Wedding Blog

Today is our 2 year wedding anniversary. I can’t believe it’s been 2 years already!

Marriage used to scare me… and it STILL scares me! In my fickle, free-spirited lifestyle, marriage is the most serious thing I’ve ever committed to. Of course, some things about our marriage aren’t what I had pictured —I don’t cook every night (or cook EVER), our place is a mess most of the time, and we act more like college buddies than anything else. But one thing is for sure—I married my best friend. We are total goofs together and can just talk for hours about ANYTHING.

Sometimes when I see him rubbing his belly and watching his music YouTube clips, I can’t help but to smile and think how crazy I am about this guy. Or sometimes when he’s talking to me and he has chocolate all over the corners of his mouth, I just want to squeeze him and tell him how much I love him.

Marriage is more than just loving someone… it’s really committing to them and their families, their history, their quirks, their past traumas, their preferences, their strengths and weaknesses. All those things make them who they are. Another thing I learned from my two years of marriage is that no matter how much you think you know someone, you never stop learning about who they are. People are so complex and constantly changing! But in its entirety, it’s such a beautiful thing.

Our pastor recently did a sermon on marriage and pulled this poem for the bulletin, and I remembered that he had given it to us during our pre-marital counseling. I think it’s a very romantic and realistic view of marriage!

How hard it is for me, who live
in the excitement of women
and have the desire for them
in my mouth like salt. Yet
you have taken me and quieted me.
You have been such light to me
that other women have been
your shadows. You come near me
with the nearness of sleep.
And yet I am not quiet.
It is to be broken. It is to be
torn open. It is not to be
reached and come to rest in
ever. I turn against you.
I break from you, I turn to you.
We hurt, and are hurt,
and have each other for healing.
It is healing. It is never whole.

Wendell Berry, “Marriage”

Some recap pictures:

I love the facial expressions in these!

Mrs. Caramel gettin’ down

Mr. Caramel gettin’ down

… to many more years to come!