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Mrs. French Bulldog, Orange County Age and Occupation: 28, Administrative Assistant & Interior Design Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Purchasing Analyst Engagement Date: November 8, 2008 Wedding Date: August 2009 Venue: Bernardo Winery About Me: I've lived in Atlanta, Dallas and Laguna Niguel; although I've lived in Orange County, CA most my life, I'm a Southerner at heart. I work full time for a Commercial General Contractor (aka my father) and I go to school for Interior Design at night. I love modern design, music, wine, crafting, DMailing, my family, my Westies, and of course, Mr Frenchie! Mr Frenchie and I met 3 years ago on Match.com and have been best friends ever since. I love his "old soul" and how he laughs with his whole body, among many other things. We are planning our summer wedding at the winery near his hometown, just 45 minutes south of Orange County.
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Nesting: Part 2, How ‘Bout Now?

September 18th, 2009 @ 5:36 pm by Mrs. French Bulldog

Since Mr Frenchie and I got married, two commons question have been, “Do you feel different?” and (because getting married also meant moving in together) “How is it, living together?”

Do I feel different? A little. Our officiant told us that after she pronounced us husband and wife and we walked back down the aisle, we would feel different. She said, “It’s the best feeling, I’m so excited for you.”



I’m content and I feel peaceful… that sounds weird, but there you have it. I’d say I feel more relaxed in my relationship with Mr Frenchie. I can’t really think of any other way to explain it, but I know he’s there and he knows I’m there and it will always be that way, no matter what life throws at us. That really is the best feeling. :)

How is it, living together? Guess what guys? I live with a boy. It’s not too shabby. Mr Frenchie’s told me he never had any concerns about living with me (I had to be better than his past roommates) and neither did I. We’re both pretty clean, one of us (me) more than the other (him), but it works. I have a cooking partner in crime. I’m not drinking wine alone after work; we can go out on our terrace (we like to call our balcony a terrace) and drink together. The best part is that at the end of the day I don’t have to hop in my car and go home. I’m already at home!

However, living with Mr Frenchie was never my concern. My concern was moving. A confession - I do not do well with change. True story - I moved to Huntington Beach about a year before I met Mr Frenchie. The difference in my commute and not knowing where everything was turned out to be such a shock to my system that I had a major anxiety attack and moved back. I was really worried I would freak out about living in a new place. However, I’m in a much better place in my life and, as I’ve explained before, our place is in a great location. I have pretty much the same commute, I know where everything is AND I’m actually closer to my favorite grocery store and other things. The best part is, I have Mr Frenchie. He can tell when something is wrong. He asks me how I’m doing, gives me a hug, and tells me everything is going to be all right and he’s here. He’s here, so I don’t know why I was ever concerned.

So, there you have it, almost one month into being married and not much to report. Does it feel different? Yes, a little. How is it living with a boy? Great!

Did you feel much different once you were married?

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22 Responses to “Nesting: Part 2, How ‘Bout Now?”

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Miss Star (message)  1,291 posts, Bumble bee

Aww, I’m so glad you wrote about this. Warm fuzzies! :)

 
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Mrs. DG
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Mrs. DG (message)  4,236 posts, Honey bee

I made a long board post about how different it is :)

 
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futurejet
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futurejet (message)  107 posts, Blushing bee

I just moved across the country to live with my FI and I have to agree with you. It is the best thing having him here to tell me it will be ok!

 
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Mrs. Espresso (message)  1,064 posts, Bumble bee

That picture of you two is so cute! You look so happy. :)

 
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jhguba (message)  239 posts, Helper bee

I am absolutely the same way about moving, Frenchie! Anxiety attacks, directionally challenged and all!

 
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FlipFlopBride
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FlipFlopBride (message)  1,305 posts, Bumble bee

I love your happy face in this picture! :) I moved in with FI a year and a half ago, and it’s been a difficult transition, but worth every minute. (I love not having to drive home every night!)

 
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Mrs. Dumpling (message)  650 posts, Busy bee

Thats something that I totally missed out on! We lived together for a few years before we got married and I wondered if by doing so i was denying myself a growing-up and getting married “rite of passage.” It IS great though, winding down the day with your hubby and knowing that he will be there, right by your side, in the morning. Congrats friend!

 
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bellenga
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bellenga (message)  4,662 posts, Honey bee

I can so relate Mrs. Frenchie to this post! So glad that you’re loving the married life but you’re so right. Change IS daunting. And it’s what I dread so much. But that initial first change of you two being married? You can see that in the happiness on your face in that pic above as you two are walking back down the aisle as Mr and Mrs!

I’ve been living alone now for seven years and also a single mom too and you just kinda get used to your “routine”. T is great, we’re awesome and I know it will be better in so many ways but I worry about having “my” space. But then again his place is bigger than mine. I just want the terrace level finished so I can have that little sanctuary of mine finished!

 
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BeachBrideT
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BeachBrideT (message)  1,056 posts, Bumble bee

I know exactly what you mean by content & peaceful, and more relaxed in the relationship. :) Yay!

 
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Miss_Carmel
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Miss_Carmel (message)  317 posts, Helper bee

I’m not married yet, but I think it will feel different and we’ve been together for 6 years. I imagine that all of the little things will pop back into my head as being “firsts”. As in: this is the first time that my HUSBAND took me on a date, or this is the first time that my HUSBAND cooked me dinner when I came home late from work. I hope that you are feeling the newlywed bliss that I imagine it to be. :)

 
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His Barista
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His Barista (message)  1,844 posts, Buzzing bee

Warm fuzzies and happiness! What a cute post!

 
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Jenna

Congrats on being blissfully wed!

Tomorrow, well actually today since it’s after midnight, is our 1 month anniversary. Everyone, and i mean EVERYONE has been asking me “how’s married life”, “do you feel different?”. These questions at first were great, I still got to live the “bride” feeling over and over again, but after a while, it began to wear on me.

So now I’ve started making things up like “well he doesn’t hit me as much” or “he’s started putting his dishes right in the dishwasher instead of the sink”. Most people get it because they know I’m a sarcastic rascal, others just stare.

Thanks for sharing this, it’s nice to know someone else is experiencing the same thing I am.

I was talking to my girlfriend who is 300 months pregnant and she said to me that if one more person asked her if she was ready for the baby? had everything she needed? scared, tired, ready to pop etc she was going to scream.

I’m not trying to be a negative nancy, just sharing. :)

I do totally love saying “husband” though. Anytime anyone says “my husband” I’m like “oh oh I’ve got one of those! I’ve got a husband YAY!”.

 
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tea
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tea (message)  2,659 posts, Sugar bee

that’s such a cute picture of you two.

 
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Miss Moonbeam (message)  1,335 posts, Bumble bee

Cute pic Frenchie. I do like living with the boy, so much more time to snuggle.

 
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loveardently
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loveardently (message)  83 posts, Worker bee

Lovely!

Living together for me felt very different, especially because we were always on a long distance relationship during courtship :)

 
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ashleyewolfson
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ashleyewolfson (message)  40 posts, Newbee

I love living together, after a long day, what else do you want to come home to?

 
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LatteLove
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LatteLove (message)  4,120 posts, Honey bee

Getting married felt pretty incredibly different for me, especially because of our long-distance. It’snice to hear from a couple who didn’t live togethe rbefore marriage, because I can relate a little better.
I’m 3 months in (today!) and I can’t imagine anything different!

 
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miss longhorn
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miss longhorn (message)  238 posts, Helper bee

The picture is really cute! Thank you for writing about this. We’re not going to live together until after we get married, and although we’ve been together for six years, I’m curious how different things will be.

 
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Charm bracelet
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Charm bracelet (message)  827 posts, Busy bee

Oh Mrs. FB, I am so excited for you. I am glad to read that you waited to live together until after you got married. I sometimes feel that I’m the only one waiting. I am not worried about living with my future husband either. Like you, I can’t wait to just settle in be married.

 
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ColorCoated
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ColorCoated (message)  951 posts, Busy bee

Good for you, Frenchie!

 
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Miss Poodle
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Miss Poodle (message)  3,020 posts, Sugar bee

I am so looking forward to go thought that Frenchie :)

 
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fiftyfootbride
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fiftyfootbride (message)  3,809 posts, Honey bee

I so love your face in that picture. :)
I won’t have to worry about the change of living together, since we already do. I’m just excited to be able to relax with him again without having ‘wedding wedding wedding’ hanging over our heads.

 


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