email too. Thanks for that reminder.

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    Chris, Guest @ 7:46 am

    I sell “Will you be my Bridesmaid?” cards on etsy that are completely customized to your wedding colors. I’ve also had many requests for “Thank you for being my Bridesmaid!”

    They are a sweet and personal way to ask your closest friends to be a part of your big day!

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    pvaulter718 2116 posts, Buzzing bee @ 10:20 am

    The cards are great. Mygirls have been communicating via Facebook and e-mail for the most part. It works even though one is in China and on a completely wacked out time schedule.

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    kmattso2 1046 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:07 am

    Those look so cute!! I really wanted to do cute cards but I definitely blurted out when I called them and asked them that minute to be my bridesmaids. Maybe I’ll send out cards anyways, although it’s been like 4 months now…so probably not the best idea!!

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    HistoryBride 409 posts, Helper bee @ 3:02 pm

    You kidding? I love your handwriting! Those cards are great.

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    msbuttons 5014 posts, Bee Keeper @ 10:53 am

    Aww those are so adorable!!! I would have been so excited to get that card if I were one of your friends!

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    My Girls’ Dresses - Part 1: MOH » Weddingbee » The Wedding Blog, Guest @ 4:43 pm

    […] you all the inspiration dresses I found to show my girls, the trend I said I loved SO much, and the cards I made to re-ask them to be in my party? Well, in the cards, I sent them fabric samples so they could see […]

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