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… but, to the other side of the world?
{A little drawing by yours truly }
My family has always pushed me and encouraged me to follow my heart and do what makes me happy. But, in this case, we are not talking about pursuing a non-traditional career or taking up a new sport. This time, things will get a little extreme.
I will be moving 5,576 miles away!
Yup, I’ll pretty much be moving to the other side of the world. And even though my family is happy because they know I’ll be happy, there are still different emotions and stages we have all worked through together in order for them to understand my decision.
I am super close to my mom and sister. We are really good friends, and since my dad is not longer with us (he did not die, but left our lives a year ago), I’ve been their support. We have teamed up in order to stay together and strong. I feel I am truly blessed by them and it is not only hard for them for me to leave, but it is also hard for me to move away from them and start my new life and future family.
I know distance does not mean the loss of communication or love (my relationship with Mr. Poodle proves that), but I definitely won’t feel like I’ll be able to protect them the way I do now. Even though they try not to show me, I can feel the different emotions they feel every time we talk about my move.
The change in my life will be very drastic. I am leaving not only my family, but also all my friends and the people that have watched me grow through the years. I know moving is quite a normal step in everyone’s lives, and with the kind of technology we all have access to now, distance seems like a tiny detail. But I can’t help but feel the emotional roller coaster of being happy about finally being with Mr. Poodle, but at the same time, being sad about leaving everyone here in Chile.
I am the kind of person that smiles and thanks God for the blessings in my life every day - and every chance I can, I tell my family and friends how much they all mean to me, how much I love them, and thank them for touching my life and inspiring me. 
But lately, I’ve felt like I’ve needed to tell them all these things even more often—to hug them tighter and laugh with them even louder.
All of these future changes have made me appreciate the people I have around me now even more. I feel so blessed because I have them, and I am enjoying every minute I spend with them. I am taking advantage of every second I have to chat, share, and get together with them. And at the same time every day, I thank God because the moment when I’ll be reunited once again (and for good!) with the love of my life is getting closer. I feel really happy and excited about living with him and starting our new life together. It is a real mix of emotions.
Are you making a big move away from your family and/or friends when you get married? How do you feel about it?
Aww Poodle! I know it must be hard…
My partner is really close to his family, and he only had to move about 750 miles, but it was really hard on him. I can’t imagine moving as far as you are… And, I think it’s harder because you’ll be submerged in a completely different culture. But I also think that is part of the excitement of it!
It’s great that you are appreciating every single moment with your family!
I am. Just across the states though - nothing like 5k miles!
I’m… resigned.
I wish I could be happier about that part, but I can’t - I have never lived more than 3 miles from my family - and my family has lived in this area for at least 400 years.
So. we don’t tend to move a lot.
I’m excited about marrying my guy - my faltering on the move has nothing to do with him.
I’ve just got the best, most supportive and openly loving family in the world, and not seeing my mother every day just to hang out is going to be a huge change.
I’m such a mama’s girl. lol.
espero que te sientas mejor pronto 
disfruta mucho a tu familia ahora que estás en Chile y yo creo q ellos están felices de ver el amor entre Mr. Poodle y tú!
HUGS!
I can’t IMAGINE doing something that hard! I’m glad your family is being so understanding and supportive!
Poodles, I completely understand everything you are going through. My fi is English and when we first lived together I moved to London to be with him & then last year he moved to DC to be with me. We both know that where ever we end up settling down we’ll be on a different continent from at least half of our family & friends. It’s extremely difficult, but we know that it’s worth it to be together. Good luck with the move, and be open to whatever comes your way, who knows, a few years from now you & mr. poodle could be packing up and moving back to Chile… there are unlimited possibilities!
After meeting a wonderful Frenchman in Paris while teaching English there I decided not to leave! It’s now been 3 years since I moved to France and we’ll soon celebrate our 1 year anniversary 
I have no regrets and my family couldn’t be happier for us! Always follow your heart….
I meant to say we’ll soon celebrate our 1 year wedding anniversary. And although I miss my friends and family very much, it gives us (and them) an even better reason to travel!
Awww, Poodle. While I’ve never moved 5,000 miles away, I can only imagine that I’d follow my heart too. You’ll just have to become instant friends with all us California bees!!!
i’m feeling this post. while my move isn’t going to be far [plan on finally moving out of the family house on my own] i know i’ve been a huge emotional support for my mom so i know she’s a little sad about that. i’m also the protector in the house but eventually you’ve just got to do your own thing. i can’t stay there forever but it doesn’t make the decision easier.
good luck on your move!
Wow, this post seriously made me break into tears. I have a hard time with distance — especially from friends, and even more so my family. I think this post hit me because I see how hard this truly must be. My FI and I got in an argument about a month ago because of the location he wants to move. It’s about 6 hours from where we are currently located and it just devistated me to be that far from my family… 6 hour drive… that’s a 45 minute flight! I couldn’t imagine being the distance you will be but I can tell you are so strong! Good luck and I know we will benefit from your move because we will have you at a So Cal meet-up now!
I just moved from Georgia to Kentucky, and while it’s definitely not as far as across continents, I know it has been tough on my family and especially my mom. It’s probably also because we know that after the wedding, I will also be moving somewhere else (unknown as of yet) that may be even further away. I kind of treat it like an adventure, this new step in my life that I knew I would take at some point, but I know that my mom feels a little bit like she’s losing me, and it’s tough. Good luck on your move!
Aww, I hope your family will be able to visit you sometime! I love your little drawings….what program do you use?
I can’t imagine what it would be like to move so far away from your family and people you grew up with! I moved away from home when I was 18 to go to college and just kind of stayed there! But it was only 300 miles away. Maybe you an Mr. Poodle can both move to Chile together at some point?
I moved 2,200 miles away from where I grew up and where every single one of my family members still lives (aunts, uncles, grandparents included)
It has been a huge adjustment getting used to not seeing my family on a very regular basis, but I’ve gotten into blogging, and video chatting to stay in touch. It was well worth the transition but i think it will be especially hard when we have kids!
Oh I can’t imagine what you must be going through! Actually at we get married, we are moving closer to our families. Right now we are a 7 hour drive away and I feel like that is way too far!
What a difficult place to be in! I am so sorry you have to leave your family, and I hope someday all the loves in your life can be in one place!
We did this two and a half years ago. And even though we moved from LA to DC, it really was like moving to another country. Neither of us has family out here at all. Going home for us is an event. You can’t just jump in the car and trek for a day or two. But, we make the trip faithfully at least once (sometimes twice) a year.
Truth is that you’ve got to do what you’ve got to do. Make time to call every week, no matter how busy you are. It doesn’t hurt to talk about how hard it is with your family. Even though you can’t change it, you can at least know everyone is in the same boat. Definitely go home at least once a year. It is expensive, but gives everyone something to look forward to. Take all their calls, even if it’s to say ‘I’m in a meeting. Can I call you right back?” Send cards early and often. Here is when you learn that quality (not quantity) means more than ever.
Most importantly, talk with your Mr. about your feelings, cuz there will be lots of them. If his family is there, he won’t be able to identify. However, at least he can be a sounding board for you. That will make it a bit easier.
I really feel for you and wish you and your family nothing but blessings and happiness. It will get easier with time. I promise.
Poodle, you are so lucky to have such great friends (and soon to be family) all over the world. Although I am not in your situation, I know that my Mr. Gator would be worth it!
I’m in a similar boat. My husband and I were married on April 25, and on May 21 he left for a two year post at the US Embassy in Kabul, Afghanistan. I’ll be joining him there as soon as my clearances come through.
I’m not sure how I’ll feel being so far from my family. I’ve lived overseas before, but only for four months. And although I’m not currently living close to my parents or sister (I’m in DC, they’re in Albany, NY and Indianapolis), the distances aren’t so large that visiting is difficult. All that will change when I’m in Kabul, where I’ll be in lockdown on the Embassy compound and just going to the airport will require donning a bulletproof vest.
This will be a good test for my husband and I to see if we want to commit to a lifetime in the foreign service. Although the thought of living in exotic locales and raising international babies is enticing, the thought of not spending as much time with my parents - particularly while they’re in good health — is nearly unbearable.
*hugs* you just made me cry. your move is very bittersweet, but you’re lucky to have the love, understanding and support of your friends, family and mr. poodle. life is full of ups and downs, you just have to go with the flow.
thanks for reminding us to always follow our hearts and cherish those moments with our loved ones. it’s going to be even tougher as your move date approaches, but that’s good. you’ll know there will be great things to come after that.;=)
“This post reminds me of the beatles’ song, “there are places.” here’s a sample of the lyrics:
There are places I remember all my life,
Though some have changed
Some forever, not for better
Some have gone and some remain.
All these places have their moments
Of lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I loved them all.”
due to copyright issues, i can’t post the whole song, but it’s a really bittersweet song.
you’re an awesome person poodle, so no matter where life takes you, it will be an amazing ride!:-D
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Mrs. Poodle, Santiago, Chile/San Bernardino, CA Age and Occupation: 27, Industrial & Web Designer Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Firefighter & Mountain Patrol Engagement Date: February 25, 2009 Wedding Date: January 2010 Venue: Mr. P's Grandparents’ Ranch About Me: I’m a Chilean girl who's crazy about nature and swimming. I enjoy carving, drawing, reading and sewing; I drool over computers, fabric, pretty paper, purple and patterns. To me, chocolate should be one of the seven wonders, right next to lemon pie. I never thought an exchange work experience program was going to change my life forever, but while working in California, I met Mr. Poodle, and ever since my days are better and brighter. We are two goofy souls that, after finding each other, couldn’t help but want to be together forever. It has being a long and sometimes hard road, since we have to deal with such a long distance between us, but we are now facing the last stage of our Fiancé Visa, and soon we will be together. You know the best part? We will be married! So I’ll be blogging from Chile until just a few months before our “green and purple” wedding.
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