Wedding Lasso, Arras, Biblio

In lieu of a unity candle, Mr. Beagle and I have decided to incorporate an aspect of his culture into our ceremony. In Hispanic culture, there are three traditions during the ceremony that represent the couple’s new unity.

The Lasso:

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Mr. & Mrs. Hydrangea

It is essentially a large rosary, usually beaded or made of satin, with two loops so that it can be placed around the bride and groom. The lasso forms the shape of a figure eight/infinity, which represents the couple’s unity. It is placed on the bride and groom after they say their vows and is taken off just before the end of the ceremony. A prayer and/or reading usually accompanies the lasso portion of the ceremony.

The Arras:

These are thirteen coins, which are often gold or silver plated, that are presented to the bride by the groom. Traditionally, they represent a dowry which symbolizes the groom’s commitment and promise to care for the bride; her acceptance represents a promise to take care of the groom. The number 13 represents Jesus and his twelve apostles. Each coin is also said to represent on of the following: Love, Trust, Commitment, Respect, Joy, Happiness, Harmony, Wisdom, Wholeness, Nurturing, Caring, Cooperation, and Peace. They are usually placed in some sort of container. (The top left coin shows the design on the top of each coin, which is varied through different cultures.)

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(Mrs. Petunia and Mrs. Hydrangea also posted about the Arras ceremony and Mrs. Joey posted about a similar tradition: the Arrhae.)

The Biblio:

A bible is sometimes presented to the bride and groom, which becomes their family bible. It symbolizes that their union is also with God and his love is their foundation.

Each item is usually presented by a Padrino or Madrina (Godfather or Godmother). These are people who have played an important role in either the bride’s or groom’s life. They provide support to the couple throughout their marriage.

Because this tradition is honoring Mr. Beagle’s culture, we have decided to select Padrinos/Madrinas from his side of the family. Originally we thought we would select people from both of our families, but I felt that, although my family members would be honored, his family would appreciate the role more because it is an important aspect of their culture. We are borrowing the lasso and arras from Mr. Beagle’s parents and the Madrina who will be presenting our biblio is gifting it to us (I’m actually a little excited about receiving a bible that will be our family’s!). I am going to try to find a container for the arras that we can later use in our home (and might even double as a ring holder). I’ve been looking for an excuse to get one of these…

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Paloma’s Nest

What traditions are you incorporating into your ceremony? If you are using one of the above, what readings or prayers did you use?

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Mrs. Beagle

Location:
Austin
Wedding Date:
October 2009
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    future.mrs.v 358 posts, Helper bee @ 5:44 pm

    oh, we’ll be incorporating both the lasso and the arras too! for my college graduation, my grandparents gave me the arras (and a box to keep them in) that they used during their ceremony 59 years ago. i cried. my grandma cried. my mom cried. my fmil cried. i think everybody cried, lol. anywho, i’m really excited to be using the same coins they used in their ceremony so long ago. they’ve been married 59 years and are still going strong. it makes me feel good to know we’ve got that kind of support behind us. i’ll have to ask my gradma what prayer/reading they used – maybe we can use the same one! and i’d be happy to share it with you too! :)

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    MexicanGirl 724 posts, Busy bee @ 5:47 pm

    i love you’re incorporating these traditions on your ceremony! we also did it, even when we’re not catholic, but we found lovely all these symbolisms and add them to our baptist ceremony!

    and…may i just say that it’s ‘La Biblia’ instead of ‘La Biblio’? just a little note… :)

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    Carebear0613 164 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:22 pm

    I like that tradition.

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    tea 2404 posts, Buzzing bee @ 6:33 pm

    i plan on doing a paebaek, or korean tea ceremony, and maybe the parts where the couple bows [gyobaerye] and drinks from the same cup (hapgeunrye]. the latter two maybe in place of the unity candle. not completely sure though.

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    beagle 1381 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:37 pm

    @MexicanGirl: We aren’t having a Catholic ceremony either! (& thanks for the translation correction… obviously I’m not very good with Spanish ;) )

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    espresso 1308 posts, Bumble bee @ 7:59 pm

    I love the idea of giving a family Bible- if I could go back in time- that’s definitely something I would add to our ceremony

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    Charm bracelet 1952 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:27 pm

    My cultural background is Mexican and Catholic but my fiance’s is Vietnamese, so I am not sure what we are going to incorporate.

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    Jessi, Guest @ 9:44 pm

    Although I didn’t have a Catholic mass I wanted a gospel reading in honor of my grandfather (Mathew, named after Matthew, but spelled incorrectly at his birth) who passed away before the wedding. Because it was in the Catholic church, we couldn’t have a gospel reading without 2 readings before it. So I had 2 other readings as well, that my SIL anda friend did for me. It was a great way to incorporate a friend who was quite religious (though not Catholic) and a way to incorporate my SIL. One of the readings had the phrase “a good wife is a silent wife”- which had me worried that the church would break out in laughter. My reader chose to omit it (the priest told me it was up to me), but I still always love that passage, and smile when I hear that line.

    We didn’t do any other wedding “traditions” during our ceremony- the wedding was quite long enough. The church encourages you not to do a unity candle, as they feel it takes away from the actual ceremony, and many people believe it is part of the ceremony, and the Church doesn’t think it is.

    Your traditions sound really neat, and I wish I had gotten a good family bible at the beginning of our marriage. We’ve had cause to need one, and don’t have a nice one.

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    moonbeam 1711 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:03 pm

    It’s funny how similar these are to Filipino traditions.

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    poodle 3386 posts, Sugar bee @ 2:58 am

    I think the lasso would be the one I would love to incorporate, but I’m still pretty lost when it comes to the ceremony :(

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    Sophia, Guest @ 3:03 am

    @Miss Moonbeam: It’s not really that strange, since we (I’m Filipina) were also under Spanish rule for over three centuries and absorbed many of their religious traditions, amongst other things. :)

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    beagle 1381 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:49 am

    @Sophia: @Miss Moonbeam: While I was reading about the hispanic Arras tradition, I found out many cultures actually use a coin ceremony very similar to it.

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    Rocio, Guest @ 9:58 am

    Can’t wait to read more of your wedding traditions!!! I’m using some of them too!!

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    florist.guy 11 posts, Newbee @ 11:05 am

    My wife (filipina) and I incorporated the cord and coins into our ceremony. So glad we did it!

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    msgiraffe 4248 posts, Honey bee @ 11:06 am

    I have seen all of those at a wedding It’s very neat!

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    SeiLuna 65 posts, Worker bee @ 10:51 pm

    Oh we’re definitely incorporating the arras and the lasso into our secular ceremony. Instead of a rosary, we’re just using a pearly cord and we’re having it placed around our shoulders while we say our vows.
    The arras were also something we were not planning on using, but someone from my side of the family gave it to us as their wedding gift, so we are using that instead of a unity candle.

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    An Autumn Affair: Unification | Weddingbee, Guest @ 11:15 am

    [...] lieu of the traditional unity candle, we decided incorporate a Hispanic unity ceremony. My MIL read a brief explanation, while our Padrino/as performed each part of the [...]

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