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What is the defining personality trait you thought your future spouse would possess? Does your actual spouse/fiance possess it?

Mrs. Mouse - I always thought I would marry someone who shared my love for literature. In the 5 and 1/2 years I’ve known the Dude, he has read maybe one book cover to cover. He’s more of an engineer/science type, while I’m liberal arts all the way. The good thing is, we always have a lot of things to explain to each other!

Mrs. Peep Toe - Honestly, I have no idea who I thought I’d marry. Maybe someone athletic who loves the ocean. Instead I got a self proclaimed geek, who grew up in the desert and loves movies and music. That said, Mr. Peep thought he’d marry someone much more artsy and creative. Needless to say, Mr. Peep hates all my music and only goes into the ocean under protest. Again, I think our differences are what make us a much more interesting couple.

Miss Lamb - I would say one of the things that I was really looking for was loyalty. But not just loyalty to me. The loyalty would be characteristic of the person’s faith and family/friend relations. My lamb lover is very loyal. He’s Lamboyal. I think our loyalty saw us through many difficult times when we were seperated by oceans, miles, and no communications. I believe it will help to see us through the rest of our lives as well!

Miss Star - I always knew that I wanted someone compassionate, loving, and who would be as committed to me as I am to him. Mr. Star is all that and more!

Mrs. Crab Cake - I’m not exactly sure what kind of person I thought I would marry. That’s a hard thing to describe. I joke with Mr. CC all the time that we would not have gotten along if we’d have gone to high school together. He was such a dork (but he was still cute). His dorkiness is still a big part of who he is, I just think he’s more comfortable in his own skin now. I wonder if he thinks I was a big dork in high school (I was… band nerd all the way!).

Mrs. Mary Jane - I always thought I’d marry someone who was really in to classic cars, “oldies” music and the style of the late ’60s. My mom thought this was silly - she always said I’d be best with a ” computer nerd”.

After a few relationship train wrecks with guys who fell at least somewhat in to my requirements/standards, I finally ended up with Mr. Mary Jane. He thinks classic cars are smelly, most old rock ‘n roll has too many guitar solos, and ’60s/’70s stuff is dated (and also, often smelly). And guess what: he’s a “computer nerd”. Lesson learned: moms are always right. (And nerds are sexy!)

Mrs. French Bulldog - I always thought I’d end up with someone who was funny, got along with everyone and loved movies as much as me. While Mr Frenchie is funny, his humor is much more subtle than I imagined. Mr Frenchie is also more of an introvert than I am. I do well with all the attention and he doesn’t and it works out well. I never thought I’d end up with “an old soul” but I can see now how wrong I was about what I thought I needed. Oh, and Mr Frenchie hates going to the movie theater, hahaha.

Mrs. Snow Pea - Humor! I’m a really serious person and I wanted someone who could shake up my life daily. Mr. Snow Pea is just that! He’s such a joker and makes me laugh every day!

Mrs. Cupcake - A sense of humor has always been incredibly important to me in relationships; Mr. C makes me laugh constantly, and we help each other find humor in even the most serious situations. Fights never last long in our house because we always end up laughing it off. I can’t imagine being with someone who takes life too seriously and doesn’t laugh enough. I definitely found myself a funny man.

Of course, humor is nothing without honesty, loyalty, and compassion, but I lucked out and got all of those in Mr. C. Oh, and I could never be with a man who doesn’t love The Beatles. Nope — just not possible.

Mrs. Penguin - I always wanted whoever I’d marry to be able to get along with everyone. Confrontation makes me extremely uncomfortable, and I do consider one of my weakest traits to be that I have a hard time getting along with people if I find some trait that I don’t like about them. I don’t think I could live with someone that was extremely opinionated about my friends and family, and I was definitely blessed with a husband that can get along with everyone. While he doesn’t like everyone, you’d never know that. Funny enough, my best friend Emily also possesses this trait, and it’s something I’ve always admired of her. She is able to treat everyone she knows, whether she likes them or not, with respect. It would be hard for you to tell who she actually likes and who she doesn’t, and my husband is very much the same. (On that same note, luckily for both of them, they are so easy going that they truly do like most people they meet!)

Miss Poodle - Most Chileans tend to not like woman that are independent, work or study more than they do, so I always knew I wanted a man who encouraged my achievements and would push me to reach my goals. I always knew that I needed someone supportive; I also knew I wanted someone that would share my sense of humor, or at least someone that would get it. Mr. Poodle not only hits all the points that were very important to me, but he knows how to make me smile when I’m having a bad day with just a few words. Isn’t that a great skill?

Mrs. Cherry Pie - I thought I would marry someone who was as much of a dreamer & idealist as I am. I dated someone like that for a while, and while we connected on a different level much more intimately than I can with Mr. CP, we also dragged each other down into depressive musings that ultimately isolated us from everyone else. Mr. CP is very much a sentimental idealist, but much more practical and down-to-earth than the type of person I thought I would end up with. As a result, I think we balance each other out much more easily, and can live in greater harmony with ourselves and others.

Mrs. Swan - Despite all of our differences, I actually think I married someone with many of the personality traits that jive with me. Mr. Swan is very focused, slightly Type A, hardworking, very generous, kind, open to new things and patient with me. He’s smart, yet he knows how to have fun and we can talk about anything. I feel very lucky.

Mrs. Bee - The defining trait that I knew my future husband had to possess is intelligence.  I’m obsessed with super smartness, and Mr. Bee is definitely one of the smartest people I’ve ever met!

Miss Parfait - I always wanted someone who was close to his family.  My family laughs together, cries together, and has way too much family pride!  I wanted someone who, like me, called his parents and siblings his best friends.  I love how close Mr. Parfait is to his family; and it gives me great comfort (and excitement!) to know we’ll naturally create that closeness in our future family!

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What about you? Was there a personality trait you always thought your future spouse would possess? Does he/she actually have it?