An Old-Fashioned Kind of Love: The Wedding Party Photos

WHERE WE HAD LEFT OFF:

NOTE: As usual, my recap photos are from a variety of sources. All post-processing has been done by me with each individual’s consent and permission.

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NOTE: Some readers have expressed their disappointment in how glum some of my posts are. As a blogger, I am trying to accurately tell the story of my wedding. Not everything was perfect, and many things went wrong. However, as in any good story, a happy ending is happiest when it comes after a plot crisis. And, in the words of G.K. Chesterton,

“Fairy Tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.”

Take my posts as an example of what things can and do happen at weddings, but take it also to heart that is possible to have everything go wrong – and still remember your wedding day as one of the greatest days of your life.

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It was still raining. Bleh! Miserable and wet, my wedding party and I headed into the heart of Fort Langley to take our group photos. My father and I had explored the quaint town a few days earlier and had a ready list of photo locations should it rain. Since it was raining, I asked our photographer if we could go to those places. He shot down my suggestions, for reasons that are still unclear to all of us, preferring instead to take our photos in front of store windows.

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I liked the three photos above (except for their blurriness), but the rest that he took were duplicates of the same pattern: stand here, hold your hands. Next shop. I was so upset – especially because I had sent him an email full of inspiration photos for our portraits. He had said that he had looked at them all, but it was as if he had a list of the “THE TOP TWENTY WEDDING PHOTOS YOU MUST GET AT EVERY WEDDING” and he was unwilling to deviate from his checklist (this was even more apparent at the reception, where he took pictures of the cake, a centerpiece, us dancing, us cutting the cake, and then spent the rest of the time eating or at the bar).

I started crying and told him that we didn’t hire him so that I could get my photos taken in front of merchandise. Mr. Shortcake was steamed, but stood there helplessly, holding the umbrella over my head as the wind splashed wet leaves over the bottom of my gown.

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Many of you have commented on how I look so happy in my photos – I’ll let you in on a secret. The key to having a really realistic fake smile is to smile with your eyes, not just your mouth. This is a good tip at any wedding – you’re eventually going to get tired of smiling, and your cheeks WILL start to ache. Another tip – think of someone that you love! Can you guess who I was thinking of here? :)

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He finally conceded, and let us go to one of my rainy-day back-up locations: the CN train station.

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We took a couple of posed photos as a group, and were interrupted by a train rushing past the platform.

*idea!*

“Come on, girls!” I called to my bridesmaids, and we scurried over to the other end of the platform.

“Let’s hitch a ride!” I said to them, and hiked up my skirt, jamming my thumb skyward. My bridesmaids followed suit, and I called over to our clueless photographer, who was chatting with his assistant.

Quick thinking got us this:

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Not appreciating my directions, the photographer stalked off. Not appreciating the thousands of dollars wasted on him, Mr. Shortcake and I headed for my favourite spot – the 1950s soda shop. I wiped my furious tears and sniffed at my new husband,

“I don’t care where he goes. I’m going to get a milkshake, whether or not we get photos of us!”

{to be continued}

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Mrs. Shortcake

Location:
Vancouver
Wedding Date:
October 2008
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    Miss Popcorn 101 posts, Blushing bee @ 10:37 am

    Girl! :) Any photographers on here willing/able to give Mrs. Shortcake a free After the Wedding Photoshoot? She certainly deserves it after all the problems with her photographer. :) Poor thing!

    However….the pictures you’ve shown look amazing…. I’m sorry it was a rough experience for you. And don’t feel bad telling the truth…you’re not complaining or being negative…you’re just telling the story. Many, many years from now you’ll be able to turn this into a hilarious comedy instead of the tragedy it might feel like now. :) Looking forward to more recaps.

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    poodle 3386 posts, Sugar bee @ 11:27 am

    I think your honesty on the post is amazing! I’m so glad you got this pictures :) You look stunning!

    I love that last picture!

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    BaghdadBride 352 posts, Helper bee @ 11:34 am

    I just want to say THANK YOU for being honest…and don’t let anyone tell you the way you should do your recap. I’ve read tons of recaps and everytime they start with “everything was perfect and it really was the best day of my life” I feel like it just adds to the pressure many brides feel to have this amazing day. I much more appreciate the recaps that show the good and the bad that happened.

    Most importantly you need to be true to yourself and your feelings and emotions at the time.

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    phruphru 184 posts, Blushing bee @ 12:24 pm

    I actually really LOVE your full bridal party shot (the one where you guys are in the train station). The wet ground just adds something to it and I love the way you’re leaning into Mr. Shortcake. I know you probably photoshopped the heck out of it to get it to look this pretty, but it’s still a lovely shot. Looking forward to more recaps from you. I echo Baghdad; I like your honesty.

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    margarita 369 posts, Helper bee @ 1:59 pm

    thats horrible about your photographer but i do love the last shot and you look gorgeous! :)

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    jennifer0031 128 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:54 pm

    I’ve loved the honestly in your posts. It reminds me that the most important thing is the marriage, not just the wedding day.

    I think your photographer is an idiot. I would hurt him. Luckily, you’re amazing with photoshop and the pictures look great!

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    MrsSaltWaterTaffy 24085 posts, Honey Beekeeper @ 1:08 pm

    I love the photos at the train station. I can’t believe that the photographer treated you that was and was so rude about following your suggestions. It is your city after all! You looked great in the pictures despite the dumb photographer!

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    lilythespitfire 114 posts, Blushing bee @ 8:57 am

    Hey Mrs. Shortcake. I just got married and I had a rather horrendous, epic fail sort of wedding day. Nothing went right and the maitre’d screwed up a lot. I have been so upset about it all, because I have almost zero things I can salvage for memories!!

    While my photog was great, the venue didn’t allow us enough time to take pictures and didn’t let us go beyond one small patch of grass for pictures. So we have almost no pictures of the two of us together…at all.

    So when I read your post, I felt like I finally met someone who was realistic and also had a similar experience to mine. Its really hard to reconcile what happened to what I’d planned and the disappointment is crushing.

    Hang in there and I hope that the pictures you did receive came out wonderful. I’m waiting not so patiently, so we’ll see.

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    msbuttons 5014 posts, Bee Keeper @ 2:58 pm

    Thank you for all of your honesty in your posts; it is really great to see how you handled yourself despite a less than perfect situation. This is a lesson for us all, because well…can everything honestly go smoothly on a wedding day???

    And by the way, I totally want to punch your photog in the face…if I would have been there, I seriously would have given him a stern talking to…

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