We haven’t sent out our invitations yet, but I’ve already received a few “nos” from friends after sending out our STDs. It’s this mixed bag of emotions. On one hand, we do need some people to say “no”, so we don’t go over our max capacity, so that’s good; on the other hand, we DO like these people, so we WANT them to come (I mean, after all, that’s why we invited them, right?). Of course, there are those “obligation” invites that you WISH would tell you they can’t come, but of course, those people sometimes come anyway (come on, I know you all have those people on your guest lists, whether they be parents’ friends, coworkers, or people you haven’t seen in a very long time).
So why am I thinking about the “nos” already? I just received an email from a friend we had asked to run sound at our ceremony and reception. This friend is REALLY talented at what he does, and I was really looking forward to having him there… and introducing him to some of my single friends (haha). Here is the twist: there’s ANOTHER couple in Phoenix that we know getting married on the SAME date as we are. Yeah, I know, date twins are no big deal (and NO, this is not Bride Wars 2). BUT, the big deal is more that we have a lot of mutual friends, and as you can imagine, there’s some conflict for those who will be invited to both. At any rate, several months after we had asked him to help out at our wedding and he accepted, the other couple asked him to usher at their wedding. So, I told him to do whatever he wanted; that we would love for him to be at our wedding, but I understood if he couldn’t make it. In short, he chose to go to the other wedding. So, that leaves us back at square 1 for sound.
But, back to dealing with rejection. Again, I’m reminding myself that our wedding isn’t the sun, and life does not revolve around it. Or us. I know that regardless of who is able to make it or not, Mr. Ramen and I will enjoy ourselves and have a super memorable day. Yes, I’m disappointed, and yeah, you want your favorite people to be able to celebrate this pretty freakin’ big deal occasion with you, But as long as my family is there and we’re all healthy, I’m good.
Are you receiving some surprise “no” responses to your wedding? How are you dealing with the emotional toll of it all?
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