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I wish they could all just be happy for us, since we got our fiance visa petition approval. I’ve shared the amazing news with all my close friends and family. Now everyone that cares about us is just as happy as we are, and even screaming with me when I tell them. But then again, we’re also getting some bad vibes coming from some people that have heard the news somewhere.
I truly think I have just a few really good friends and life has showed me who they are (they really understand me and support us), but I am really friendly and have tons of people I know and have kept in touch with at some level. So from the beginning of our relationship, whenever I got negative comments from them, I’ve tried to just not listen or have politely asked them not to judge me so quickly. For the first year this worked just fine, but then it really started to bug me. I decided to have a line ready for those that wanted to rub in my face how naive I was for trusting Mr. Poodle the way I do. I would simply say, “If you don’t have anything good to say, I’d prefer for you to not talk about us at all,” and give them a big smile. Of course, on the inside, I wanted to punch them in the face. LOL
At one point it did really affect me and I wondered why people would judge our relationship and make awful comments when I never asked for their opinions—I wasn’t even sharing things with them. I was dealing with lots of things that happened to me last year, and of course, dealing with the long distance between us. 
Soon after that, I realized that most of the people that had said stupid things about us (mostly how he must have been cheating on me daily, since we were not even in the same country) were cheating on their girlfriends/boyfriends or didn’t want to commit to anyone on any level. Then I understood that they were just reflecting their own personal issues and trying to convince me of how terrible I was to believe in someone and love him no matter what.
Trust me, I’m not naive when it comes to the subject of cheating. I’ve been there and seen how much it can hurt. Plus, after finding out about how my ex cheated on me, all the bad family stories, and the fact that I haven’t even seen a good example of marriage in my own family—not even my Mom’s—it got me to the point where I didn’t want to trust anyone. That is, until I met Mr. Poodle. We had such a similar love background; we were both hurt before, but have managed to open our hearts to each other. To me, he’s the only man in my life I truly trust and the kind of love I’ve always dreamed of.
Nothing matters when you have such a deep connection. Not distance, color, religion, or language can get in the way. I didn’t choose who I was going to fall in love with, but I did choose to be faithful, loyal, and honest with him in order to keep our love healthy and growing.
I know I’m not the only one that has had to deal with awful comments about their relationships. Have you found yourself in that situation? What have you done about it?
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