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When we first got engaged, Mr. Parfait and I spent a night separately writing out our ideas of the “dream wedding”. If you can’t tell from the premise, this was totally my idea. 
We wrote what we’d choose for each element of a wedding if our budget, time, and resources were limitless, and then we compared our lists. Let’s start with Mr. Parfait’s notes, shall we? These are the quick notes he jotted down that night:
Music: A DJ that we know… but will play some of our favorite songs. I am sure if we started to record the ones we love together, we will have a nice list. I want to stay away from typical “white people” wedding songs. Does this make sense? I think it does.
Colors: Blue and white… the blue can be a contrast of blues, but they have to be the color of a blue rose. I think the color of a blue rose should be the basis for all napkins and silverware, etc.
Flowers: Blue roses everywhere… petals, too. White flowers can complement them. Blue and white will be the theme colors, and the flowers can really make this. Blue orchids? I think I would like this a lot. Since most blue flowers are dyed, it should be possible to get a variety.
Photographer: Someone who chooses interesting angles and colors. I really don’t see the need to pay someone to take everyday normal pictures. Ya kno’? I don’t know how to communicate this to the photographer, though.
Location: Someplace that has a classy feeling to it when you drive up. The decor on the inside doesn’t have to be as fancy, but I want people to feel special that they are coming into this place for our wedding. Getting married outside would be the best… I REALLY would love this.
Food: I want filet mignon and some sort of grilled chicken. Veggies/seafood can all be chosen by the future Mrs. Parfait. Alcohol will be free for guests, especially Serbian drinks.
Size: Medium-sized wedding. I suppose 200-300, which may seem large at first, but that really will be just enough to fit all of the key people in our lives.
Bride’s Dress: Something fitted so I can see Miss Parfait’s curves, but obviously I want it to be classy more than sexy. I want to see a veil and some sort of hanging part… ya know, so little girls in cute dresses can carry it off the floor. I want your hair to be up, but for you to have two pieces on each side of the head that fall in front of your face. Does this make sense? I picture it, and it is beautiful.
Groom’s Suit: Gray pin-striped suit with a white or baby blue vest and/or tie. Something to bring out my eyes and match the blue roses! 
(See a theme?) Spiky hair… 1 week old from being cut!
Bride’s Girlzz: A light blue dress… something cute and fun. I want them to be able to move and dance in it! This is important so they have a good time!
Groom’s Boyzz: A black suit with a blue tie that match one another. I think even if the suits are cut differently, they should have the same shoes.
Rings: Simple/classy wedding rings. Gunmetal would be nice… a grey color, of sorts.
I’ll share what I wrote that night, next!
Did your man have specific ideas about the wedding? Did any of them surprise you?
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wow! that’s pretty detailed! i’m impressed. and i totally know what he’s saying with the bangs. it took me a second but i got it. haha
my guy has a dream wedding actually, one we hope we get to do. he also has ideas on how he wants the feel of the day to go but he’s leaving the details up to me. i love details.
My guy insisted that I wore a white-white dress and that I wore my hair down. Ironically, ivory didn’t look very good on me so it worked. I have my first trial hair-do in a few weeks. That’s what he was dead-set on. Everything else is very negotiable. 
I’m impressed that he had that many details down! Anxious to see your responses too!
Um…mr fro yo said whatever you want is what I want. I’m not even sure he knows our colors. Way to go Mr. Parfait
BLUE LOUBOUTINS!!! You are speaking my lanugage! I love your inspiration board.
This is hilarious, I particularly liked his description of the dress train as a “hanging part.” I think my FH would laugh hysterically if I asked him to do this and then say something to the effect of, “I have no clue about any of this and I have never once thought about it, and I don’t plan to start now”….boys!
My husband didn’t even know where the reception was on the day of the wedding! He had to follow me there.
I’m so envious of brides who have fiances who have opinions! I love all of the detail and that he’s given the whole wedding a lot of thought!
I asked Mr Spin first off–”Is there anything in particular that you want at our wedding?”
He looked very blank and said, “Like what?” I was like, “A favorite cake flavor? Anything specific for dinner? A certain color you want to wear? Any types of flowers you like?” Still very blank. Ultimately he said his only requirement was that the DJ didn’t suck. lol. Ok then.
and i thought mr. ramen had opinions…. wow. i want to know how this turns out!
Wow I love this idea…Im going to have my man do this tonight. I love the responses you got! So cute!
love this! so great that he put so much thought into the details and he can really have a voice in the planning!
he wrote all of that??? seriously??? All I got out of mine was
“I dunno”
… well, do you like this?
“no”
what do you like
“… I dunno”
Wow, I love that he has a dream wedding with details.
I love that you did this! Yay for Mr. Parfait getting involved!
Um…his vision sounds divine to me!
Very specific! Can’t wait to see how his dreams compare with yours!
Mr Frenchie really wanted our wedding to have a country feel… he was adamant about using the RB Winery and kinda had to talk me into after I had found something else I loved. I’m really glad he did I loved that Mr Frenchie was so involved in our wedding vision, you’re lucky Mr Parfait is too.
oh my gosh! This is really funny. I want to go home and have the Fiance write up what he wants to see!
Wow, I love that you got such specifics out of him! I don’t think Mr. Star would have been able to come up with a color scheme!
how awesome that he has an opinion on this kinda thing. I think his idea sounds beautiful and classy. And I think it’s sweet he thought about the bridesmaid’s comfort too! lol
So nice your guy is involved! I hope my future Mr. will get more interested in the details soon :).
Wow - he is sooo involved and surprisingly informed about weddings - when ever I get engaged … I’m pretty sure this is something loverboy and I will do - he’s getting more excited about planning the wedding, too - so I think he would take to this concept - thanks for the great idea!
Totally great idea. I’ll pitch this to FI, maybe that will help us get on the same page, too.
Nice! He has great ideas
Mr. Mojito has become quite involved in our wedding process as well :-). We were in Cabo when we got engaged so we spent alot of afternoons over cocktails discussing our dream wedding
Haha, I love how specific Mr. Parfait got with some areas of his vision. And Mr. Bruschetta’s hair was about one week after a cut on our wedding day
Wow. Mr. Parfait definitely knows what he wants! Seriously, I think this was a great idea. When I asked my fiance all he said was “good food, good music (a live band), and to make sure that we have fun”. He’s better with writing (rather than verbalizing) his ideas, so maybe I should have had him write down a list like yours of what he wants out of his wedding.
Omigoodness! That is so cute! I think this is the cutest post about grooms by far. I am floored!
I was impressed by his responses, too! i knew he had strong opinions about food and music, but it was sooo fun to read all his other thoughts.
@skibobrown, flipflopbride, alishaneva, irishker03, and kylie39: heehee, i’d love to hear how this goes over with your grooms-to-be!
It’s great that your groom wants to be so involved! Your wedding will truly be a reflection of both of you
How adorable! I want to get my fiance to do this and see what he comes up with! Fantastic post, and what great fiance. You guys will have a beautiful wedding.
My fiance has been pretty involved in the planning thus far (venue, honeymoon, and photographers). His opinions surprise me because they are so random. I asked him what he thinks my wedding dress will look like and he described cap sleeves (every dress I tried on was strapless or had small straps). He also had opinions on the color scheme (nothing too girly) - but then he really loved our colors - navy and fuschia and pink is as girly as it gets.
I absolutely love shades of blue … my sisters MOH dress is the same rich sapphire color of the dress in your first inspiration board. I chose to have no bridesmaids and custom made her dress and fell in love with blue! That that became my favorite color.
P.S. I didn’t know there are blue roses!
P.P.S. How cute is that that these are your fiances notes?
wow….what a fun idea! I LOVED reading this. I just may have to steal this brainstorming idea from you to use at a later date. 
I love how he had a vision of how you should look in a wedding dress.
That’s adorable! I thought my FI was pretty involved, but wow! I should’ve had him do this!
Wow!! He is pretty specific about the things he wants, that’s so awesome. I wish I had thought to do this with my guy, because he could care less what I come up with, he’s just happy to be getting married.
Sounds like Mr. Parfait may have a calling in the wedding industry…
how impressive!! my mister was basically like, “err ok. good food. and booze. booze is important”.
What a great idea! Mmm I would totally do that if we weren’t married already, hehe. Cant wait to see what you came up with!
Whoa, that is one wedding-conscious groom! I don’t think my hubby gave a thought to what he wanted my hair or dress or decor to look like!
I’ve been faux planning our wedding for a while now (he hasn’t proposed yet), so when we do get engaged it will be crucial that I take the time to get his ideas on paper– I just know how his sheet will look: don’t care, don’t care, MUST have XYZ, MUST have ABC… he won’t have specifics on everything, but when he does it’s going to be things he’s totally committed to having!
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Wow, I’m impressed about Mr. Parfait’s opinions–he’s got a lot of great ideas. I know my husband had some pretty specific ideas about some of our plans, too. I was glad to have him involved in the process.
I love that Mr. Parfait has so many opinions! My FI also has a lot, and I like that we will be collaborating to come up with our dream day - not just one of our visions but both combined.
Such a neat idea to do this at the begining of your planning process! Also, it was fun to read about a groom’s vision.
Wow, I can’t believe Mr. Parfait had so many opinions about the wedding! Way to break that groom stereotype!
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can anyone tell me what brand is that blue shoes?
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Miss Parfait, Chicago
Age and Occupation: 26, Teacher
Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Senior Online Consultant
Engagement Date: February 14, 2009
Wedding Date: April 2010
Venue: Signature Events
About Me: I have a soft spot for all things sweet and romantic. Desserts, love songs, sappy movies? Yes, yes, and ohh yes. My fiance and I enjoy singing to our dogs, creating crazy ice cream sundaes, and generally being lovey dovey cuddle bunnies. We also do socially acceptable things like dancing, throwing Frisbees, playing high stakes board games, and taking unreasonably fun road-trips. We're planning a Korean/Serbian wedding with plenty of playful, personal touches!
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